tink_10050 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Wow, I'm in the midst of a boy toy situation and it hardly seems real. Anyone else up for sharing a bit. I can't bring myself to say how much older I am than him.... He chased after me for 14 months before I gave in. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH, please indulge me and tell me the age difference. Sounds like fun! I've dated plenty of younger men before I got married this last time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tink_10050 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 I can hardly type it 27 years 1 Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Tell more pleeese Link to post Share on other sites
Author tink_10050 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 Were you able to keep from getting attached? Were they able to keep from getting attached. I'm dating men my own age trying to find one who interests me and it doesn't seem to be holding me back. Although we have only done it twice now. He seems way more experienced than I am. The older chick is supposed to be teaching but he knows a lot! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 This should be fun. I'm assuming you're both at your peaks ....get ready for some serious fireworks! (Actually it sounds like you already know. So naughty. ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author tink_10050 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 At first I just kept saying no and he kept showing up at my house, when no one was home. I said my children would hate me. The girls who are his peers would hate me. I told him there are no secrets and that we should just hang out (do it if we want) and not sneak around. I wasn't very nice to him. He says we have to keep it secret and that the age gap is too big for us to date. He doesn't want that for me or for himself. I finally agreed to do it and he f changed his mind!! We had to run an errand together whether we liked it or not. The guy at the counter hit on me while BT went back to the car. When he came back in the guy asked BT if I was his girlfriend LOL. I didn't say a word!!! and neither did BT. I took him back to his place and he asked me if I was going to come in. Yes, we did it and it was the best thing that has happened to me since my last break up. So after all my not wanting it to be a secret. My saying I don't want it, I changed my mind. BT then decided that he couldn't do it because it has to be secret, no feelings, no flirting around other people. So guess what.... it took me one week and I folded, big time!!!! Lol I'm ridiculously whipped... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) Damnit I'm beating myself over the head for not having an experience like this. GF told me last night she does not want to turn 30. I told her I wouldn't complain if she were at least 10 years older for a couple nights... Or 15 years... Ok like 20 years! She didn't take offense or feel insecure for the comment btw. Anyway, I think people were expecting jucier details than that Tink. I know I wanna hear much more. Edited July 20, 2015 by S_A 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tink_10050 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 I'm not sure how much I can say without getting bumped. Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Ok well, what made you turn him down for 14 months? That also makes him much younger assuming he is early 20's (well, he would have been a good deal younger had you said "yes" in the first place). And to be honest, 14 months of rejecting is A LOT of rejecting. So I'm guessing they were never firm rejections because you enjoyed being pursued? Maybe you thought that you'd eventually give in? Link to post Share on other sites
Author tink_10050 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 Yes, he is 24. At first I didn't notice. I never thought he was remotely interested until I made a joke to a friend about him inviting me in to his apartment. She figured it out real quick and gave me a lecture. Even then I never thought it was real. Of course I enjoyed it who wouldn't. He is a really smart man, ripped, handsome, speaks several languages. I get hit on a lot in general and I just joke it off. In this case he just wouldn't quit. My unending was when I hugged him and it turned into an innocent kiss. He did things to get my attention and make my jaw drop. So he totally knew that he was a turn on for me. Face it, I didn't have a chance, but I did give a valiant try rejecting him. I'm sure that now he has had me he will move on to something new. Such is life. He has very clear guide lines about our arrangement, although he has lightened up a little bit on the rules. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tink_10050 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 By the way.. This itch is not scratched, it's way worse now then it was before... Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 You can totally turn this around on him and make him your boy-toy in the truest sense you know. No need to hang on his whims ....unless that's part of what gets you off. Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit_1 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Yes, he is 24. At first I didn't notice. I never thought he was remotely interested until I made a joke to a friend about him inviting me in to his apartment. She figured it out real quick and gave me a lecture. Even then I never thought it was real. Of course I enjoyed it who wouldn't. He is a really smart man, ripped, handsome, speaks several languages. I get hit on a lot in general and I just joke it off. In this case he just wouldn't quit. My unending was when I hugged him and it turned into an innocent kiss. He did things to get my attention and make my jaw drop. So he totally knew that he was a turn on for me. Face it, I didn't have a chance, but I did give a valiant try rejecting him. I'm sure that now he has had me he will move on to something new. Such is life. He has very clear guide lines about our arrangement, although he has lightened up a little bit on the rules. ...omg I'm so jealous. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Not going to lie, I regret not having fun with an older woman when I was 24. I like how you said that you weren't in a teacher role with him. That's good. I never fantasized about older women because I wanted to be "taught", which is part of the kink for a lot of younger guys that like older women I think. *sigh* Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 ...omg I'm so jealous. You and me both lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) Seems like I had an awful lot of boy toys in my 20s and 30s, but the age gap wasn't nearly that big (and yes they were all legal). I only had one I was really interested in and kind of loved. I thought they were the most useful for like escorts after a breakup (I was always needing to go out the same places any exes were), not really so much for much else. But it is annoying if you start really liking one because they are not going to take you seriously for a gf. The one I liked a lot, i honestly think he loved me as we remained kissing buddies for well over a decade and he wrote songs about me, but he just wasn't that impractical. He knew he'd want a family and all that (I didn't even want kids to begin with). So it was annoying at times being his side dish, and it was mostly making out and rarely ever full on sex because he was trying to hold that line for his real girlfriend, the one close to his same age. When we first met, he was still with his high school girlfriend and had been together some years, and usually you outgrow those, and he did. And I had thought maybe when they grew apart, he'd come in closer, but he just went and got a different girlfriend and my status didn't change. Of course, I wasn't waiting around for him. I was seeing other guys regularly. What really ruined things was the young adults in the '80s grew up with the threat of AIDS and herpes, that being the first generation of that, so they had it pumped into them to abstain (being that part of the country that will teach that rather than birth control), so me and my friends called them "the Bad Batch" because they were no fun but would just hang on and torment you to death if you let them. It was the end of an era. Edited July 20, 2015 by preraph Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 You and me both lol Ok jus so we're clear, I'm "jealous" of the guy, not Tink. In other words, I am NOT jealous because I'm not banging a 24 year old dude. Was too late to edit the post. Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit_1 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Ok jus so we're clear, I'm "jealous" of the guy, not Tink. In other words, I am NOT jealous because I'm not banging a 24 year old dude. Was too late to edit the post. ...you sure? (JK) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I've had a MILF fetish since I was a little boy. When I was 30 I dated a 43 and a 46 yr old. I slept with the 43 yr old. It was good. I've gotten hit on by many more and still do, particularly on dating sites. Self control is so hard. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit_1 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I've had a MILF fetish since I was a little boy. When I was 30 I dated a 43 and a 46 yr old. I slept with the 43 yr old. It was good. I've gotten hit on by many more and still do, particularly on dating sites. Self control is so hard. You stud. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tink_10050 Posted July 22, 2015 Author Share Posted July 22, 2015 I do need to turn this around on him. Somehow he was always chasing me and now he has me chasing after him. How do I do that? I'm backing off and waiting for him to come to me. Then there is the question of why doesn't he just have sex with a peer? Then the other side of the coin is that I'm crazy about him and I don't want him to miss out on girls and opportunities with his peers. I think it's easy to forget that he really is young and I don't want him to get hurt. Then again, he is so smart it's intimidating, maybe he knows exactly what he is doing. For me, Idk if for him, the sexual tension is so high. Keeping it a secret makes it even more so. Now I miss him damn it! Link to post Share on other sites
flordagirl Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 I'm sure that now he has had me he will move on to something new. Such is life. He has very clear guide lines about our arrangement, although he has lightened up a little bit on the rules. Have you fallen in love with him? Hopefully not Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 He has made it clear that he wants this to be a no strings attached, secret, sex only arrangement and you are talking about him as though you are a giddy school girl. I don't think he's the one at risk for being hurt here, I think you are. I see no problem with the arrangement as long as nobody gets emotionally invested but it seem like you already are. Link to post Share on other sites
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