elaine567 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 He's not stickin it into anything....he drifted away emotionally because he wasn't getting what he needed at home. May be he should have spent some time with his 19 month old instead of leaving everything to his wife to struggle with, whilst he was the life and soul at work and having a cutesy time with his co worker. Then turning into Mr Grumpy at home and now he is just so hard done by and is now drinking himself silly. Very adult... Speaking of neglect, it is 6 long years since the OP was out and about by herself... Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 Nah he's prob drinking again.....feeling guilty or covering his ass. Yes, and someone is holding a gun to his head and forcing him to go down that road. That 'someone', according to you, would be his wife. He's an idiot. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 Ask your H what you two need to do to reconnect. Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 Nah he's prob drinking again.....feeling guilty or covering his ass. He was at work at the time and he coulndt have been drunk. And why the sudden guilt? He hadnt spoken or seen her for one day and through the night and suddenly this sweet message? For me it's suspicious. Other than that, I do understand him, I don't justify him but I do understand him, like I understand the OP. With 9 kids growing up you lose yourself, you become the mom and dad and not the man and woman or couple anymore. The every day needs have to be met and emotions start to become a last priority sometimes. I am sure both these people have tried to be emotionally connected with each other but it's not easy under these circumstances. I find it only natural that the man created an emotional connection with another woman who was available, not cause he doesn't love his wife but because he was turned down sometimes by her cause she was busy with her kids. We can't become the judges and say, this is wrong or this is right, either way in psychology there is no wrong and right, there are only feelings. This woman needs to find a way to reconnect with her husband, find out his needs and try to fulfil them the best way she can. She should also tell him her own needs and ask for them to be fulfiled as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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