RobsCharger Posted July 23, 2015 Share Posted July 23, 2015 Six years ago I met a woman on a chat site who was going through a very tough time in her life. She was in an incredibly abusive marriage. We talked daily, I tried to be supportive and understanding, helping her as I could. The emails became texts, the texts phone calls. We finally met and fell in love. We began seeing each other regularly, spending time together as we could. Eventually I found an apt suitable for both of us in order to give her a safe place to live. We planned on her divorcing the abuser and getting married. Only problem is, she wouldn't leave him no matter what he did. Our relationship ended for the most part when she decided to stop seeing me and return to her abuser. Since then I've tried to stay supportive and help her in any way I could. I've recently found out her abuser is now offering her to other men on more than one sex site, she claims this is done with her blessing. I can't begin to tell you how heart breaking this entire situation has been for me. I suffer greatly knowing someone I love is now doing what she is. It's been very tough but I have stopped all contact and tried to move on with my life with someone else but I have to admit I still love this lady and miss her very much. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted July 23, 2015 Share Posted July 23, 2015 I'm really sorry that this has happened to you when you were trying to help and genuinely fell in love with the woman. Sometimes people just end up in abusive relationships and then struggle to get out, but some seem to need the person so much they will tolerate anything. I hate to say it, but some seem to need the drama of the situation. You cannot overcome a person's deep-seated needs. It's just an awful shame that she led you into thinking you could help her out of this. She obviously didn't want to leave it, just needed someone else to turn to and spend time with sometimes. I think you are doing the right thing by moving on. There is nothing to be gained by hankering after this woman. She is likely to go back to this guy even if she does leave him. She has her own needs and they are probably complex and beyond her understanding too. Good luck with finding someone who will love you back and not drag you into their mixed up life. Link to post Share on other sites
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