Her ex has been giving her money and lots of it

[James]

Okay, I have a problem of trusting a girl I've been going out with for five weeks.

 

The first week that I met her it got me a little suspicious, but I couldn't doubt her since I didn't know her enough. The first incident was that she was out after work and when I called her on her cell she said that she was very busy and she'd call me back in 15 minutes. Later after an hour I called her back. At that point I heard a guy's voice in the background and then she hung up. A little bit later she called back and said sorry and that she was out at an office party.

 

A couple of days later I was supposed to meet her for dinner and suddenly she said that she couldn't go since she had to go out with the boss and "other employees" for dinner. That was strange especially on a Friday night with just a couple of hours notice beforehand. I had later called her around 10pm and she said that she was in a hotel lounge. A bit strange, but she was back home by 11:30pm..

 

After that initial week things got better and she was with me a lot. Occassionally strange things would happen, such as someone phoned her and she would later say that it was her sister...The thing was on her caller ID it wasn't her sister, but some guy's name...who calls her a lot...I later called that cell number and some much older guy answered. Oh.

 

Then last week she was over and I had been wary of her since of the strange occurences before. When she was sleeping I had looked in her bag and found about $2,100 in an envelope. I couldn't believe it and thought this must be from some man, although I wasn't sure. She doesn't make much money at all and knew that carrying such cash is unreasonable, and since her family is not rich by any stretch of the imagination.

 

I couldn't say anything that night and just kept it inside. The next work day she said that she was coming home after work at about 7pm but didn't arrive until 11pm. I called her on her cell and it wasn't working. I had thoughts running through my mind. I thought that she would later say that she went out for dinner with the boss and "others" and her cell battery was low. Later when we spoke she said that exactly...I couldn't believe her.

 

The next day I asked her why she can do so much shopping and she said that her mother helps her out. I was trying to find out about this cash that she had in her bag....I wanted to get to the truth...That night she stayed in my place again. I checked her bag and the envelope was now hiding on the bottom of her bag and the amount was down to $1,700. (she went shopping the day before I know). When I saw that money I took it out of the envelope and put in her wallet to let her know that I knew about it...well...

 

She called me later and said that she would tell me the truth. She told me that her ex-boyfriend who is very rich has been giving her money every month since their break up 2 years before. (He apparently is living in Australia and comes back once a month, but they don't meet--only talk on the phone).

 

That money was being carried in her bag in an envelope which is odd...she said that she took it out of the bank....But why would someone take out that much rather than withdrawing it from time to time?.. Apparently this month the amount is more because of her birthday...But how could I believe this story? I couldn't...I felt that my worst nightmare of the relationsip had come true like some man getting sex for money.

 

I asked her if her family and her sister knows about this money from her supposely ex-boyfriend..She said they do. Well, I said then her sister should let me know about it from her since I don't know what to believe. After a few days of saying yes and no she finally agreed. So, in a couple of days her sister is going to let me know that this money is from her ex....She wants to make sure that all of this is cleared up... But isn't this so strange?

 

Even though that it might be possible that her ex is giving her money...she did lie about some man calling her from time to time and saying it was her sister that called...that keeps me a bit wary.

 

But I have to say that this girl says that she doesn't want any more money from her ex any more since now that she's working and she wants to do right by me. She goes on that she cares about me and doens't want me to worry....but

 

Help please! Thanks.

[Laurynn]

Hate to say it, but either this girl is dealing drugs or she's an escort (nicer word for call-girl, hooker).

 

The guy who calls often (whose names shows up on her caller ID/who she lies and says is her sister)....maybe he's a customer (drugs)...maybe he's the guy she gets her drugs FROM, or maybe he's her pimp...or maybe he's just some older horny guy who calls for sex a lot.

 

If you've only been together for 5 weeks, and she's lying from the start, move on and find someone else. If she's selling drugs, you don't want anything to do with her......cuz if she gets busted, and you're her boyfriend, you'll have a great time trying to explain that you know nothing about it.

 

Now if she's an escort, for health reasons you don't want to have anything to do with her.

 

She's obviously got some major secrets.......

 

Don't walk away from this girl, RUN.

 

Laurynn

[Miss Mojo]

Hate to say it, but either this girl is dealing drugs or she's an escort (nicer word for call-girl,hooker).

 

that was exactly what popped into my mind too...huge sums of money....envelope....not taking it out in small instalments from the bank...strange phone calls (and lying about them)....staying out late.....

 

no ex-boyfriend with half a brain would send his ex-girlfriend money, unless he was paying back money he borrowed, or unless he was supporting a child. so where is it really coming from??

 

this is one very dodgy situation. continue this relationship, and you will be in waaaay over your head and may even get yourself into trouble.

 

i would leave now while the relationship is still very young. this whole situation does not sit right with me at all.