gut punch to loving marriage

[chambers1517]

You guys are awesome. Today I slept all day since I worked last night. I had to take a sleeping pill. Woke up about 5 and she had cooked spagetti. She normally doesn't cook. I went to the boys room and Hu g out for a little bit. Went and got ready for work and she said I was disappointing the kids by working my off days. I said their disappointment has not begun yet and it is her fault not mine. She was setting outside as I was leaving and I sat down and asked if she was ready to tell everything. She said she did and it didn't matter anyhow since I was done. I said your right and left. I can basically work every day if I want. 12 hour shifts. I think I will for a while. She asked why I was working and I said I am going to need some extra money.

[maaz3231]

I hate to say this, but the odds are she did not have sex with him just one time. Most the time, little by little is revealed at different times. I'm not sure how often the whole truth comes out. Just hang in there and demand to know everything. Let her know that there is no way forward if she cannot reveal the entire truth. If she sticks with what she has already told you, you have to make a decision as to whether you believe it or not and go forward from there. Good luck.

[BetrayedH]

You have a partner for all things in life that has no problem lying straight to your face for four years, even in light of your forgiveness for her cheating. Oh, and she f*cked some other guy - lord knows how many times. She sure doesn't respect you enough to tell you what you deserve to know.

 

I think you can find a better partner.

[No Limit]

One time? In the car maybe, but that's not the only place it happened and not just once. What a poor lie. Yeah, I think it would be best for you to collect some money for a good attorney instead of wasting your time with a woman who chases other men from her own accord and refuses to see her part in it.

[happyman64]

Chambers

 

 

Do you love your wife?

 

 

Have the past 4 years been better since she the end of the affair?

 

 

If yes then hold up on the divorce for a few months.

 

 

Instead go home and sit her down.

 

 

Ask her if she loves you?

Ask her if she wants the marriage to continue?

 

 

Then lay out a plan of what she needs to do for you to even consider Reconciliation.

 

 

A. Individual Counseling for her.

B. Boundaries in your marriage that you both agree to.

C. A lie detector test to verify the truth.

D. An STD test.

 

 

Those are some suggestions. You can Divorce her anytime but why not hold her accountable for her bad decisions.

 

 

If she truly loves you she will agree to the conditions.

 

 

Now put her to the test.

 

 

HM

[jbrent890]

If I was a betting man, I would say that during that separation of yours, she tried to pursue something more with the AP. He didn't want it, so thats why she asked you for another chance. Make no mistake, your Plan B in this. She didn't come to her senses and say she wanted the marriage back. No, she was dumped. And as everyone else is saying, it was not only one time. Heck, I can only imagine the amount of times they must have done it when you guys were separated. I'm sorry bro. But I know waywards like your wife. You will never get the full truth from her. There are some waywards that don't have it in them to be honest, even when the jig is up. Her "since your not staying, I don't have to tell you" response is all you need. However, she is right about one thing. It is not fair that your sons get deprived of a father because of your wife. I understand you don't want to be around her, but you have an obligation to those boys. Right now, you need to focus on you and them. If you have free time, then spend it with your sons.