danmillar Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 One of your male friends picks up other women in front of you, if you are romantically interested but have not dated? By "pickup" I mean either getting a phone number, making out with another woman, or leaving with that woman.
Meloetta Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 We both display romantic interests in each other? Well then, it must mean that the interests weren't going to become anything. There was no commitment made and so it's just best to forget about what could have been and move on. Missed that trainwreck. 2
GemmaUK Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 If we had both expressed romantic interest I would be relieved I didn't get involved as his actions aren't matching his words. If I were interested and didn't previously know if he was I would assume he wasn't interested as his actions aren't showing it. Either way I would leave him to do whatever he wants as it's obvious we're just friends and nothing more. 3
elaine567 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 If a guy who expressed romantic interest in me and it was an ongoing attraction, picked up another women in front of me. I would think He was never that interested in me in the first place, if his allegiance to me is so tenuous.He is not very respectful towards women or his so called "friends", so I dodged a bullet there.He is a bit desperate, apparently any women will do.He is a complete tactless jerk.He is playing games - pass. 4
toml Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Im sorry that must be an awful feeling OP. The guy you like is getting girls numbers in front of you. I dont know if he is doing anything wrong cos i dont know if he has told you he likes you too but maybe he feels you arent interested. If he told you he likes you and then did this its obvious he aint that interested and he is disrespectful and unclassy
PrettyEmily77 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 So a girl has made it clear she's interested and the dude hasn't addressed it or pretends he hasn't noticed and pulls girls in front of her? I'd find it callous, TBH. If the dude doesn't know, she'll end up distancing herself from him at some point, or settle for 'friendshp'.
anduina Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I would feel relieved that the mystery was over, that he's disinterested and it's time to consider other options. 4
mrldii Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 OP, this is one of the dangers women face when insisting on being "friends, first" when dating men. Some of the men take us at our word. That's why, personally, I don't mix the two. I don't "date" to find friends; I "date" to find a person I'd like to be involved with romantically over the long-haul. Of course, that person I choose to become exclusively romantically hooked-up with IS going to be a close, close, close friend...probably even my best friend... but I don't "date" to round up a posse of friends from which to choose that BEST one. You wanted to be friends...so, be his friend and wish him well on his dates with other women. 1
elaine567 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I guess, Dan is the man who is choosing to approach other women in front of women friends who have expressed their interest in him or he has expressed interest in them.
mrldii Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I guess, Dan is the man who is choosing to approach other women in front of women friends who have expressed their interest in him or he has expressed interest in them. Did I completely misread/misunderstand the original post?!? When I read it, I got that OP is a "she" who is friends with a guy that she is romantically interested in, but has not yet told him so and is waiting for their "friendship" to grow into mutual love. If the OP is as you've understood it, then... ...OP Dan, it's called "a wingman" for a reason.
loveflower Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 If a guy who expressed romantic interest in me and it was an ongoing attraction, picked up another women in front of me. I would think He was never that interested in me in the first place, if his allegiance to me is so tenuous.He is not very respectful towards women or his so called "friends", so I dodged a bullet there.He is a bit desperate, apparently any women will do.He is a complete tactless jerk.He is playing games - pass. so well said! I once had a male friend who I thought he was interested in me, for example, he wanted to hug me when a few friends watched movie together and I happened to sit besides him. yes, I dodged the hug. then later he asked me to introduced my friend to him whom I think he saw often in my facebook. The girl was very pretty on FB (but she ps every photos) maybe he fits into every bullets in your list? 1
minimariah Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 i'd take that as a hint that he isn't interested in me & i'd move on. 3
RoseVille Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 If a guy who expressed romantic interest in me and it was an ongoing attraction, picked up another women in front of me. I would think He was never that interested in me in the first place, if his allegiance to me is so tenuous.He is not very respectful towards women or his so called "friends", so I dodged a bullet there.He is a bit desperate, apparently any women will do.He is a complete tactless jerk.He is playing games - pass. If we had both expressed romantic interest I would be relieved I didn't get involved as his actions aren't matching his words. If I were interested and didn't previously know if he was I would assume he wasn't interested as his actions aren't showing it. Either way I would leave him to do whatever he wants as it's obvious we're just friends and nothing more. I would feel relieved that the mystery was over, that he's disinterested and it's time to consider other options. Yup, each of these. It's happened to me before. I didn't like it, but his message was pretty clear! 1
stillafool Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Did I completely misread/misunderstand the original post?!? When I read it, I got that OP is a "she" who is friends with a guy that she is romantically interested in, but has not yet told him so and is waiting for their "friendship" to grow into mutual love. If the OP is as you've understood it, then... ...OP Dan, it's called "a wingman" for a reason. By the OPs name I think he is the guy who did this to a female friend. If this is true OP, you won't have to worry about her anymore as she now knows where you stand.
mrldii Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 By the OPs name I think he is the guy who did this to a female friend. If this is true OP, you won't have to worry about her anymore as she now knows where you stand. Yeah...I stumbled across another one of OP's threads. There seems to be a recurring theme and I completely misunderstood the OP's intent. Back in the day, women who did this sort of thing to men were called "pr*ckteasers"; I don't know what the male equivalent to that phrase was/is.
casey.lives Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I don't play pretend friends when i like someone .. i date them or i don't. 3
preraph Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I'd just feel like he wasn't the least bit interested in me or he wouldn't be doing that in front of me. There's no mutual interest there. 1
RedRobin Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 If he were a guy I'd expressed an interest in romantically, and he did something like that, I'd consider him to be a spineless, passive aggressive ass for not having the cahones to tell me directly that the interest wasn't reciprocated... Then I'd cut all ties... And probably talk him down to anyone who asked. 3
autumnnight Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 One of your male friends picks up other women in front of you, if you are romantically interested but have not dated? By "pickup" I mean either getting a phone number, making out with another woman, or leaving with that woman. I'm confused. I read this to mean if I was interested but he wasn't? In that case I really have no right to get in a wad. 2
Gloria25 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 I'm confused. I read this to mean if I was interested but he wasn't? In that case I really have no right to get in a wad. Agreed...^^ If he didn't express romantic interest in me, who cares if he got some other chick's number in front of me. I mean, yea, it would suck cuz I'd realize that I didn't have a chance - but it wouldn't suck as bad if he never expressed romantic interest in me. Now, if he's flirting with me then I see him getting "girls" (plural? really? boy, this guy is a jerk) numbers? I'd think he's a loser, a dog, and thank God I dodged that bullet. This actually happened to me once in the club - years ago...dude came and chatted to me, I turned him down, and throughout the night I saw him trying to hit on several girls...didn't bother me a bit and reaffirmed my decision to turn him down...sometimes you can just get a bad "vibe" from a guy. I need to trust my gut more when I get this feeling...I really do.
No Limit Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 We both display romantic interests in each other? Well then, it must mean that the interests weren't going to become anything. There was no commitment made and so it's just best to forget about what could have been and move on. Missed that trainwreck. This, pretty much. I was kinda disappointed at first but then just pushed him into the friendzone and everything returned to normal again.
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