Marvel23 Posted July 25, 2015 Share Posted July 25, 2015 Hi, I am a newly married women, I caught my husband's profile on a website where people share there gfs nd wife's nude pics and comment on them. This happened when he gave me his phone to use he forgot to delete his email account, i was checking my phone and i found registration emails from the site this happened when we were preparing for our marriage when i asked him he said he doesn't know about that site, i forgot about it and got married to him in November when we started living together one night he was out with friends and came drunk i checked his phone and found that he was posting my nude pics online i woke him up and asked him what is all this he started shouting on me i said i will be informing his parents about this he said do that and in his defence he said my phone got hacked I didn't post those pics( like seriously man such a ****ing liar) I didn't speak to him after that and next day he said sorry, I forgot but didn't forgive him. After few days i checked his email and found that he is emailing some guy showing my pics and saying i want to see my wife having sex with other man infront of me or even a girl, i was shattered and shocked thinking after all that happened he still has guts to do something like this when i asked him he started saying i was just saying I didn't mean it, he was pissed (pissed of what me being good to him) i asked him to write on a paper why he did that what if he will do it again he did that i still have that paper. He did mention this to me before marriage that he wants to post both of our intimate pics without faces which i refused he told me that he has this weird "fantasy" but I didn't know that he would do it and just post my pics. I'm still with this man whom i love and hate so much, I don't know if I should leave him coz he seems not very keen on sex, but he cares for me and says he loves me I don't even think i can believe him or trust him anymore. I want all you women to not trust your naked pics with anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
fireflywy Posted July 25, 2015 Share Posted July 25, 2015 Hate to say it, but if he is violating you like this when you clearly said no way, then regardless of how many times he says "I love you" his actions are a betrayal. I'd get out now while you can. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted July 25, 2015 Share Posted July 25, 2015 Hi, I am a newly married women, I caught my husband's profile on a website where people share there gfs nd wife's nude pics and comment on them. This happened when he gave me his phone to use he forgot to delete his email account, i was checking my phone and i found registration emails from the site this happened when we were preparing for our marriage when i asked him he said he doesn't know about that site, i forgot about it and got married to him in November when we started living together one night he was out with friends and came drunk i checked his phone and found that he was posting my nude pics online i woke him up and asked him what is all this he started shouting on me i said i will be informing his parents about this he said do that and in his defence he said my phone got hacked I didn't post those pics( like seriously man such a ****ing liar) I didn't speak to him after that and next day he said sorry, I forgot but didn't forgive him. After few days i checked his email and found that he is emailing some guy showing my pics and saying i want to see my wife having sex with other man infront of me or even a girl, i was shattered and shocked thinking after all that happened he still has guts to do something like this when i asked him he started saying i was just saying I didn't mean it, he was pissed (pissed of what me being good to him) i asked him to write on a paper why he did that what if he will do it again he did that i still have that paper. He did mention this to me before marriage that he wants to post both of our intimate pics without faces which i refused he told me that he has this weird "fantasy" but I didn't know that he would do it and just post my pics. I'm still with this man whom i love and hate so much, I don't know if I should leave him coz he seems not very keen on sex, but he cares for me and says he loves me I don't even think i can believe him or trust him anymore. I want all you women to not trust your naked pics with anyone. Marvel23, You need to leave him. Not only has he violated you, he is breaking the law. His sexual "fantasy" are dangerous to you. This will escalate until, you are forced to do something. Also, have you checked your bedroom? Is he videoing you and he having sex? Look, no relationship is worth this, you are much better then this. Leave, kick him out, and make sure you keep records. Report him to the police, and you will need to get with a service that will "try" and get your pictures off the internet. Please take action. I genuinely fear for your safety. I wish you luck. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted July 25, 2015 Share Posted July 25, 2015 You need to leave him. Not only has he violated you, he is breaking the law. His sexual "fantasy" are dangerous to you. This will escalate until, you are forced to do something. Also, have you checked your bedroom? Is he videoing you and he having sex? Totally concur. I would file for divorce immediately - without even a second doubt. I am so sorry you are going through this! 8 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted July 25, 2015 Share Posted July 25, 2015 UBefore all the "buts" start... This is not about a husband taking pics of his wife for his own enjoyment. This is a man who shared them with OTHER MEN AND LIED REPEATEDLY. There is no rational planet on which this is OK. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 What he did is completely disrespectful towards you and a huge violation. You have every right to angry. If my partner were to completely disregard my wishes, I'd dump him. In saying this I have a completely different view on nudity and view the human form as completely natural and I really believe that once you throw off your clothes and accept your body, you become a much happier and healthier person. I enjoy a naked lifestyle as often as I can, many of my friends are nudists too and there are many naked photos of me around. I have no problem with anyone seeing them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Marvel23 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 Thanks a lot for advising me, I'm thinking to file a divorce and let his family and friends know what he did with me, i know he is trying his best but it ain't helping me i have accepted his past and married him trusted him and he has betrayed me, I'm not going to spare him but right now I'm in a situation where I don't have anyone with me coz I'm in a different country, but I'm going to do it once i will go back home end of this year. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 I'd divorce my husband immediately if he did this. Your husband isn't that into sex with you, but has a cuckold fantasy. Well the fantasy can stay in his head, but I'd also be reporting him to the police and telling ALL his family what he did and why I'm divorcing him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Marvel, you may also have a Civil Suit against your husband. In California, Senate Bill 255 makes it a misdemeanor to post identifiable nude pictures of someone else online without permission with the intent to cause emotional distress or humiliation. The penalty is up to six months in jail and a $1,000 fine. New Jersey’s invasion of privacy law, enacted in 2003 (before revenge porn came to national attention), prohibits selling, providing, publishing, distributing, or otherwise disseminating nude or sexual photos of another person without that person’s permission. I would ask your divorce lawyer about it... 6 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Look, even if you were just boyfriend-girlfriend this would be unacceptable. Get a hold of his phone and delete EVERYTHING, and let your lawyer contact the website host and ask them to delete everything as well, before it gets posted around elsewhere... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Thanks a lot for advising me, I'm thinking to file a divorce and let his family and friends know what he did with me, i know he is trying his best but it ain't helping me i have accepted his past and married him trusted him and he has betrayed me, I'm not going to spare him but right now I'm in a situation where I don't have anyone with me coz I'm in a different country, but I'm going to do it once i will go back home end of this year. Yup. You married a deviant who gets off peddling your sexuality to others. It's ONLY a matter of time before he starts pushing you to engage in sex with other men while he watches. Then threesomes while he watches, or orgies for his viewing enjoyment. From there, who knows what it will progress to. Being a cuckold? Watching you be gang-raped? He can apologize all he wants, but it doesn't make his fetish/kink go away. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 I don't know if I should leave him coz he seems not very keen on sex, but he cares for me and says he loves me I don't even think i can believe him or trust him anymore. I want all you women to not trust your naked pics with anyone. You've gotten lots of good advice. At this point, what would you like to see happen ??? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author Marvel23 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 I am really thankful for everyone for the advices, i told my husband that i want a divorce, i told him that i cant forgive him for what he has done, he said what you want me to do, do you want me to tell your parents and mine that i have done this? And the pictures have been removed from the site he has asked the admin to do it. But i still cant picture my life with him so i will be filing a divorce soon 7 Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I am really thankful for everyone for the advices, i told my husband that i want a divorce, i told him that i cant forgive him for what he has done, he said what you want me to do, do you want me to tell your parents and mine that i have done this? And the pictures have been removed from the site he has asked the admin to do it. But i still cant picture my life with him so i will be filing a divorce soon Best wishes for your new beginning. I think you're making the right decision. Stay strong. I hope he handles the divorce in a civil manner. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 And the pictures have been removed from the site he has asked the admin to do it. Marvel, I applaud you for moving forward with divorce. But I need you to know that despite his request to the Admins, they may have removed the public site now, but please know they still have them in their possession. And the entire time your pictures were out in public, there may be hundreds of users of those sites who copy and paste those images to save for their own use. I hate to tell you this, but your image(s) may very well show up again on another site and you will have no control over it and may never know. Naked picture promulgate to easily and once they exist, if they get on the 'net you no longer have any control over what can happen to them. I am so sorry you are going through this. Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I have noticed this in some seemingly innocuous groups, where you are chatting about being married, and another guy assumes you want to swap pics of your nude wives. I guess it is common to some pervs. If you are not an exhibitionist....then you will probably never understand it. obviously, if it bothers you, he either has to stop, or you need to kick his azz out the door.l Link to post Share on other sites
Clockwork Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 Good luck and we wish you all the best. This is too bad. He really should have told you about his fantasies a LONG time ago instead of doing something that as you know is illegal. I'll give you solace with one thing...........they all say the internet never forgets. This is true. It doesn't. But I also say the internet also has a short attention span. Even on social media the things people are outraged about last a week.........tops. Same thing goes for nude pictures. Your husband may have posted some nude pics online of you and you might think the world will see it but they won't. Chances are those pictures are buried so far deep now and maybe even forgotten. I am hoping he was smart enough to not tell the area you live in, because if that is the case you were probably just another face in the crowd on the type of website that has a VERY short attention span when it comes to naked women, more of a "Move onto the next one" type of thing. So maybe that helps you a bit. Sorry, either way. Link to post Share on other sites
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