Dudearino Posted July 31, 2015 Share Posted July 31, 2015 NC & this article conflict for me. Granted I know its more along the lines of work and etc, but good read. The Most Satisfied People Don't Wait For What They Want, They Go Get It Up for comparing the two (NC & this article) Link to post Share on other sites
theredpill Posted August 1, 2015 Share Posted August 1, 2015 Don't think it's comparable really, if your partner decides they no longer want to be with you at that point in time, trying to change their mind is the weak position and will cause them to lose any respect they may still have left, whilst leaving them thinking... good job I got rid of this one. Walking away with no contact lets them re-assess everything, sometimes for the worse and sometimes for the better but the main reason is to limit your access to them (and vice versa) so you both recover your self control, it's unfortunately not the proven tool to get the ex back like 99% of people think/want. It's just infinitely better at doing that compared to crying your eyes out and sulking, why would your ex who you've turned off want a emotional wreck or even a stalker (who's going for it) back? Ultimately, you have absolutely nothing to prove to your ex, we make mistakes, we're human... We haven't made 40,000 generations worth of progress by repeating the mistakes of the past, we must move forward and sometimes that means we leave people behind. If your ex is part of your destiny, they will make the effort to join your present. Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted August 1, 2015 Share Posted August 1, 2015 Get to stepping asap after a breakup! You're not in the right mind to have contact. You're emotionally "weak" and will say and do things that make you look pathetic, only re-affirming/strenghtining the reasons they broke it off. It's "science". Link to post Share on other sites
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