Double D Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 To ask, Has anyone had initially ok/good relationship with their family and for one reason or another that initial relationship status has changed to a more negative one? I do not feel particularly connected with my family and as I have gotten older that disconnect feels even worse. I feel their don't get me or have really tried to get me. Guess I am adjusting to changes in my life and my relationship with my relatives. It feels lonely to have 3 older siblings (all adults) and yet feel so lonely and isolated. Our mum died 30 years ago and our dad recently passed. I can understand why people make a fuss our families being important because in the ideal I think it is extremely important but my reality of family is that it is overhyped. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 I have certain family members whom I have to keep at a distance. I love them and wish I didn't have to keep myself far away from them, but they are too damaging to my soul and I'm not going to allow them to hurt me anymore. I've drawn my line in the sand. Sad that it has to be done, but necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Double D Posted August 3, 2015 Author Share Posted August 3, 2015 Do those family members know why you have kept your distance from them? How have you dealt with keeping you distance from them? Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 Yes they know exactly why. But it doesn't matter because they would never admit they did anything wrong toward me or my loved ones. In their minds, what they did wasn't wrong. In my mind, it was dead wrong. And ne'er the twain shall meet. That is OK by me. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 How have you dealt with keeping you distance from them? I have made sure the same kinds of things would not happen to my own offspring. Breaking the generational cycle, as it were. And I will always be available to them (the offending family members) if they ever need me. They know that too; I've proven it to them. But as far as nurturing a relationship with them? Nope. I'm done with that. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 My family is so unbelievably dysfunctional when we all get together that it's better to keep everyone at a distance. I have felt so much better emotionally keeping that drama to a minimum...even if it is lonely. Link to post Share on other sites
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