laelithia Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 (edited) Hi Everyone, I'm currently going through a break up and am struggling with that, but I'm feeling very guilty for allowing it to bother me so much. The reason being that my mom was diagnosed with cancer (similar to leukaemia) last year and is fighting for her life. She's in stable condition but the cancer diagnosis is terminal and I've recently found out her life expectancy is 2-5 years rather than 8-10 that we originally thought. I feel so stupid being upset over my break up in comparison to what's going on with her. However, part of it is tied to it. Specifically my disappointment that it did not work out in the long term. I want desperately for my mom to know the person I'm going to be with, and to be at my wedding someday. With this relationship ending, I feel so hopeless that it will happen and I feel so sad at the thought of her not being there the day I do get married. How can I put this break up in perspective and realize that my family is so much more important? Edited August 5, 2015 by laelithia Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 Sorry to read about your mother. My short answer is that relationships and marriages come and go but your mother will always be your mother and, generally, she will be happy for you whatever successes in life you achieve, regardless of relationships. Sure, it'd be cool for her to be there if/when you get married and, who knows, she may be. However, in the interim, time is valuable and you have full control over what you do with it. Good luck with your choices. Link to post Share on other sites
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