Thomas321 Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 Hi! Any advice welcomed. Been in a long distance relationhip for 10 months. Recently went away for a week and when I came back things seemed so different with her. Very distant. She says I'm too needy when I ask her if everything's ok. Surely telling someone I miss them is ok? She says she doesn't show emotions like I do. Im a very emotional person and show it. She now says she wants a breather though she did say that she loves me. HELP! can't eat or sleep :-( Link to post Share on other sites
OneForTheRoad Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 You come off as a bit needy. Maybe you should take a look at yourself for a while and work on that instead of worrying about what might happen? I can relate very closely because neediness has been my problem in all of my relationships and it does drive people away. I feel like I need some alone time to balance my emotions and weed out the needines so I can be my emotional self without trying to attach my well being to another. I'm throwing in a guess that you send a lot of emotional bids which, over time, becomes very taxing on the other person. But please share more, the reason might be something completely different... regardless of the reason, if you recognise your own neediness, then that's something you can work on. Oh and a small thing that stands out, she's helping you out, which is promising. She's helping by sharing how she shows emotion differently and the way you do it rubs her wrong. She's also helping you by telling you she needs space. Giving her just that increases your chances of keeping her, providing she's being completely honest with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Chriskey2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Understand the situation accept and move on Link to post Share on other sites
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