Merin Posted May 13, 2005 Share Posted May 13, 2005 Uh.. I took mine off the minute he asked me to start having sex with his friends When I asked him to move out, he left his ring on the kitchen table next to mine.. a few days later when I was cleaning up I grabbed both rings off the table and threw them in the garbage can. Uh.. LOL we actually went to MC one time.. he asked where our rings were I told him I threw them away.. I have never missed the rings.. they were a symbol of something that seemed so insincere. I have 2 Wee Peeps and didn't feel the need to one day give My Kids the rings.. I explained this in another thread.. I just couldn't see asking one of My Girls hey so you want the wedding rings your dad and I had? Of course it was a total bullsh*t marriage and yes you're dad is an idiot.. buuuutttt wouldn't it be great to have it on your finger to be able to look at every day for the rest of your life as a symbol of our divorce? The hell with it.. if the rings had been worth anything I would've hocked them to put into my Peeps college fund instead! Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 13, 2005 Share Posted May 13, 2005 My ex hadn't worn his for several months because it was bent out of shape but I now believe there was more to it than that (I had it fixed once). I took mine off a couple of months after we made the decision to separate but a couple of months before I actually moved out. I was driving on the highway, and thinking how it was nice a friend of mine just got engaged and I laughed out loud that it seemed ridiculous to be wearning my rings, so at the next red light, I pulled them off. (Yes, we have red lights on our highways up here!) I put them back on at xmas when we were with his family but it was easy to remove them the day we got home. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted May 13, 2005 Share Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by dgiirl I'm just curious to know when and under what feelings people took their wedding rings off? And were you the dumpee/dumper? I took mine off about a week after Tracy moved out. I was the "dumpee." ... Am I sending mixed signals by not wearing the ring? I needed it off because I was torturing myself with hope every time I put it on (I dont wear it when sleeping). I would say yes you are. A ring is visible evidence of your status. Wearing it means you are married & not available. Not wearing it means the opposite, that is, not married, & possibly available. I once read a letter in Dear Abby, pertaining to a widow wearing her ring. The reply was that she would continue wearing it if she does not intend to re-marry. _____________________________________ Ah yes, divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet. - Robin Williams Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted May 13, 2005 Author Share Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by Scott S I would say yes you are. A ring is visible evidence of your status. Wearing it means you are married & not available. Not wearing it means the opposite, that is, not married, & possibly available. You're right. My emotions are flip-flopping all over the place. Today, as far as I'm concerned, there's no marriage. I cant pretend to be married when I havent spoken to my husband in months. Thankfully he's cancelled his plans, and is not coming over. I dont really want to see him just to have my heart broken again. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted May 13, 2005 Share Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Uh.. I took mine off the minute he asked me to start having sex with his friends When I asked him to move out, he left his ring on the kitchen table next to mine.. a few days later when I was cleaning up I grabbed both rings off the table and threw them in the garbage can. Uggh! Would I be correct in assuming the rings weren't the only thing that went into the dumpster? _____________________________________ Ah yes, divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet. - Robin Williams Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 We are still strugglingly married, but I took mine off close to two years ago. He'd had his off for ten years, the first six of which I asked him to wear it, the last four of which I quit caring. He had two excuses-- it wasn't safe at work, and it didn't fit. That doesn't justify a full decade of not wearing a ring. I took mine off several times, finally maybe a year and a half ago took it off for good, and a year and a half ago bought myself a nice sapphire ring to wear instead. THAT got his attention and got him upset. His ring was back on instantly, and has stayed on, and he asked me to put mine back on. But after ten years, I just don't care anymore. His ring is on, but he still doesn't see fit to stop the lying or quit e-mailing his cyber girlfriend, or accept the reality that there is absolutely NO room left under the rug where he's been sweeping everything. Link to post Share on other sites
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