Screenplay Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 Alright, Ill just give the nutshell version of the obligatory intro info. Basically, about a week ago I checked my online personals account (Im more a fan of meeting people in person, but I keep an open mind). I had noticed a girl had viewed my profile a couple times that didnt have the ability to initiate contact, so I sent her an email filled with my unique cynic humor. I figure she had no photo and made herself sound perfect (An intellectual, slender, level-headed) etc., Id probably just get nothing back from her. Well, it didn't turn out that way. She ended up loving it, and gave me her personal email addy. We've been sending each other page long emails and she has consistently sounded like such a ridiculously cool person. Actually intellectual, shares some interests, and level-headed. The fact that she just happens to be attractive after she sent me her photo in a later email is almost a moot point. I gave her my cell number, which was a subtle hint to get hers so we can just talk on the phone as opposed to email and IM (A personal preference of mine). However, she said that "I've wrote your number down, maybe I'll call you sometime." In the past she's sent me a second email to make absolute certain that an error she got on her end let the email get to me, so my take is that she doesnt want to take things that fast. I let her know that it's no pressure, just that I prefer phone conversations, and left it at that. Still though, any thoughts as to if/when the phone topic should be brought up again, or should I wait and let her make that move? I know shes interested in me judging by her initiating her share of the emails and IMs (not to mention the double-email) and though I prefer phone conversations I don't want to pressure her into something she isn't comfortable in doing yet. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 I think you should ask for her number. She's probably waiting for you to ask. E-mail relationships are fine, but you can easily get STUCK in that, so make sure you move it on to real life. You can still move slow, just do it in real life instead on on the Internet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Screenplay Posted May 8, 2005 Author Share Posted May 8, 2005 ...you know, I should have thought of that and that isn't a bad idea. I mean I'm not worried about getting stuck in email quite yet (The last time I met someone online we emailed each other for two weeks before finally talking and dating) but I know it is a danger. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 Yeah, just ask her. It's definitely not too early. (Some dating books tell girls that if an online guy hasn't asked her out within 4 e-mails, to just forget him and move on.) Soooo, get a move on and ask for her number. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Screenplay Posted May 9, 2005 Author Share Posted May 9, 2005 And as it turns out, your advice was spot on I blended a little humor into it to ease the pressure and asked outright, which got the number, made her laugh, and got "I trust you". I dont know why I was stressing out over this so badly, its not like I havent done this before. Thanks for the advice Link to post Share on other sites
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