My letter to the homewrecker who thought she was going to get my Husband!!!!!!!

[Joyce 2004]

I have been working on this letter for awhile and collected some good stuff from this and other sites to make this letter. This letter is to the homewrecker who thought she was going to take my H. This letter is Not in any way putting all the blame on the OW. I know the role my H played in the A and believe me he has heard my thoughts on that. I am really thinking I should mail this to her and I think this will add Closure to this mess for us and for me. I know she don't care what I might have to say but it will make me feel better maybe. She can at least take the letter out and read it when she feels she might have won something or in her low down ways again. I want her to know she ain't NOTHING!!!!!

 

 

 

 

Sherry,

I gave Steve his choice and he picked his Soulmate *ME*....

You stepped into our lives at a time when my Husband was feeling low and vulnerable. You came across as a love starved woman who had so many problems and needed my husband as a friend to help you (get real). You turned our lives upside down. You made us reconsider our lives, and step back and take a look at what we wanted for our future. For this, I wantto Thank You. You coming into our lives made Us realize what we really did have. Steve has now realized that he is and always has been with me. Upon reevaluating our marriage, we both realize how much we appreciate each other and stood to lose. We BOTH took everything for granted. This affair has made us BOTH open our eyes to OUR LOVE for each other. Now we BOTH Cherish it every minute of every day. Now we have a much more mature love, A deeper love, A deep consideration for each other. We have learned to put each other first. We have conquered the worst that life has to offer, and now we know we can conquer anything life tosses our way. Let the rain fall, let the wind blow, let the sky open and fall on us, we WILL stay standing STRONG and TOGETHER. You can NEVER hurt us again. So on this day, I Thank You. While you are sitting alone or asleep with your 'what ifs'. What we have learned has made our days the best, strongest, most love filled and appreciated we have ever had.

You found pleasure in someone elses pain. There is NO forgiveness for what you did. There is NO pity for you either. Anything that happens to you,is what you deserve for TRYING to ruin someone's life. You are nothing but a piece of dust that has to answer to a higher being for your behavior. The only possible way you could ever hold any power over me was if I were to allow you to, and I will NOT EVER allow that. You are NOT worth it. I may not have been the perfect wife, but there is NO excuse for what you two did to me. I will and have took my husband, with all of his mistakes. You can't hurt us. You can no longer hurt me. My constitution is stronger than that. Once I said that I would love him with my very soul. I meant what I said. I still do. You have no power in his or our lifes...

I hear this isn't the first marriage you have tried to break up. You knew Steve was married so what made you believe that you were going to have a relationship with an unavailable person? Better yet, why would you want to be with a man who cheated and lied to his wife? You are so desperate that you can't find a single man, you have to pursue another woman's man? Why would you want to share someone else's man? What kind of woman would put herself on hold and hope that he will EVER leave his wife? What did you think you had to offer him?

Somebody that DON'T have a life of there own? What did you think you could give him that we don't have or I haven't already give him in OUR 30 years together? Did you think you was going to get anything I have worked for all these years? Every morning he gets up and looks in the mirror and has to ask himself was it worth it? His answer to that question has always been HELL NO!!!!! He told me all about you, he hasn't kept nothing from me.

Absolutely nothing justifies the inappropriate relationship you had with my

husband. He was and is a married man and marriage is between two people NOT three. We have renewed our wedding vows and got new wedding rings and you was NOT in them and NEVER will be. So Steve DON'T need your ring or NEVER will. That was so childish for a adult to do.(see I know everything) Best wishes for finding a man who is not married, without a wife to hurt, a family to shatter and a home to wreck. Hope someday you can achieve a relationship that isn't based on lies and deceit. Where you can look in the mirror and at your family and know you are doing good and moral things. I hope one day you will experience such emotional pain that you feel like you are being slowly tortured and kept awake during the ordeal so that you can fully experence the pain. I hope one day that your heart will ache so deeply because all that you trusted and loved in life has been destoyed with acts like this. I hope one day you find someone you love and trust and they do you the same way you have done me so you will fully and completely understand the pain that goes along with being cheated on!!!!!!

I will survive and I will be stronger than before. You are NOTHING. You are not worth my time any longer. You are not worth my thoughts or my heartache. YOU ARE NOT WORTH ANYTHING THAT STEVE OR I HAVE TO GIVE. I know I wasn't your friend, but I remember you saying you and Steve was *best friends*... I was told from someone you was NOTHING but a Gold Digger,dig somewhere else cause you WON'T get NOTHING from us...With friends like that, who needs enemies? Friends do not sit back and allow their "best friend" to do something physically or mentally destructive to themselves, their families, or others. If you two was friend why did ya have to hide it? A friend never would do anything to hurt you...A friend would never try to get you to do something that is self distructive...A friend is someone that acts like a friend and you can always count on to have your best intrest at heart...If you have to hide a friendship then there is something wrong and you SHOULDN'T be friends. A friend would have waited for them to get out of one relationship before wanting to start up another one up with them. Now can you say you was Steve's *best friend*? I THINK NOT!!!!! That is so funny...

You got to make a choice, just like Steve did you knew about me. I got left in the dark because you was a filthy secret.(We have NO secrets now) You got a sick shell of a man who did Not even remotely resemble MY HUSBAND. You got a man without a soul. I got his soul, his heart and his now faithful love. You got tainted memories and secrets of disgusting acts and shame of infidelity. I got many beautiful memories and a lifetime of them to come with a honest, remorseful man who is deeply sorry for what he has done to our marriage and is in love with me and wants his marriage to work. I got EVERYTHING. MY HUSBAND, MY FAMILY, MY HOME and MY LIFE. You NEVER had a chance. You got MY seconds. I got it ALL. I got a husband, who I know in my heart will never be unfaithful to me again. You got dumped. You got NOTHING!!!!

So now, as the rest of my beautiful family has done, I release you from my memories. You are no longer the nightmare in my closet, you are as you always were……NOTHING AT ALL. You called me a fool. So Who's the real fool? Maybe one day you will respect yourself enough to find true happiness with someone who is available, rather than stooping low enough to be with someone else’s husband. Consider yourself forgotten and insignificant by us. There is NO need to respond to this, we are simply NOT interested in ANYTHING you have to say!!!!!!! THIS NIGHTMARE IS OVER!!!!!!

"You CAN'T build love and happiness on someone else's misery and hurt"

After all is said and done Steve chose me twice!!!!

So I must be pretty special!!!!

 

Me: BS, age 51

H: WS, age 53

Married: 30 years

D-day 10-1-04

Affair lasted about 3 months

Working thur this mess

[overseas2004]

Well I think it is a victory dance. While I am glad that you got your husband back. I dont know what he is really worth.