Can't get a date. More than a year without a girl now...

[don-juan]

Hello guys,

I'm new to this forum and I think I can get some good outside opinion here in

regards to my situation.

I'm a single guy, 31, who lives rather independently.

It has been more than a year now since I broke up with my girlfriend,

who in reality I don't know if I can consider her as having been

my girlfriend anyway. She broke up with me stating that she had to go

study abroad and almost never gave the time a day when we were

supposed to be in the relationship. She was a very nice, loving, and

interesting partner when we started off but in the end she became

cold and calculating.

 

Instead of being a nice and joyful experience it ended up being something

like a trauma for me because I got to think that maybe I had found "the

one" when it was all the opposite. The relation wasn't fulfilling at all and at

times she made me feel like I wasn't worth anything.

 

Physically she wasn't like a knockout or a super babe but maybe she was

at least reasonably pretty for me and I liked her character in the beginning.

After the breakup it made me feel very sad for a couple of days but I tried

to bounce back from this and tried meeting new women after a while, like I used to.

 

For many many years, I have been following many pic-kup advice on how to get

phone numbers and dates with women but I haven't been able to get the results

that many in this community report having. My main method of meeting women

has been cold approaches most of the time. I don't belong to many social circles and the ones

I do belong to, don't have enough young attractive women.

 

For some reason, women seem to avoid me, even though I have been

told by several people that I am good decent looking and despite the fact

that many beautiful attractive women stare at me sometimes. I am funny,

interesting, try to dress well, clean cut and I have good resources in life.

 

I also seem to hit on girls who are either in a relationship or are committed

or are single mothers or have acomplicated schedulte/busy all the time.

 

Honestly, I don't think my mental frame is that bad, even though my

 

last experience with that girl disappointed me greatly and made me more

calculating or careful.

 

I try to go out as much as I can, but perhaps one of my problems is that all

my friends are already married or commited, so they don't go out with me

that much anymore.

 

And like engravefeelthevoid said in his post @ïf you can't get a

girlfriend...this is the bottom line...@, that it's something you have or dont.

Many people say it is a skill that can be learned but as experience teaches,

some guys are already born with it. A special charisma. They can get all the

girls they want and they even tell you it is "very easy", that you just have

to invite her, "tell her this", "tell her that!". But you know it's just not

that simple.

I have even started thinking on finding a girlfriend abroad or doing

something more radical to get this area of my life fixed...

 

What can I do? Anyone here has been on the same or simliar frame than

myself? Any clever suggestions or advice from a more experienced,

knowledgeable member is appreciated.

 

Cheers

[Yummm]

Seems like you need to expand your social circle.

 

Have you tried online dating?

[momx3]

As a single mom, with an educational level of curiosity, why is it you view single parenthood as a downside to women you meet?

[don-juan]

As a single mom, with an educational level of curiosity, why is it you view single parenthood as a downside to women you meet?

 

As a single mom, with an educational level of curiosity, why is it you view single parenthood as a downside to women you meet?

 

Well, I'm not saying I think all single mothers are bad, but stereotyping them for me is something that helps me save time in having to deal with

future problems in my relationships. Single mothers are significantly easier

to date than younger, childless women and there may be other advantages

but I'm not quite sure. I prefer to be the experienced one in the relationship.

 

Yummm, by online dating you mean paid services like match.com? Or free ones like POF? I have tried both types, like zoosk, christiancupid, pof, etc. but most women act like stuck up bitches in these services and apparently you have to invest a large amount of time, which I don't have at the moment.