Why most men think that girls who had few/many One Night Stands were generally 'used'

[gen66]

It's a very interesting phenomenon. There is mutual consent for a ONS but if a guy is dating a girl for 2 years and she tells him that she had 7 ONS, he would generally feel that she was USED. Logic tells us it shouldn't be like that, both partners enjoyed but still there is something deeper than this that tells men that she was used. Why is that happening? Any ideas what generates this feeling of a girl being used no matter she agrees to have sex?

 

My opinion:

There can be a mutual consent for ONS and still the girl to be used as in guys get more pleasure and benefits out of ONS wheres the girl would feel guilty/used/ashamed/weird. Also if we accept that girls are programmed to search for serious relationships and choose only one man who's worth it, then ONS don't make sense at all, so it makes them look used when having ONS.

Thus we can conclude : Girls who have many ONS are not in tune with their deepest selves and generally there is something wrong with them. Girls who had 1-2 ONS and felt bad about it are okay, and it can be taken as a mistake done and lesson learned.

[salparadise]

I don't agree with the premise. It's not a given that most men think that.

[cocorico]

It's a very interesting phenomenon. There is mutual consent for a ONS but if a guy is dating a girl for 2 years and she tells him that she had 7 ONS, he would generally feel that she was USED. Logic tells us it shouldn't be like that, both partners enjoyed but still there is something deeper than this that tells men that she was used. Why is that happening? Any ideas what generates this feeling of a girl being used no matter she agrees to have sex?

 

My opinion:

There can be a mutual consent for ONS and still the girl to be used as in guys get more pleasure and benefits out of ONS wheres the girl would feel guilty/used/ashamed/weird. Also if we accept that girls are programmed to search for serious relationships and choose only one man who's worth it, then ONS don't make sense at all, so it makes them look used when having ONS.

Thus we can conclude : Girls who have many ONS are not in tune with their deepest selves and generally there is something wrong with them. Girls who had 1-2 ONS and felt bad about it are okay, and it can be taken as a mistake done and lesson learned.

 

Disagree.

 

Girls who enjoy ONS can be very in tune with their "deepest selves", in fact far more than girls who are willing to settle for unsatisfying Rs because they've been socialised into thinking that their lives are only worthwhile if they're in a R.

 

Girls can "use" guys, just as much as guys can "use" girls, via ONS or via R. It all depends on what the agreement was,mans how freely agreement was given.

[jen1447]

I don't agree with the premise. It's not a given that most men think that.

 

Me neither. I don't speak for guys but my impression is that they tend to think moreso that they're "skanky" than that they were used.

[Timshel]

Off the cuff, three reasons come to mind that would cause a man to conclude that a woman who engages in ONS would be 'used.' I will extend that to include 'damaged' though OP has not stated such but imo is relevant to this attitude/stereotype.

 

I would only add that for me, a man who has had many ONS would be, at the least, initially unattractive to me for the same reasons.

 

1. A woman who has ONS is seeking validation due to a lack of self-esteem. Having sex with men she is not in a relationship with is due to feeling of inferiority and a deprivation of self acceptance and self love.

 

2. A woman who has ONS is not discerning of character. She has sex with random men without any concern for the man's character or 'worthiness' of sharing her body with his. Doing so is telling of her own lack of character and standards.

 

3. A woman who has ONS puts herself at risk for STD's. In turn, puts any potential partner at risk.

 

My personal opinion is that this is an 'each to her/his own' lifestyle. Taking ONS into consideration for dating is an individual judgement and preference and in no way can be generalized. That said, the stereotype exists.

[toolforgrowth]

I wouldn't say that women who have one night stands are "used" per se, since she willingly engaged in said ONS. But I certainly have no wish to be with a female who will easily accept strange penis. I don't want to be where a ton of other random dudes have been.

[gen66]

Timshell very good answer, if you are a woman, you earned my respect with your point of view.

 

Timshell, if I may ask, do you think that it's a completely normal and healthy behavior for a beautiful woman to sleep with many guys say like 5 guys in a month? Or there is something wrong with her and the way she treats sex and her views about sex? Must use have some issues for sure or she can be completely healthy, confident woman who enjoys sex, so that's why she slept with 5-6 guys in a month?

 

What I mean by USED - used exactly as in damaged, where as something is wrong with her and someone is taking advantage of this. As if, she's having sex coz of daddy issues and searching for validation, that's not a good reason to have sex for, where as the guy she had been with wanted only sex for pleasure whereas he isn't damaged, coz this is how just guys are, their minds are easier to cope with ONS and it seems kind of they benefit more out of it in many regards.

So from this point of view there is a mutual consent but she is kinda 'used', but it's her own fault for being used though.

 

Anyway, another idea came to my mind. Why when guys have ONS they consider it an achievement and something to brag about and feel good about it. Why when girls have ONS they don't consider it an achievement and something to brag about among friends? That's the whole point, it can't be so simple. Why is that?

Well my idea is the following : Guys who have ONS are valuable as in must have : appearance, game or be rich, or charming and funny or very hot body. A girl to have ONS , she should just ask for it, be average looking and have a vagina. It's 1000 times easier and out of a 100 guys in a club, 90 would agree to have ONS with her. But if an average guy goes in a club how many girls would agree to have ONS with him right away? 1-2 out of 100 probably, and they would be 'damaged' in a way.

 

it's all about the psychology here....

Edited August 10, 2015 by gen66

[Timshel]

Timshell very good answer, if you are a woman, you earned my respect with your point of view.

 

Timshell, if I may ask, do you think that it's a completely normal and healthy behavior for a beautiful woman to sleep with many guys say like 5 guys in a month? Or there is something wrong with her and the way she treats sex and her views about sex? Must use have some issues for sure or she can be completely healthy, confident woman who enjoys sex, so that's why she slept with 5-6 guys in a month?

 

What I mean by USED - used exactly as in damaged, where as something is wrong with her and someone is taking advantage of this. As if, she's having sex coz of daddy issues and searching for validation, that's not a good reason to have sex for, where as the guy she had been with wanted only sex for pleasure whereas he isn't damaged, coz this is how just guys are, their minds are easier to cope with ONS and it seems kind of they benefit more out of it in many regards.

So from this point of view there is a mutual consent but she is kinda 'used', but it's her own fault for being used though.

 

Anyway, another idea came to my mind. Why when guys have ONS they consider it an achievement and something to brag about and feel good about it. Why when girls have ONS they don't consider it an achievement and something to brag about among friends? That's the whole point, it can't be so simple. Why is that?

Well my idea is the following : Guys who have ONS are valuable as in must have : appearance, game or be rich, or charming and funny or very hot body. A girl to have ONS , she should just ask for it, be average looking and have a vagina. It's 1000 times easier and out of a 100 guys in a club, 90 would agree to have ONS with her. But if an average guy goes in a club how many girls would agree to have ONS with him right away? 1-2 out of 100 probably, and they would be 'damaged' in a way.

 

it's all about the psychology here....

 

Yes, I am a woman.

 

"Used" and "damaged" are subjective terms. No person, male or female, are used or damaged. Every person is whole and only brings perceptive and active experiences to culminate who they are in present.

 

A value of a person neither increases or decreases by the number of partners or ONS they have had.

 

How an individual perceives others and in this thread, how they perceive members of the attractive sex are influenced by perception.

I think of perception as a continuous stream of information, a feedback. A personal conclusion based on upbringing, environment (physical experiences) and genetic predisposition.

 

Beyond psychology OP, a person is always where they are. Nothing is stagnant and is always flux. There is no logical reason to judge others for superficial relations.

The exchange of body fluids and emotions heighten levels of expectation. Sex is intimacy even when not intended to be, if only because we carry a physical presence of the person long after contact.

 

I think it does come down to personal preference. No person is less lovable or valuable if they have many ONS. The question would be, will my past determine my future? Will someone I love leave/not be with me for this reason? Will I be deceitful to prevent and if so, is it worth it?

[gen66]

While I do get your point of view, it's extremely difficult to achieve in practice, but theoretically it's amazing, but I'm a human and humans are judging and this is what we do, judge about everything, and it's kind of healthy I think to helps us filter out. Because of judging I won't marry an ex prostitute, but If I managed to follow your point of view entirely then it wouldn't matter what the girl did before : porn star, prostitute etc. But it's extremely difficult, almost impossible for me.

 

" if only because we carry a physical presence of the person long after contact."

Whaaat? What do you mean hahaha?

[central]

I don't think men or women are "used" or "skanks" if they've had a variety of past partners or ONSs. It depends on their situation and motivation, and some will be acceptable to me, and some will not - do their values and behaviors match well with mine, without using a double standard in deciding?

[Timshel]

While I do get your point of view, it's extremely difficult to achieve in practice, but theoretically it's amazing, but I'm a human and humans are judging and this is what we do, judge about everything, and it's kind of healthy I think to helps us filter out. Because of judging I won't marry an ex prostitute, but If I managed to follow your point of view entirely then it wouldn't matter what the girl did before : porn star, prostitute etc. But it's extremely difficult, almost impossible for me.

 

" if only because we carry a physical presence of the person long after contact."

Whaaat? What do you mean hahaha?

 

Of course there is judgment. Such the purpose of your thread, no?

 

DNA testing for other persons body fluids are good for 3 to 7 days after contact. I was speaking to the long term effects of fluid exchange. Let's just say, kiss and be kissed, among other things.

Some people don't shake hands, much less sex. Hope that clarifies.

[BlueIris]

Yes, I think that lots of men share your opinion and perspective.

 

As fewer women share that opinion and perspective, the men who think that way have fewer choices in the dating and mating pool. Some find themselves in a conundrum because they want the free sex and pre-marital sex element of the post-sexual revolution paradigm while not wanting the wait-til-marriage, put a ring on it paradigm of the pre-sexual-revolution days.

 

And of course, anyone and everyone would like to think that they are The One who is "worth it," who is so unique and special that they, and their love, is so big that it completely changes the object of their desire-- whether it's women who dream of the sex-roving playboy who gives it all up because he loves her so much or men who want the demure woman not enjoying sex until he comes along and she is driven so mad with passion that she becomes a sex maniac for him and only him. There's a bit of ego at play in those scenarios.

[Timshel]

Yes, I think that lots of men share your opinion and perspective.

 

As fewer women share that opinion and perspective, the men who think that way have fewer choices in the dating and mating pool. Some find themselves in a conundrum because they want the free sex and pre-marital sex element of the post-sexual revolution paradigm while not wanting the wait-til-marriage, put a ring on it paradigm of the pre-sexual-revolution days.

 

And of course, anyone and everyone would like to think that they are The One who is "worth it," who is so unique and special that they, and their love, is so big that it completely changes the object of their desire-- whether it's women who dream of the sex-roving playboy who gives it all up because he loves her so much or men who want the demure woman not enjoying sex until he comes along and she is driven so mad with passion that she becomes a sex maniac for him and only him. There's a bit of ego at play in those scenarios.

 

 

More than a bit. Yep, gratzi.

[gen66]

Personally in my head the answer is quite complicated as to why and there are so many reasons, there's like a Santa list for why a girl having many ONS would trigger some strong negative reaction in me if I have to date her for serious relationship. So many reasons...I can't quite summarize well but just few of them:

 

1. Habit is habit, a woman who does lots ONS is less likely to be faithful.

 

2. Issues with forming a deep intimate contact, since what she is mostly doing is not much intimate, sex is complicated and it does leaves marks on our psyche. Prostitutes for example have huge problems with forming deep intimate bonds, read so much stuff about this.

 

3. The one key that opens many doors is precious and a door that is opened by many keys is useless and cheap thingy. So much truth in here.

 

4. Girls are the keeper,s they just have to merely say YES to the guy. Guys are the one who have to compete, play, display qualities to win the woman. Guys wants sex generally more than women, otherwise women would have behaved like guys chasing them for the sake of one sex, never happens. So a girl with many ONS, something is wrong there. She gave it way too easily way too soon. Women are not Men. We are genetically different and this makes us behave in a different way.

 

5. Girls who view sex as fun and not intimate and can have it without knowing the person at all, just like that , well there's something really weird going on here. Guys may be more capable of doing this but girls who generally have a lower sexual drive combined with this, she has to be doing the sex because of some personality issues : daddy issues, low confidence, seeking attention, stupidity etc. A healthy female would go for the best pick she can and then satisfy her needs no matter how horny. A "damaged" girl would sleep with an average guy without any selection at all, because of her horniness. She would also do this more than once.

 

Again, for me, I would instinctively feel that a woman who say slept with 5-6 guys in a month is generally being USED as in she is damaged but the guys got what they wanted. Because I simply can't be convinced that in a girl's head there is this huge manly sexual drive and she wants to solely satisfy it with the ONS, there is lots more than this. Women are not men. If they were, there would be no attraction.

[pteromom]

I would only add that for me, a man who has had many ONS would be, at the least, initially unattractive to me for the same reasons.

 

1. A woman who has ONS is seeking validation due to a lack of self-esteem. Having sex with men she is not in a relationship with is due to feeling of inferiority and a deprivation of self acceptance and self love.

 

This CAN be true. Or it can be true that the woman just knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go get it. The only way to find out is to get to know her.

 

2. A woman who has ONS is not discerning of character. She has sex with random men without any concern for the man's character or 'worthiness' of sharing her body with his. Doing so is telling of her own lack of character and standards.

 

Again, this CAN be true. Or it could be that she just knows the limits with each man. That a guy can be sexy and interesting for a ONS, but not relationship material.

 

3. A woman who has ONS puts herself at risk for STD's. In turn, puts any potential partner at risk.

 

This is true. The men she is having ONS with is putting themselves at risk as well. But there are ways around this. Such as putting some time in getting to know someone before sleeping with them, and each being tested before you become intimate.

 

Taking ONS into consideration for dating is an individual judgement and preference and in no way can be generalized.

 

This is true. Having sex only in committed relationship is a valid value. The only time it is a problem is when someone has a standard for their partner which they do not have for him/herself. So if a guy sleeps around all over the place, but expects his girl to have only a few partners from committed relationships, THEN it is hypocritical.

[pteromom]

1. Habit is habit, a woman who does lots ONS is less likely to be faithful.

 

Not necessarily true. A woman who has ONS could just be willing to get what she wants, and when she wants a committed relationship, she can be very committed to that.

 

2. Issues with forming a deep intimate contact, since what she is mostly doing is not much intimate, sex is complicated and it does leaves marks on our psyche. Prostitutes for example have huge problems with forming deep intimate bonds, read so much stuff about this.

 

Maybe. But this is something that you would learn as you get to know someone. There are many obstacles to intimacy, and sexual values is only one of them.

 

3. The one key that opens many doors is precious and a door that is opened by many keys is useless and cheap thingy. So much truth in here.

 

No. This is just a cliche that needs to be tossed. A person is not a key or a door. A person is a complex being. There are many reasons a woman may be promiscuous, and there are many things she can learn about herself from the experiences - some positive, some negative.

 

4. Girls are the keeper,s they just have to merely say YES to the guy. Guys are the one who have to compete, play, display qualities to win the woman. Guys wants sex generally more than women, otherwise women would have behaved like guys chasing them for the sake of one sex, never happens. So a girl with many ONS, something is wrong there. She gave it way too easily way too soon. Women are not Men. We are genetically different and this makes us behave in a different way.

 

No. There are stereotypes, but there are plenty of people - men and women - to shatter the stereotypes. Just because a woman has ONS doesn't mean she is saying YES to every man who approaches her. Maybe she just likes sex and prefers it with another person rather than a vibrator.

 

Take each person as an individual, not a generality or stereotype.

 

5. Girls who view sex as fun and not intimate and can have it without knowing the person at all, just like that , well there's something really weird going on here. Guys may be more capable of doing this but girls who generally have a lower sexual drive combined with this, she has to be doing the sex because of some personality issues : daddy issues, low confidence, seeking attention, stupidity etc. A healthy female would go for the best pick she can and then satisfy her needs no matter how horny. A "damaged" girl would sleep with an average guy without any selection at all, because of her horniness. She would also do this more than once.

 

LOL... no. No, no, no. I am a lower sex drive person. I am capable of viewing sex as fun and not intimate, and I do not have those issues. When I was single, I would simply want to have sex, because you know, people get horny. It's not always about damage.

 

Again, for me, I would instinctively feel that a woman who say slept with 5-6 guys in a month is generally being USED as in she is damaged but the guys got what they wanted. Because I simply can't be convinced that in a girl's head there is this huge manly sexual drive and she wants to solely satisfy it with the ONS, there is lots more than this. Women are not men. If they were, there would be no attraction.

 

Again, you are thinking in generalities. You are simply wrong. There are plenty of women who have a "manly sexual drive", and want to have sex. While there are women who PREFER ONS, most women who have ONS do it because they are single with no solid prospects for the relationship they want, but they still want to have sex.

[jen1447]

^ Thank you pteromom.

[Timshel]

This CAN be true. Or it can be true that the woman just knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go get it. The only way to find out is to get to know her.

 

Yes. The thread implies judgement. Judgement there is. Will it impede the 'getting to know' process, the question is there.

 

Again, this CAN be true. Or it could be that she just knows the limits with each man. That a guy can be sexy and interesting for a ONS, but not relationship material.

 

Yes. Truth though....some jump, some don't. I sound like a stuck up but I have never went to bed/sex for sexy or looks. Some do, K, no big deal. Forex, I have a crush on Kevin Spacey. If Kevin approached me for a ONS, I would not.

 

 

This is true. The men she is having ONS with is putting themselves at risk as well. But there are ways around this. Such as putting some time in getting to know someone before sleeping with them, and each being tested before you become intimate.

 

Ditto.

 

This is true. Having sex only in committed relationship is a valid value. The only time it is a problem is when someone has a standard for their partner which they do not have for him/herself. So if a guy sleeps around all over the place, but expects his girl to have only a few partners from committed relationships, THEN it is hypocritical.

 

Then they are not compatible.

[jen1447]

This is true. The men she is having ONS with is putting themselves at risk as well. But there are ways around this. Such as putting some time in getting to know someone before sleeping with them, and each being tested before you become intimate.

 

I'm always reluctant to appear to be in anyway dismissive of safe sex practices, but this is really the heart of the issue. Being smart about your partners and vetting them properly is the single most important form of safe sex. It's worked very well for me.

[pteromom]

Yes. Truth though....some jump, some don't. I sound like a stuck up but I have never went to bed/sex for sexy or looks. Some do, K, no big deal. Forex, I have a crush on Kevin Spacey. If Kevin approached me for a ONS, I would not.

 

Some people aren't interested in ONS at all. Some people aren't even interested in sex outside of marriage.

 

It isn't about right or wrong, or "used" or "damaged" though. It's about compatibility - like you said.

 

If you (general you, not YOU Timshel) are a person who doesn't respect someone who has ONS, then definitely don't get into a relationship with them. But the judgment and finger pointing and stereotyping isn't necessary. Just choose a partner who shares your values.

[Timshel]

Yes, I am a woman.

 

"Used" and "damaged" are subjective terms. No person, male or female, are used or damaged. Every person is whole and only brings perceptive and active experiences to culminate who they are in present.

 

A value of a person neither increases or decreases by the number of partners or ONS they have had.

How an individual perceives others and in this thread, how they perceive members of the attractive sex are influenced by perception.

I think of perception as a continuous stream of information, a feedback. A personal conclusion based on upbringing, environment (physical experiences) and genetic predisposition.

 

Beyond psychology OP, a person is always where they are. Nothing is stagnant and is always flux. There is no logical reason to judge others for superficial relations.

The exchange of body fluids and emotions heighten levels of expectation. Sex is intimacy even when not intended to be, if only because we carry a physical presence of the person long after contact.

 

I think it does come down to personal preference. No person is less lovable or valuable if they have many ONS. The question would be, will my past determine my future? Will someone I love leave/not be with me for this reason? Will I be deceitful to prevent and if so, is it worth it?

 

Agree Pteromom.

[gen66]

First of all thank you for a different opinion and that you took time to write it and read my entire post! Now to express my thoughts again by answering your post.

 

Not necessarily true. A woman who has ONS could just be willing to get what she wants, and when she wants a committed relationship, she can be very committed to that.

 

Since when women are generally focused on ONS and willing to get it. Because ONS is for sex. How many women are constructed the same way as man to actively chase sex? For me women just go along with it, they don't chase it actively as much as men, women are not hunters as per my observations I can't call this 'willing to get what someone wants'. I call this, willing to go with the flow.

 

 

 

Just because a woman has ONS doesn't mean she is saying YES to every man who approaches her. Maybe she just likes sex and prefers it with another person rather than a vibrator.

 

Well ok you got me here, that's true. I read somewhere that men lower the criteria for an ONS while woman do raise it to the maximum, since they can easily get sex anyway why not do it with the best possible partner even if its for few hours

 

LOL... no. No, no, no. I am a lower sex drive person. I am capable of viewing sex as fun and not intimate, and I do not have those issues. When I was single, I would simply want to have sex, because you know, people get horny. It's not always about damage.

 

Well, wanting and doing it are miles away. You wanting sex and not viewing as intimate is in your head, can you do it in reality and feel happy and good and satisfied after? Again, remember for this period when u were single how many ONS you had?

 

 

 

Again, you are thinking in generalities. You are simply wrong. There are plenty of women who have a "manly sexual drive", and want to have sex. While there are women who PREFER ONS, most women who have ONS do it because they are single with no solid prospects for the relationship they want, but they still want to have sex.

 

May be I'm too generalizing yes, but women who have manly sexual drive are lesbians lol, they dress like men and act like one. Who would prefer ONS wheres the sex in a serious relationship is ten times more satisfying and deep. There has to be something wrong if you mainly prefer ONS, coming from a point of view that ONS is much less pleasant than a sex with someone who you are completely comfortable with and trust etc.

 

Again I may be wrong about some things, that's why I'm thanking you for giving me different perspective, I will continue thinking about this topic and analyze why I'm thinking the way I am , and may be I can change few things so I can be happier in future if I'm dating a super promiscuous girl.

[pteromom]

Since when women are generally focused on ONS and willing to get it. Because ONS is for sex. How many women are constructed the same way as man to actively chase sex? For me women just go along with it, they don't chase it actively as much as men, women are not hunters as per my observations I can't call this 'willing to get what someone wants'. I call this, willing to go with the flow.

 

Nope. Some of us are hunters. We are just clever enough to make a man believe he is the hunter.

 

Well ok you got me here, that's true. I read somewhere that men lower the criteria for an ONS while woman do raise it to the maximum, since they can easily get sex anyway why not do it with the best possible partner even if its for few hours

 

Of course. Who wants to settle - even for a ONS?

 

Well, wanting and doing it are miles away. You wanting sex and not viewing as intimate is in your head, can you do it in reality and feel happy and good and satisfied after? Again, remember for this period when u were single how many ONS you had?

 

I had a few. And short-term FWB situations. And yes, was able to feel good and happy and satisfied after.

 

As far as not being intimate, there are many kinds of intimacy. There is the heart-to-heart, vulnerable, open, giving intimacy of a loving LTR. And there is the powerful, on-the-same-page, passionate connection with someone you won't see again. It's still real... it's just very different. Not having those expectations and hopes allows you to be open in a different way.

 

May be I'm too generalizing yes, but women who have manly sexual drive are lesbians lol, they dress like men and act like one.

 

You sound very young saying this. Just not true, on any level. Nothing against lesbians, of course. There are women who have intense sex drives, but you would never in a million years guess, as they are quiet and feminine and even shy. You gotta quit stereotyping people.

 

Who would prefer ONS wheres the sex in a serious relationship is ten times more satisfying and deep.

 

They are different kinds of sex, that's all. Some women do prefer ONS, because they can be satisfied sexually without the trappings and compromises of a serious relationship - same reason some men prefer a bachelor lifestyle.

 

There has to be something wrong if you mainly prefer ONS, coming from a point of view that ONS is much less pleasant than a sex with someone who you are completely comfortable with and trust etc.

 

Your point of view isn't correct for all people though.

 

Again I may be wrong about some things, that's why I'm thanking you for giving me different perspective, I will continue thinking about this topic and analyze why I'm thinking the way I am , and may be I can change few things so I can be happier in future if I'm dating a super promiscuous girl.

 

You don't really need to put a lot of thought into it.

 

When you meet a girl you are interested in, ask her out.

If she agrees, go out and get to know her.

If you find out she has past ONS, ask her why. Ask her how she feels about her past. Ask her if she enjoyed it. Ask her any questions you want to know the answers to. Determine if you are satisfied with her answers, if you will still be able to respect her, and if you still want to move forward. If not, don't. If so, do.

 

Every person is an individual. The important thing is not to assign them to a stereotype, but to get to know who they are, and to determine whether they are compatible with you.

[road]

I think the word used does not fit the OPs question.

 

 

Having a ONS does not mean she was used.

 

 

Being in a long relationship does not mean she was not used.

 

 

A woman can of dated 1 man for 1 year, then she dated another man the next year before she got married and had sex 200 times. Then she met and married man #3.

 

 

A woman had 10 ONS over 2 years. So she had sex 10 times with 10 men before she got married.

 

 

Who was the good girl and who was the slut.

 

 

All that matters is her number. But which number matters more?

[jay1983]

I wouldn't say that women who have one night stands are "used" per se, since she willingly engaged in said ONS. But I certainly have no wish to be with a female who will easily accept strange penis. I don't want to be where a ton of other random dudes have been.

 

Yeah me neither.