Emma1a Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 It’s been 4 months since the BU. LC for 2.5 months and strict NC for 2 weeks. I did send him one last msg before going on NC 2 weeks ago wishing him all the happiness in the world with his new girl and that I am still not over him but I am trying to move on. I also told him not to forget about me ever bc I stuck with him through his dark time and was always there for him no matter what. We were together since we were 18 for 8 years since HS, engaged for a couple months. The day before I sent that msg we ran into each other – both with someone else (I was on my 2nd date w a guy, he was holding the girls hand and I suspect that they work together and that he left me for her). There were breadcrumbs from him during our LC period. He doesn’t use any social media sites so it’s easy there. I have to say the first week after implementing strict NC I was very depressed. However, this week I’m feeling so much better – I still read posts here on LS but I don’t feel like I want to contact him ever. I can see things more clearly now, why should I torture myself over someone who is willing to throw away 8 years like that. It’s funny how few months prior to his 180 turn he was telling his friends how he could never find a girl like me and how much he loves me etc (his friend told me this 4 months ago when we broke up). His mother also loves me very much and she called me multiple times after the BU to check on me and we would cry together over the phone. She knows that I am beautiful, kind, successful. He knows that too and he used to always mention how great a mother and wife I could be. He left me once before (2.5 years ago), his reason was that he wanted to experience other girls since he’s only been with me. However, he came back after one month last time. I think he couldn’t find anyone so he fell back to me. I guess this time he had an option when he was leaving so he is not coming back, also when he ended things he blamed everything on me (we were fighting a lot towards the end). During the whole 8 years, we lived together. We lived apart for one year when we split 2.5 years ago then moved back in together. I’m too drained that I don’t even want to think how a loving guy can turn out like this. I don’t know how he can cut ties like that and throw away 8 years, we’ve been through everything together! I don’t know how I can trust any words other guys would tell me in the future. I won’t take him back if he comes back this time, I’m so sure that he won’t this time. He’s loving this new girl (I saw them holding hands, he never held my hands). She’s completely the opposite of me. He blocked my cell back 4 months ago (there’s no Facetime option), I was checking (I know it’s bad) yesterday and all of a sudden that Facetime option is back on so I knew that he unblocked me. I think the reason could be that I used to contact him on textme but I told him I was deleting that when I sent him my last msg, and i always msg him every two weeks (I know, I couldn’t help it before). There was one time that I didn’t contact him after the two weeks mark he sent me the breadcrumbs. I don’t know his intention of unblocking my cell all of a sudden but I don’t care I deleted his number and will never talk to him again ever! I deserve so much better! Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 If you are done with him, delete him from your contact list. Otherwise, him being in your directory is a tether that he can yank on when it amuses him. You'll take way longer to heal and move from this is you keep any form of contact with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emma1a Posted August 10, 2015 Author Share Posted August 10, 2015 If you are done with him, delete him from your contact list. Otherwise, him being in your directory is a tether that he can yank on when it amuses him. You'll take way longer to heal and move from this is you keep any form of contact with him. Thank you! I did delete him, should I block him? Part of me doesn't want to because I want to see if he will ever remember to contact me. I know I won't reply EVER, I don't have the urge to. Im so done with this guy Link to post Share on other sites
quattrob Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 If you are so done with this guy then why not just block him to avoid ifs and buts? You are just hurting yourself not blocking as it seems you're analyzing these things so much, why not just block him so you wont have to deal with it anymore? Let me guess you just hope he contacts u so you feel better about yourself right? Funny thing is if he does contact u, you'll just feel worse. End that cycle and hope now for your own good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emma1a Posted August 11, 2015 Author Share Posted August 11, 2015 If you are so done with this guy then why not just block him to avoid ifs and buts? You are just hurting yourself not blocking as it seems you're analyzing these things so much, why not just block him so you wont have to deal with it anymore? Let me guess you just hope he contacts u so you feel better about yourself right? Funny thing is if he does contact u, you'll just feel worse. End that cycle and hope now for your own good. You are absolutely right, it is just so so so hard to do after 8 years Link to post Share on other sites
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