minimariah Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 (edited) I think what is bothering me the most, deep down, is how his wife will react if he does move out, regardless of whether he tells her about us or not. to be honest with you... i'm having a REALLY hard time believing she knows absolutely NOTHING. i assume the marriage is sexless, no intimacy...? from your posts, they already live as if they're divorced. i have a feeling they act like roommates who talk twice a week when they see each other in passing and that's it. this is the definition of a dead marriage, will she truly be THAT surprised...? realistically, nothing much she can do when "throwing obstacles" comes into question. if he leaves, he leaves. she can't stop him, they don't even have the same finances. kids are adults - they have their own brains so she really can't use them as weapons - although, their relationship with their father will most likely crack... not sure they'll be thrilled with their dad's 20 years affair. so the only one who can put up obstacles is him, really. He keeps saying he wants to be here, to be with me exclusively, that it is time to make the change, but he wants to tie it to his retirement. i'm sorry if you already mentioned it - but when will that happen? in how many months or years...? Edited August 15, 2015 by minimariah Link to post Share on other sites
SolG Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 (edited) Interesting indeed... wow.......29 years as the OW. There are many more men like this I'm sure. That's never gonna change because women will always put up with being mistresses. I guess that's why they call it a man's world. We're definetly the weaker sex in this regard. How many men would be the single OM for anything near this length of time. It is interesting. This is an interview with the OW in this case CNN Transcript - Larry King Live: Charles Kuralt's Longtime Companion Speaks Out - February 14, 2001 I don't think she was an OW in the sense that we mostly see here on LS. Definitely some paralels with Angelique's A. Pat Shannon was effectively another comitted R; and that's the way the courts ultimately saw it as well. Edited August 16, 2015 by SolG 1 Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 (edited) It is interesting. This is an interview with the OW in this case CNN Transcript - Larry King Live: Charles Kuralt's Longtime Companion Speaks Out - February 14, 2001 I don't think she was an OW in the sense that we mostly see here on LS. Definitely some paralels with Angelique's A. Pat Shannon was effectively another comitted R; and that's the way the courts ultimately saw it as well. you know, it's interesting... she said she never felt like an OW... but in the end, she did -- like Hepburn. the only reason Shannon gave the interview (& only after Kuralt and his wife died) was the need to show the world that she did, actually, exist. similar with Hepburn - she really wasn't an OW because Spence LIVED with her... & everyone knew about it. but in the end - she still very much felt that role. no matter how typical or not typical the relationship is - an OW is an OW. & it always leaves some kind of scar, it seems. p.s. this thread and stories totally reminded me of my grandgrandpa - who had two families, one in Europe, another in South America. he doted on BOTH families & they EACH knew the truth only after he died! a mess! LOL. Edited August 16, 2015 by minimariah 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Doublegold Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 Maybe I'm a little confused, but what you've described is pretty much a non-existent relationship between them. He goes out and walks the mall and drinks coffee instead of actually being with her. They do nothing together. He seems to take more of an interest in your kids lives than hers. Why the concern over how she would take it if he does move out? She doesn't seem to give a s**t. For all anyone knows, she may be sitting at home thinking,"Can you believe this idiot? He still hasn't left." This is a great post. Do you know my guy knows more about my life then whats going on in hers? Seriously--he is more interested in what my friends are up to and I am up to then her world. Then again her world is school, kids, her family etc etc--and she is an intelligent woman. But a total boring soccer Mom type. Some may say she may be having an affair, but believe me--her loves are apparent and her H was never top of her list--ever. She hasn't even asked why he took his ring off over a year ago. Not one word. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruffian1 Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 "Actually, their finances have always been separate. In fact, the fellow who married them threatened to not to perform the ceremony because they had been adamant about having separate bank accounts. Her credit is under her name; his under his. I think there is one joint credit card account and of course, the mortgage is joint. But cars and anything else are separate" You certainly know a lot about her. From him. What does she know about you? Link to post Share on other sites
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