I need some insight

[IkarosWing]

The History (I'm 22 shes 20)

So my ex and I been together for over a year and 3 months (LDR about 4 hour drive). We ended up breaking up due to bad communication. We know so much about each other but I grew distant and ended up hurting her. after 3 months of no contact I tried to talk to her again she was really mad at me and hated me. One month of trying, after a few days ago she finally opened up to me and tell me how hurt she was and she was purposely being cold. Things sorted out she became more honest and open instead of vague and spiteful. Because during the time I was distant, I gave her sister a present I got for her with a letter, her sister forgot it to give it to her (i was extremely busy at the time and mailed it to her sis so she can give it to her during the day of our 1 year ahead of time). She ended up breaking up with me because she never got my present which was for our anniversary since I couldn't drive to her and thought I don't care about her anymore. Since last week I had a argument with her and finally mentioned that I did care and she should've gotten my gift for our anniversary but she never did. So I assume she got it from her sis a few days later.

 

about my present, I made a music box for her, also inside the box has another lock that requires a key to read a note i put away there and a necklace. Its mostly telling her I loved her n stuff and I hope in the future we can somehow find time for each other. I told her that she doesn't need to read the note that is inside the locked part because our relationship ended. I had the key to it, but she still wanted it and asked me to send it to her if i still had the key.

 

She told me she was dating someone roughly 2 months in, (1 month when I first tried to talk to her again and about 2 months now after she opened up to me). I been wanting to be with her again. She asked me if i'm okay with still talking with her even though shes with someone because she wanted to talk to me still. So about her current boyfriend, she said that she jokes around with him a lot about their group of friends, but every time he tries to pry into her personal life or past she won't tell him. so its pretty clear that I know a lot more about her than he does.

 

sorry for the read with terrible grammar I'm not feeling that great atm, so I honestly don't know what to do now. I do like her after all this time, and I still want to be with her. Can anyone give me advice on the best course of action I should take? I'm also happy that she found someone else as long as she is happy. I still want to be with her though but I've been busy with work and school this year so no much chance to really go visit her aside maybe a few calls here and there. Plus, I don't know if she really likes the other guy or not either.

 

edit: I'm actually not that sad that she finally told me about her new boyfriend. I was more devastated when she was cold towards me during that month period of trying to reconcile with her.

Edited August 11, 2015 by IkarosWing

[goldway90]

You realize that you're going to the friend zone right!!? If you think being her friend will get her back well i'm sorry but it won't happen. She's with someone else of course she likes him so be happy for her and live your life now, go date other women, travel idk... Don't be a back up plan for anyone, you should be a priority.