Qboro90 Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 What about the option him watching you and another woman? Just as an observer. That would allow you the chance to see if it's something you truly want and like and also let him get off on basically watching live porn with his wife and another girl. You can tell hill or discuss beforehand that if that arrangement goes well then you'd feel more comfortable having him join and be intimidate with the 2 of you. Just throwing ideas out. Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 by not allowing your husband to participate with the other woman, you are being selfish. It is his fantasy, too, to allow you a bicurious relationship, but HE wants to get something out of it also. I can see how a lesbian woman would never want another man in the room. But...you are not lesbian, you are a married woman. So, try opening up your mind a little and let him participate too. Once he has had his threesome for a couple times, I am sure he will not object with you and her having some time alone too. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 I disagree. The OP told her husband she is bicurious. She said she didn't want to explore this side of her sexuality without him and proposed a threesome. No she did NOT. HE proposed a threesome when she told him she was thinking about exploring her bi-curiosity. She says it right here: "Recently, I've been talking to him about possibly exploring my bicuriousness. He is into the idea of a threesome, but I find it very difficult to be OK with the idea of him with another woman. Especially since I'm not sure I'm even going to enjoy being with a woman." She only acquiesced after he wouldn't let go of the idea and told him she didn't want a threesome but would consider it ONLY if he agreed to touch JUST her and not the third party. So I stand by my post. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Yeah, I honestly think it's just because our sex life is like a 3 on a scale from 1-10, and I've been fantasizing with the idea of someone actually pleasuring me since he doesn't. Let me get this straight. Your 'much older' husband sucks in bed and doesn't even bother to pleasure YOU - and yet he wants a threesome? LOL. What a tool. I guess his selfish ass figures he'll leave all the work to the ladies and just get his own - like he's been doing all along with you. There's just not ONE thing appealing about this guy. Good luck finding ANY woman who'll want to get naked with him in the room. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 It's not a solution at all, it will actually create more problems. He made it clear that the only reason he's interested is not for my pleasure, but to double his pleasure. LOL. I repeat. Selfish tool. Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Your main problem is all the porn he watches. It gives him ideas and false expectations of what sex ought to be. He seems to have forgotten that the camera goes off while the actors rest / recover from what they are doing. And this doesn't even get into the trickery - no human male can ejaculate hard enough to hit the ceiling. No human female has 4 liters of vaginal fluid inside her that she squirts all over the bedroom like a sprinkler gone wild... So you are right that there is something terribly wrong with your sex life - if you want to save it, hubby (and you) must stop with the internet porn. You will never get to an honest state as long as this external crap keeps getting pulled into your bedroom. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 When we spoke about the 3some again and how it was definitely a bad idea he asked me what was the craziest fantasy I've ever had that I would want to do. He's always saying that I'm prudish and I'm only into vanilla sex, and I believed him because he watches trillions of gross porn. So I told him that he would probably laugh at me and my fantasy if I told him because it would probably pale in comparison to his wildest. He insisted so I told him multiple men, and he got soooo upset and said I was gross, but his fantasy is multiple women, wtf??? Given the lack of communication between the two of you, your problems could manifest themselves in any part of your marriage - housework, parenting (if you have kids), finances, etc. You just happen to be focused on sex. Your relationship is certainly a candidate for MC. You're both talking, neither seems to be listening. If you're both open-minded, sex should be fun, not the battleground you've described. I'd tell him you've set up a threesome - you, him and a marriage counselor... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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