aliveagain Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Firstly, the man is hitting on your wife, he's not your friend. Secondly your wife sent him pictures of her breasts, they are having private conversations without your knowledge, she's cheating. He and she have secrets from you, your the odd man out, lay the law down because if she can't respect fidelity it's better you know now. Get rid of your former friends, they are a risk to your marriage. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Firstly, the man is hitting on your wife, he's not your friend. Secondly your wife sent him pictures of her breasts, they are having private conversations without your knowledge, she's cheating. He and she have secrets from you, your the odd man out, lay the law down because if she can't respect fidelity it's better you know now. Get rid of your former friends, they are a risk to your marriage. Jnkomo007, Read and heed aliveagain. If nothing is going on past the tit picture, you can stop this going to a full blown affair. If something is going on you need to put a stop to it. Again, you have all the information you need. You need to act before you regret letting fester. Wish you luck. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 If this is your best friend then I would hate to me your worst enemy. The guy is doing everything he can to get your wife in the sack. If it's me, I go to his house with his wife there and let him know that if he wants to pimp his wife out and make her a porn star then fine and dandy and let his wife know that he sent out pictures of her and her "john of the night" and there's a chance that maybe she doesn't know about it and she just might have a cast iron frying pan with his name on it and start hitting him with it. It could also be possible that if he let his wife have sex with a guy then then for all you know, his wife might know about it and is his silent partner trying to get your wife to join in. The point is you let them know to steer clear and do it in a way that they understand. Then your wife needs to be told that she's on thin ice and is on the verge of being thrown out because of her actions. If she's willing to show her boobs to the guy, then bet the house she would show him everything else in due time and when that grows old, then the real deal. Tell her your going for a STD test, and setting up a polygraph for her to take and if she gives you any trouble about it then tell her that you'll pull the trigger on her and file for divorce. If you knew about this for 6 months, then your many laps behind and there's a good chance you only scratched the surface. Stop playing games because I think they want to make a cuckold out of you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstronger Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Talk to your wife first- she is your partner in this- tell her how you want to handle it and enlist her help- do not confront her along with the others- present a united front and talk to the other couple- couple to couple- if she resists, I would be upset because that means her alliance is not with you- Link to post Share on other sites
Try Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 (edited) About a year ago my best friend let his wife have sex with another guy while he watched and sent pics to my wife. A couple of months later my wife finally told me about it. not only was I shocked, but surprised that he told and showed my wife and not me, and she asked me no to speak to him, so he doesn't know that I do. First, he is not really a friend of yours much less your best friend. A friend does not do this behind your back with your wife. He is using a false friendship with you to gain access to your wife. Second, his request that it be kept a secret between the two of them indicates that he is pursing a relationship with your wife exclusive of you that both of them knew you would not approve of. Third, your wife has agreed to this inappropriate relationship with him that is exclusive of you; the fact that she still does not want you to tell him that you know about it means that she wants to preserve this inappropriate relationship with this guy. Forth, if he has not already had sex with her, he is grooming her for sex as it is clear that he is in an open marriage and she is his next target. Fifth, they have a relationship exclusive of you were the two of them are on the inside and you are the outsider built on keeping secrets from you. At the beginning of the year my friend started talking to my wife about wife swopping or her having sex with another guy, when she approached me in another kind of direction. The grooming has worked and your wife now wants an open relationship so that she can have sex with him. If you do not agree, since they already have a relationship where the two of them keep secrets from you, if she has not already she will have sex with him without telling you. I managed to look at her phone messages and they had sent naughty pics to each other, my wife's was just her breasts and he kept trying to talk flirty. If they have not already taken it physical, this is proof of at the very least a full on emotional affair ("EA") and an EA is cheating. Google "emotional affair" to learn more. He is not your best friend, he is your wife's emotional affair partner. he is trying to flirt again talking naughty like "I want to bend you over my knee pull up your skirt and spank your bare bottom......" kind of talk and asking her to send more naughty pics. He is not just flirting with her, he is seducing her. I love my wife and and can forgive my friend I care for him and his wife they are a big part of my life but I just don't know how to handle this and turn it around so that we don't lose each other. You are fool to want to keep in your life a guy that is actively cheating with your wife behind your back. With friends like him, what does it take to call someone an enemy. Either demand that your wife go full no contact with her affair partner, and demand full transparency which includes all passwords (so there can be no more secret communications), or you will lose your wife. Keeping him as a friend is not an option, since he is not really your friend. Confronting your wife's affair partner or his wife will do not good since they are in an open relationship. Edited August 13, 2015 by Try 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 The disrespect shown to you is staggering. This isn't a friend and she isn't a wife....the boundaries have been torn down and they are cheating if they are sharing these types of texts and messages. What you know is only the tip of the iceberg. Gather all info for your own peace of mind for when you kick her out and tell your "friend" to go to hades. Then get a lawyer and go NC with both of them. They are gutter....not sure why you disrespect yourself so much to think this is ok. It isn't. Good luck, Grumps 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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