Image and Style - Again

[RoseVille]

Wrong assumption as always (hope you don't trust your instincts too often)

 

My body looks better right now than "the past", which was 4 years ago.

 

There is no doubt hers looks the same as she did in "the past" (4 years ago)

 

I write this post with an 18 year old Asian girl sleeping right next to me.

 

Hope that makes you bullies feel a little uncomfortable.

 

It doesn't matter what you look like, if you look young for your age, or good, or bad, or whatever. It matters that these girls are 18! And you're in yoir 40's!

 

As for the bolded? Yeah. That's ... Not right.

[RoseVille]

This is why I am bringing up maturity. The moral development of an 18 year old is not yet complete. This is normal.

 

If you truly want a partner, let kids be kids and date grown women.

 

Right. Don't chase after and sleep in bed with kids. Be an adult and date adults.

[PrettyEmily77]

I just talk about the ex here because posters tend to lump me into some "he can't get a relationship" pigeon hole.

 

They seem to forget I've spent my entire post pubescent life in them, including a 10 year marriage to someone 10 years my junior who fits my type.

 

I only think of the ex when on love shack.

 

But I do exactly what you are saying. Initial interest based on looks, then discontinue if not a good person.

 

Standard human mate selection process.

 

Okay. Well I can't advise on the specific type of attire that would help you get the girls you want to attract b/c only them would know that, but I look forward to your next thread re.how you finally found the love of your life, a 5'9 scandinavian tax officer who never set foot on a boat, likes the occasional junk food and listens to the Backstreet Boys

[jen1447]

I don't want to preach at you L-Dubs but you did say this in your OP, which combined with the recent trend in your posts/threads that indicate you're looking to settle down, show that this thread is at least marginally about "what's best for LW in love."

 

I'd like to attract very "out there" women who are of course petite and in shape, but also that are good hearted, open minded and interested in doing things in life other than office work. ie: traveling to other countries, homesteading on land in the middle of nowhere, pair bonding, enjoying amazing meals together, learning and reading, etc...

 

To that end, I introduced the age discussion (guess that was my fault, yeah ), having 'read between the lines' so to speak and judged that this thread was really also about getting you to be lucky in love longterm, not just a fashion makeover.

 

So I'll echo again what xxoo said above bc I do think it's pertinent - shoot older, more mature. I think at least some of your issues have come from being on diff planets from the women you've dated.

 

Peace.

[johan]

Typically love shack thread. They all go off topic into age differences and stuff. Did you expect any less?

 

Unmoderated idiots is what they are. It's especially strange because no one knows how old you are. I'd guess early 20s.

 

Strange how this happens only for certain people, and for those people the topics tend to swing the same way all the time. My threads seemed to somehow always gravitate back to the topic of whether some men should be allowed to procreate, or even to date. Every damn time.

 

Now that I'm married I hardly get any responses at all, which just shows that if you're tough enough and stick to your guns, sooner or later they will start respecting you.

[jen1447]

It's especially strange because no one knows how old you are. I'd guess early 20s.

I understood it to be mid to late thirties. (Don't think that was a secret.)

[PrettyEmily77]

Mid to late thirties guys attracted to mid to late twenties women is a common occurence and I may have read LW or the thread wrong but I didn't the impression he was after very young girls specifically. Besides, not every 20yo is an air head. The idea that a change in clothes would help anyone get a free spirited person whatever their age seems more slien to mr, but that could be a NYC thing.

[loveweary11]

I understood it to be mid to late thirties. (Don't think that was a secret.)

 

Correct

[loveweary11]

It doesn't matter what you look like, if you look young for your age, or good, or bad, or whatever. It matters that these girls are 18! And you're in yoir 40's!

 

As for the bolded? Yeah. That's ... Not right.

 

I'm glad that bothers you. I intended it to.

[loveweary11]

Okay. Well I can't advise on the specific type of attire that would help you get the girls you want to attract b/c only them would know that, but I look forward to your next thread re.how you finally found the love of your life, a 5'9 scandinavian tax officer who never set foot on a boat, likes the occasional junk food and listens to the Backstreet Boys

 

 

:lmao::lmao:

 

Wow! That was great!!

[loveweary11]

I don't want to preach at you L-Dubs but you did say this in your OP, which combined with the recent trend in your posts/threads that indicate you're looking to settle down, show that this thread is at least marginally about "what's best for LW in love."

 

 

 

To that end, I introduced the age discussion (guess that was my fault, yeah ), having 'read between the lines' so to speak and judged that this thread was really also about getting you to be lucky in love longterm, not just a fashion makeover.

 

So I'll echo again what xxoo said above bc I do think it's pertinent - shoot older, more mature. I think at least some of your issues have come from being on diff planets from the women you've dated.

 

Peace.

 

Did you?

 

I didn't notice that. If you did, it was in a nice way.

 

But yeah, I'm shooting older. 30's is my target, but I'm not eliminating anyone either.

 

Just sorting through it all - and yes, it's out of my system. I'm over the partying to make up for lost time being married.

 

Ready for something real again.

 

The partying is part of the healing process...

[jen1447]

Did you?

 

I didn't notice that. If you did, it was in a nice way.

 

But yeah, I'm shooting older. 30's is my target, but I'm not eliminating anyone either.

 

Just sorting through it all - and yes, it's out of my system. I'm over the partying to make up for lost time being married.

 

Ready for something real again.

 

The partying is part of the healing process...

 

I think you could tweak your approach and eliminate some of the frustration - just change "taking all comers and evaluating them for suitability" to "taking all comers over age 27 and evaluating them for suitability."

 

(I understand you're saying 30s is your target range, but you also said you wouldn't automatically eliminate anyone. I think you should. )

[DJOkawari]

The partying is part of the healing process...

 

It doesn't sound wise but it is

 

~

 

Edit: Ah also you mentioned "hippie" accessories. Did you mean anything beyond woven braclets, beaded necklaces/bracelets, and necklaces with a minimalist stone in them? Just curious.

Edited August 14, 2015 by DJOkawari

[StellaGrace]

Agreed.

 

I just started a thread about clothing and people derailed it (as usual) with age difference dating BS.

 

Hey- I sent you a bunch of links with some lovely hat options and you didn't even comment on them; instead you commented on the posts talking about age. So maybe it's just you taking the bait?

[loveweary11]

Hey- I sent you a bunch of links with some lovely hat options and you didn't even comment on them; instead you commented on the posts talking about age. So maybe it's just you taking the bait?

 

Sorry. Meant to, but yeah, some people feed the pigeons, I feed the trolls.

 

I looked at the hats. They were cool. Hats are pretty fun in moderation.

 

One big problem with hats and a shaved head is once you take it off, people assume you were trying to hide your head.

 

That leaves me a little weary of using them heavily or when it's not cold out.

[StellaGrace]

I happen to like bald guys, and I like hats, but that's me.

 

By the way, the last three were meant to make you laugh. Although maybe you can pull off the reindeer hat?

[Rejected Rosebud]

Picture taken seconds ago...

 

View image: IMG 20150814 073824

 

18, Asian. Responsible for the ideas in this thread.

 

(meets all moderation requirements)

Why did you put this here? I srsly do not get it.

[loveweary11]

Why did you put this here? I srsly do not get it.

 

To make you

[Rejected Rosebud]

I understood it to be mid to late thirties. (Don't think that was a secret.)

According to alot of the info in many posts it's gotta be at LEAST 40! OP you say your wife is 10 years younger than you and she is in her 30's right on this thread. I don't really care but you are putting yourself out here alot and you seem to be pretty obsessed with age to the point of lying about yours. That is probably a reason why this thread and others have gone to the "age" place, not because "typically loveshack" but because of what you give us to work with ALL THE TIME.

 

What were you like when you were 18? :confused:

[Rejected Rosebud]

Did you mean anything beyond woven braclets, beaded necklaces/bracelets, and necklaces with a minimalist stone in them? Just curious.

OP you should come out to western Oregon in the countryside and get a load of some REAL "hippy accessories" like dreadlocks down to your knees, an entire tie-dye wardrobe (all made out of hemp fabric), and very earthy sandals ...

[Heatherknows]

According to alot of the info in many posts it's gotta be at LEAST 40! OP you say your wife is 10 years younger than you and she is in her 30's right on this thread. I don't really care but you are putting yourself out here alot and you seem to be pretty obsessed with age to the point of lying about yours. That is probably a reason why this thread and others have gone to the "age" place, not because "typically loveshack" but because of what you give us to work with ALL THE TIME.

 

What were you like when you were 18? :confused:

 

I think he did say somewhere he's in his 40's? IDK. I'm in my 40's I'd like to forget that as well.

 

...OK, poof..I forgot. Cool. Now I'm 24. Like I said emotionally I'm 16 so 24 is kinda old.

[elaine567]

Loveweary11. late thirties/forties, has history here and this is not the first thread started with - Looking for that more serious woman vibe.

 

Yes, 30 something sounds good.

Yes, I need to stop the partying, the clubbing.

Yes, I need to stop the hook ups.

Yes, I need to stop the "far too young for me" girls

Yes, I need to stop the pandering to shallow, self-obsessed girls.

Yes, I need to attract a more sensible LTR woman - outdoorsy, rural, a thinking woman, an activist, a potential homesteader, a creative, hippie, caring type...

 

YES, YES, YES, YES.

 

Usually it takes him a few days to revert to type.

Today, we haven't even got past 24 hours and he has an 18 year old in his bed and an 19 yo escort coming over to hang out with...

 

I doubt any choice of clothes is going to remedy much bigger problems here.

I have never heard of LW11 actually hanging about with, sleeping with or even speaking with women IRL closer to his own age and that I guess is the real issue here.

My guess is he doesn't fit in very well with anyone apart from the very young, or those shallow, superficial types on the party merry-go-round, and by his own admission, he has never really grown up.

However, in order to find a real grown up relationship, and feed his, I presume, desire to settle down some day, it is necessary IMO for him to bite the bullet and to do a bit of "growing up" and start hanging about with and more importantly learn how to interact well with a crowd of women closer to his own age; women who are actually looking for a real relationship, with a man in his late thirties/forties.

[Heatherknows]

Loveweary11. late thirties/forties, has history here and this is not the first thread started with - Looking for that more serious woman vibe.

 

Yes, 30 something sounds good.

Yes, I need to stop the partying, the clubbing.

Yes, I need to stop the hook ups.

Yes, I need to stop the "far too young for me" girls

Yes, I need to stop the pandering to shallow, self-obsessed girls.

Yes, I need to attract a more sensible LTR woman - outdoorsy, rural, a thinking woman, an activist, a potential homesteader, a creative, hippie, caring type...

 

YES, YES, YES, YES.

 

Usually it takes him a few days to revert to type.

Today, we haven't even got past 24 hours and he has an 18 year old in his bed and an 19 yo escort coming over to hang out with...

 

I doubt any choice of clothes is going to remedy much bigger problems here.

I have never heard of LW11 actually hanging about with, sleeping with or even speaking with women IRL closer to his own age and that I guess is the real issue here.

My guess is he doesn't fit in very well with anyone apart from the very young, or those shallow, superficial types on the party merry-go-round, and by his own admission, he has never really grown up.

However, in order to find a real grown up relationship, and feed his, I presume, desire to settle down some day, it is necessary IMO for him to bite the bullet and to do a bit of "growing up" and start hanging about with and more importantly learn how to interact well with a crowd of women closer to his own age; women who are actually looking for a real relationship, with a man in his late thirties/forties.

 

Maybe he wants to change but doesn't know how? Change is difficult. Perhaps he'll continue to date young women for the next five years and then change or never change. Like I said before only LW knows in his heart what he really wants.

[Phoe]

LW, this is super reaching and whatnot, but it IS a concern...

 

Are you SURE these young women you go for are legal? 18 is pushing pretty close. Did you see an ID? Do you know she's not lying? Heck, lots of late teens girls have fake ID's.

 

It's one thing to go for younger than you, but going as far as 18, barely legal, you're gonna inadvertently end up with a 16 year old who is lying to you, get into a whole lot of trouble you didn't want, and it's gonna f**k s**t up for you.

 

Seriously, nobody wants to see you on the news because lines got blurred and some young girl lied to you. You've gotta cover your own backside!!

[S_A]

I normally would not answer for someone else, but with so much soeculation I will go ahead and say it. Loveweary is 35. He said it in another post iirc.