Image and Style - Again

[jen1447]

Jen, in every post, I said she is too young.

 

Every single one.

 

What more can I do?

 

Just showing an example.

 

I can't spend hours googling for pics of the perfect woman. I have to get down to the Village!!

 

I know, I'm mainly commenting on your intention to find a younger woman (which is exemplified in you choosing a picture of an 18 year old as an example of what you're attracted to). I really don't believe younger within the figures I mentioned is applicable for you. I'm not one to limit age-difference dating - I think once a person reaches a baseline of maturity, say mid to late 20s, they can get along with a 65 year old as well as a 35 year old - but under that is just a fundamental difference of outlook and perspective. To put it bluntly they haven't really grown up, and my point is that that may be the effect you keep butting up against. You're choosing ppl who are essentially children, either emotionally or intellectually or both.

 

I get what you're saying about being accepted by these groups but that won't change the fact of widely differing values and sensibilities and maturity between an adult (you) and someone who's still growing.

 

I'll give you a personal example ....I date these younger women sometimes myself (not 18 year olds, but young 20s, and for diff reasons than what you're after here obvs, haha ), and I often find myself unintentionally patronizing them. Forex they'll tell me about their teddy bear collection or sth like that (seriously) and I'll say sth to the effect of "Aw, good for you!" and then immediately realize I just self-categorized them as a juvenile. Once that happens - and it's almost inevitable - there's a divide and a fundamental misunderstanding between you that's never going away ....at least until they grow up.

 

That's not walk-off-into-eternal-sunset material. Just can't be in a romantic sense.

[loveweary11]

If you are looking for a compatible partner, you should consider age. It would improve your odds considerably.

 

Probably. I should be looking at women around 10 years younger, like my ex.

 

That seems to be the sweet spot.

[Heatherknows]

I know, I'm mainly commenting on your intention to find a younger woman (which is exemplified in you choosing a picture of an 18 year old as an example of what you're attracted to). I really don't believe younger within the figures I mentioned is applicable for you. I'm not one to limit age-difference dating - I think once a person reaches a baseline of maturity, say mid to late 20s, they can get along with a 65 year old as well as a 35 year old - but under that is just a fundamental difference of outlook and perspective. To put it bluntly they haven't really grown up, and my point is that that may be the effect you keep butting up against. You're choosing ppl who are essentially children, either emotionally or intellectually or both.

 

I get what you're saying about being accepted by these groups but that won't change the fact of widely differing values and sensibilities and maturity between an adult (you) and someone who's still growing.

 

I'll give you a personal example ....I date these younger women sometimes myself (not 18 year olds, but young 20s, and for diff reasons than what you're after here obvs, haha ), and I often find myself unintentionally patronizing them. Forex they'll tell me about their teddy bear collection or sth like that (seriously) and I'll say sth to the effect of "Aw, good for you!" and then immediately realize I just self-categorized them as a juvenile. Once that happens - and it's almost inevitable - there's a divide and a fundamental misunderstanding between you that's never going away ....at least until they grow up.

 

That's not walk-off-into-eternal-sunset material. Just can't be in a romantic sense.

 

I'm in my 40's but emotionally I'm probably about 16. So maybe age isn't an indicator of much.

[loveweary11]

I know, I'm mainly commenting on your intention to find a younger woman (which is exemplified in you choosing a picture of an 18 year old as an example of what you're attracted to). I really don't believe younger within the figures I mentioned is applicable for you. I'm not one to limit age-difference dating - I think once a person reaches a baseline of maturity, say mid to late 20s, they can get along with a 65 year old as well as a 35 year old - but under that is just a fundamental difference of outlook and perspective. To put it bluntly they haven't really grown up, and my point is that that may be the effect you keep butting up against. You're choosing ppl who are essentially children, either emotionally or intellectually or both.

 

I get what you're saying about being accepted by these groups but that won't change the fact of widely differing values and sensibilities and maturity between an adult (you) and someone who's still growing.

 

I'll give you a personal example ....I date these younger women sometimes myself (not 18 year olds, but young 20s, and for diff reasons than what you're after here obvs, haha ), and I often find myself unintentionally patronizing them. Forex they'll tell me about their teddy bear collection or sth like that (seriously) and I'll say sth to the effect of "Aw, good for you!" and then immediately realize I just self-categorized them as a juvenile. Once that happens - and it's almost inevitable - there's a divide and a fundamental misunderstanding between you that's never going away ....at least until they grow up.

 

That's not walk-off-into-eternal-sunset material. Just can't be in a romantic sense.

 

I got you. I understand.

 

What's a little different about me is I'm the "great chameleon."

 

If I'm presented with the teddy bear collection, I learn about it, ask questions, open mindedly evaluate the teddy bears for cuteness, etc..

 

No matter who I'm meeting, I bring a 100% open mind to the table and don't judge them at all, for anything, other than stuff like stealing and whatever.

 

This is probably why im successful with age difference dating. They always like me because I accept them for who they are.

 

I've always been thatr way with everyone I meet.

 

Thise closer in age appreciate it too.

 

Say I met you... and you told me you had a dude and 2 gf's. I wouldn't bat an eye at it. I'd probably ask about the dynamics of it, laugh about some funny situation you'd tell that happened, share similar experiences I may have had and not judge you for it

 

That's me.

 

That's why i can get along with anyone, regardless of age.

[loveweary11]

I'm in my 40's but emotionally I'm probably about 16. So maybe age isn't an indicator of much.

 

 

 

Perfect!!!!

[Heatherknows]

Perfect!!!!

 

LOL!

 

I'm really trying to grow up but it's just taking a really long time.

[jen1447]

I got you. I understand.

 

What's a little different about me is I'm the "great chameleon."

 

If I'm presented with the teddy bear collection, I learn about it, ask questions, open mindedly evaluate the teddy bears for cuteness, etc..

 

No matter who I'm meeting, I bring a 100% open mind to the table and don't judge them at all, for anything, other than stuff like stealing and whatever.

 

This is probably why im successful with age difference dating. They always like me because I accept them for who they are.

 

I've always been thatr way with everyone I meet.

 

Thise closer in age appreciate it too.

 

Say I met you... and you told me you had a dude and 2 gf's. I wouldn't bat an eye at it. I'd probably ask about the dynamics of it, laugh about some funny situation you'd tell that happened, share similar experiences I may have had and not judge you for it

 

That's me.

 

That's why i can get along with anyone, regardless of age.

 

I understand that they like you and you get along with them (and those are good traits), but I don't believe you can truly know and identify with them - bc despite indulging them and all that, they're just fundamentally different people.

 

You can do w/that what you like obvs but it's sth to consider. Sometimes we don't see the obvious stuff right in front of us and need other unbiased ppl to point it out.

[writergal]

Ok. I'll try it.

 

You and Heather both suggest the same thing.

 

Thanks for all your help. Still stunned at how right you were every step of the way with old yoga there.

 

Hey no problem. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink -- unless you hang a bucket of water on its head.

[loveweary11]

I understand that they like you and you get along with them (and those are good traits), but I don't believe you can truly know and identify with them - bc despite indulging them and all that, they're just fundamentally different people.

 

You can do w/that what you like obvs but it's sth to consider. Sometimes we don't see the obvious stuff right in front of us and need other unbiased ppl to point it out.

 

By all means, I'm looking for 28+ to get stuck on this time.... no question.

 

At the same time, a super hot, escort FRIEND of mine just invited me down to the East Village to hang out with her (we are platonic).

 

She's 19 and it'll be a great time catching up and going out for some drinks.

[Tayla]

Montreal- Canada has some fine Lovely petite ladies.

 

Chelsey Banks recently attained Miss petite pagentry status, yet her repertoire of worldly travels and education may be the type who would be a compromise of beauty and a great heart....She seems mature in some ways and has definite energy in her lifestyle. (Not saying you should date her, its just her features are so cute and her public persona seems genuine!) - It was just an example to consider.....

 

Just an idea as you are up here in the northern states and canada is just a jaunt away. Maybe a train ride there would do?

 

Heres wishing you well !

[RoseVille]

I think you're trying to go back in time to be with the type of girl you wish you'd chosen over your wife. A do-over, so to speak. Going back to that age, and going after the women that were appropriate at that age.

 

But you can't turn back time. You're no longer young. You have to deal with your life, age, place in life NOW.

[Phoe]

I'm only on page 1 so I know there's 9 pages worth of stuff I've yet to read that may make my comment totally null and void but...

 

Image?? Meh. Means very little to me, when talking from a clothing standpoint. People should wear clothes that fit, are practical, clean, and that they feel good in.

 

Stylistically, I just don't care, unless someone is dressing really really out there... like wearing caution tape for pants. That's a no... but otherwise I pay no mind.

 

If you overthink it you may project the wrong image or attract the wrong types.

[Phoe]

And honestly.... if someone is having a dead serious conversation with you comparing you to characters from fast and furious, are you really gonna take that as a legitimate thing that you should take as sound advice??? When you think about it, it sounds so silly!

[clia]

Sure, me too! And that's exactly the point. Why are you focusing on very young women when there are many age appropriate women who look amazing?

 

Just from a logic standpoint, these young girls look great because of their age, not because of their lifestyle. Most of them won't look that way in 10-20 years. If you are looking for a long term relationship, she will probably change with age into the average 30 year old.

 

If you want a HOT partner long term, you should choose a HOT woman closer to your age. She's demonstrated that she lives the lifestyle that maintains the image you like.

 

But I'm not sure that you are actually attracted to women your age, hot or not.

 

This is such a great point. It's easy to have that hot body as a 19 or 20 or even 25 year old. It gets harder to maintain as you get older. If you want a woman who actually has a hot body due to having a similar healthy lifestyle to you, you are probably better off finding a woman who truly does share your healthy lifestyle, and doesn't just have a hot body because she's young. I find it utterly impossible to believe that you can't find hot women in their 30s in NYC.

[kilgore]

I'm only on page 1 so I know there's 9 pages worth of stuff I've yet to read that may make my comment totally null and void but...

 

Image?? Meh. Means very little to me, when talking from a clothing standpoint. People should wear clothes that fit, are practical, clean, and that they feel good in.

 

Stylistically, I just don't care, unless someone is dressing really really out there... like wearing caution tape for pants. That's a no... but otherwise I pay no mind.

 

If you overthink it you may project the wrong image or attract the wrong types.

Is this where you draw the line? Borat the Movie - Borat thong swimsuit

[DJOkawari]

Based on what you wrote, loveweary, it looks like you know what you want. To me, it looks like you need to transition to a classier look, to get classier ladies.

 

I'm about to go *nerd* on you because this is what I do:

 

It's not about suits or irons. it's more about subtlety, wearing colors that work well together and complement your skin tone. Not wearing clothes that are too tight or revealing or graphics or logos, etc.

 

Regarding the point you make about irons and doing outdoorsy things: the general rule of thumb is you can have one to three items at most that are "distressing" (crumpled, torn, frayed, excessively patterned, extra vibrant, etc.) as part of your outfit (that includes hair + tattoos + bags). Too many and you look like a try-hard, too few and you look like you've got a stick up your ass.

 

Here's some examples of what I mean, I can elaborate if you find this useful:

 

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/b5/72/b5/b572b5e296917e395dd8db891abb3e86.jpg

 

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/5e/4b/8c/5e4b8c2861101507a4e58d4635db9ae7.jpg

 

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/84/8d/de/848dde5aad05ad38b4df2aa8f9d234a7.jpg

 

 

These pics are sort of homogeneous, because based on how you described yourself it didn't seem like you wanted to go the layers or anything more complicated route (something I would recommend though). Also, all white dudes because I think you're a white dude. As you can see everyone has two "distressing" items, the colors always work, and they're still able to maintain expression of their own personalities while giving off a refined image.

 

 

~

Finally: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/dc/24/2b/dc242bcf0e345298502a9e8d164a1d03.jpg

 

This guy is dressed an awful-lot like Vin Diesel in the Fast and Furious. Tight white t-shirt, muscles, etc. The huge difference is that this guy has

1. Stubble and messy hair (to offset how not "distressing" the shirt and pant are)

2. Pants that actually fit his lines

3. And fairly importantly: an extremely classy bag which complements the colors of his shirt and pants and makes the whole look more refined (seriously imagine it without the bag...the guy doesn't get any less attractive but his "image" completely changes).

Edited August 14, 2015 by DJOkawari

[loveweary11]

I think you're trying to go back in time to be with the type of girl you wish you'd chosen over your wife. A do-over, so to speak. Going back to that age, and going after the women that were appropriate at that age.

 

But you can't turn back time. You're no longer young. You have to deal with your life, age, place in life NOW.

 

Why do people post things like this?

 

Um... my wife looked EXACTLY LIKE THESE GIRLS. Also she appeared on couple of television shows and was Mss Teen NY. And had D cup implants too, thanks.

 

I have a type of girl I like visually and I'll be sticking with that.

 

Has zero to do with your theory...

[Hope Shimmers]

Why do people post things like this?

 

Um... my wife looked EXACTLY LIKE THESE GIRLS. Also she appeared on couple of television shows and was Mss Teen NY. And had D cup implants too, thanks.

 

I have a type of girl I like visually and I'll be sticking with that.

 

Has zero to do with your theory...

 

Why do people post things like this? Because it's how you come off.

 

I've read your threads. You're in your 30's, successful financially, which you repeatedly make mention to in all your threads. Having money has nothing to do with having a great relationship. Lots of people have money. It really means nothing in the end.

 

You seem to be attracted to early 20-somethings with all kinds of personal issues.

 

My advice would be to stop acting like an 18-year-old in terms of what you are "attracted to", and work on seeing the bigger picture (other than the physical) if you really want a real relationship that is sustainable, as a person in your 30's. It's really up to you.

[RoseVille]

Why do people post things like this?

 

Um... my wife looked EXACTLY LIKE THESE GIRLS. Also she appeared on couple of television shows and was Mss Teen NY. And had D cup implants too, thanks.

 

I have a type of girl I like visually and I'll be sticking with that.

 

Has zero to do with your theory...

 

That was in the past, when both you and your wife were younger. You're not that person anymore.

 

You're in your 40's. It's strange that you're attracted to women, excuse me, girls, who appear to still be going through puberty and haven't finished growing (that's the case with 18 year olds).

Edited August 14, 2015 by RoseVille

[StellaGrace]

Maybe you can try some hats to spice up your look?

 

 

http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/0a/26/e9/0a26e9e24520c83246f710bdccb51d79.jpg

 

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/0d/02/b1/0d02b1b4fecd047f72b103e32bbc85c5.jpg

 

http://img0.joyreactor.com/pics/comment/comics-tardaasa-club-style-665050.jpeg

 

http://thumbs.dreamstime.com/z/man-sombrero-2911621.jpg

 

http://everydayfunnyfunny.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/creative-funny-inventions-1.jpg

[Heatherknows]

That was in the past, when both you and your wife were younger. You're not that person anymore.

 

You're in your 40's. It's strange that you're attracted to women, excuse me, girls, who appear to still be going through puberty and haven't finished growing (that's the case with 18 year olds).

 

Most men are attracted to girls of that age range. I think it has to do with fertility cues. In any case only LW knows in his heart if he wants to settle down with an older woman who has kept herself beautiful or he really enjoys being with the younger women. As long as the girl is legal he can do what he pleases.

[loveweary11]

Most men are attracted to girls of that age range. I think it has to do with fertility cues. In any case only LW knows in his heart if he wants to settle down with an older woman who has kept herself beautiful or he really enjoys being with the younger women. As long as the girl is legal he can do what he pleases.

 

Exactly.

 

The answer is....

 

I'll keep an open mind and continue seeing both, while on the thread topic: Will try to add a few little hippie accents and Depp style versatility to the wardrobe.

[loveweary11]

Why do people post things like this? Because it's how you come off.

 

I've read your threads. You're in your 30's, successful financially, which you repeatedly make mention to in all your threads. Having money has nothing to do with having a great relationship. Lots of people have money. It really means nothing in the end.

 

You seem to be attracted to early 20-somethings with all kinds of personal issues.

 

My advice would be to stop acting like an 18-year-old in terms of what you are "attracted to", and work on seeing the bigger picture (other than the physical) if you really want a real relationship that is sustainable, as a person in your 30's. It's really up to you.

 

Not dating ugly or fat people End of story.

 

To all those who want me to.... why don't you do so yourselves?

 

The really interesting side story here is that very attractive people, based on this thread, must have nobody interested in then because they are attractive, therefore noit good people.(great logic)

 

I'll stick to attractive girls and wait it out to find one with a good personality too.

 

What the heck do all of you do?

 

Try to date the fat or super ugly, then try to get them on a diet? :lmao;

Edited August 14, 2015 by loveweary11

[MidwestUSA]

Just to point it out, Paul Walker's dead. (Was killed in a horrible car crash/fire a year or two ago.) Just seems a little weird to use him as one of our example models given that fact.

 

Thanks, Jen, I noticed everyone was using present tense.

[loveweary11]

That was in the past, when both you and your wife were younger. You're not that person anymore.

 

You're in your 40's. It's strange that you're attracted to women, excuse me, girls, who appear to still be going through puberty and haven't finished growing (that's the case with 18 year olds).

 

Wrong assumption as always (hope you don't trust your instincts too often)

 

My body looks better right now than "the past", which was 4 years ago.

 

There is no doubt hers looks the same as she did in "the past" (4 years ago)

 

I write this post with an 18 year old Asian girl sleeping right next to me.

 

Hope that makes you bullies feel a little uncomfortable.