RoseVille Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 I would imagine that comms has a lot to do with where he is and what he's doing. The former in terms of infrastructure and access, and the latter in terms of propensity and desire. As Roseville says, it would be good to be able to reflect on these factors as well as the purely R ones. One of my good friends is married to a military aviator. During his last deloyment he video Skyped home at least three or four times every week; for the whole eight odd months. There wasn't a routine to it. Times all over the place. And duration as well. Some were hours, some a two minute I love you. But he unfailingly kept in contact. As a pilot he had the advantage of combat missions being a relatively quick and remote experience. As well as after missions going back to a pretty safe base with good facilities. I would imagine that it's somewhat different for an infantryman or similar due to the fact that that type of combat is more proximal (in all types of ways). My friend also got given lots of info before her H left from his unit, and access to a range of support services. And the spouses all kept in touch with each other throughout. Did your BF set you up with any of theses types of networks? My hat's off to all military H/WAG/BFs. Strong bunch. If he's AF, he undoubtedly has a much easier experience on a deployment than the other services, for a myriad of reasons. AF folks literally have swimming pools to sunbathe around, fresh cold bottled water, Pizza Hut on base... A good friend of mine flies KC-10s and his combat missions were like flying an AA jet from Dulles to SFO - not exactly scary, almost robotic. I don't know if they include BFs/GFs in FRGs, only spouses. Link to post Share on other sites
Giggle Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Gee. Honestly I liked it better on the deployments I didn't hear from him daily. The last one we had together where he could email back and forth multiple times a day drove me nuts. It was like it wasn't quite so gone.. Only he was.. Idk but I hated it. It was easier for me to deal with life and him gone when the communication was slimmer. Don't get me wrong, I hated the one month they were invading Iraq and I didn't hear from him at all, but the multiple emails a day made me want him to go away. The neediness. Aaaaaaaah. Sometimes I think technology has made it harder. When it was just letters that came maybe weekly, there was this rush of excitement from hearing from him. But life could continue without me hating to be unable to be reached. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Gee. Honestly I liked it better on the deployments I didn't hear from him daily. The last one we had together where he could email back and forth multiple times a day drove me nuts. It was like it wasn't quite so gone.. Only he was.. Idk but I hated it. It was easier for me to deal with life and him gone when the communication was slimmer. Don't get me wrong, I hated the one month they were invading Iraq and I didn't hear from him at all, but the multiple emails a day made me want him to go away. The neediness. Aaaaaaaah. Sometimes I think technology has made it harder. When it was just letters that came maybe weekly, there was this rush of excitement from hearing from him. But life could continue without me hating to be unable to be reached. LOL I'm sure technology has made it very different. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scaatys2014 Posted November 5, 2015 Author Share Posted November 5, 2015 Ok Roseville, I'm back. Things have been going amazing since I've last been here. Lots of contact and skyping. He's coming home for two weeks!!! Any advice on how to "be"?? I don't want to plan too much but want to make things as special as I can while he's here. Link to post Share on other sites
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