TaraMaiden2 Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 Will you stop posting about this?? You've written 5 threads in as many days, and you're just repeating yourself. (in fact, I think your post #1 in this thread is a duplicate of your previous thread....) Go NO Contact. Move on. Forget this girl. You're 21, but coming across as needy, desperate, clingy and spineless. I'm sorry, but honestly? You are. Jut re-read all your threads, all the responses and know: It's already all been said. You need to pay attention to what you've been told, not continue seeking desperately for someone to tell you what you want to hear. It's - not - going - to - happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Captsingle Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 she always was the type that would hold me if i needed her to and was there for me...but she said things just changed for her since i broke up with her and it broke her heart....do you think that could have really been the reason for us breaking up? could it have changed things that much for her? Yes, of course it is possible, for females and males, the ego is a very frail and delicate animal. The two times that I have been broken up with, it was for the best and I still reacted like a wounded animal. The wounded ego won't let you rationalize those initial feelings of hurt, anger, and abandonment. When my first girlfriend dumped me and I wanted out too, I wailed when I was alone at my security job, in the middle of a warehouse, yelling to know one in particular "How could she abandon me like that." Keep in mind, I wanted out also, but those were my initial feelings. After a month, she wanted me back and I had no intention of going back, but those INITITAL feelings were strong. If there has been a good amount of time since you broke up with her to now and she is still not over that, you have no control over her feelings and there is nothing else you can do. I know that it is hard to let someone go, but that is what you will have to do at this point. It will be agony at first, but after a while it will start to make sense and you will see that you are better off in the long run. Give yourself a chance to work through your feelings. Reach out on this forum, reach out to friends, your parents...people that you trust with your emotions. Give someone else a chance, open yourself up to the myriad possibilities for happiness elsewhere. I know its hard to get over hurting someone else's feelings, but after a sincere apology, it is up to that person to forgive you. Don't let one mistake cripple your ability to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 Any girl would feel insecure about me spending alone time and essentially going out on dates with another girl regardless of if we were just friends wouldnt they? And me meeting her for drinks one on one? Things like that that I was oblivious to at the time because I didnt place myself in her shoes....thats where the regret comes from Yes. It's demoting your girlfriend from being someone special to you to being just a buddy. There is no reason why your girlfriend couldn't have gone along and hung out with you two if she meant as much as you say she did. Some women may not mind, but some women do: it's important to understand which category of these women your girlfriend falls into and to act accordingly if you want to keep her in your life and keep her loyalty. Your first mistake was waiting to introduce your friend and instead, meeting her one on one for "dates". There is not a guy here who would be OK with their girl having a guy friend that she would go see one on one and not being quick with introducing him to her friend. They talk a lot of smack, but they would be pissed beyond belief. Is it too late for an apology? Probably. Looks like she's moved on. Adult life lesson learned: If she means something to you, act like it or she will find someone who will act like she means something to him. Link to post Share on other sites
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