NightsEcho Posted May 9, 2005 Share Posted May 9, 2005 Hey all, I guess I just need to post for some strength right now. My backstory is that I met a girl when she was 16 and I was 18. We hit it off right from the start. We had a magical first date, went to each others proms, basically always had that magical high school sweetheart story. When we were together everything just felt so right to me. At abouth the 2 year mark, I moved about 150 km away to go to university. She was upset I was not staying in town with her, but I wanted to be a business major and this university was much better for it. The 1st year was okay, we got through it and saw each other like every weekend. (mostly my travels) The summer was great and we were together every day for 4 months. Heres where it all changes. As i was getting prepared to go back, she decided to buy a dog, well her family freaked out and I ended up taking it with me so she could keep it. I went through a semester of potty trainging, disapline and all the responsibility that goes on with raising a dog. My g/f however, was build resentment for me (like this was my fault I had her dog) So in December she took it back and gave it to her sister. (Note even a thank you) She was growing more distant with me, got a new job, some new friends, and Feb. 28/05 we were done. I was devastated. Cried, begged, pleaded. Just pushed her away. I later found out that in October, she had kissed another guy (maybe more) and was seeing someone right after we broke up. Ouch. I felt used. LIke someone who had always been there, always been faithful, helped when i could. I was guilty of putting her on the backburner a little when school was tough, but no one should expect 100% attention everyday, for all of time. Well after a month I was getting back on track, exercising, (between cigs and coffee), got a new car, took up a hobby(drums), hung out with friends. I was feeling so much better. I'm now at the 2 month mark though and it feels like i am getting worse again. Dreams everynight, thinking of her all the time, feeling down. I have been in NC for about 3 weeks. I just wanted to feel better, at first I wanted her back, now i'm just confused and hurt. I felt like while not perfect, I was a stand-up guy who would do anything for her. Sorry this is long enough, just needed to vent guys. Do nice guys, really finish last? (P.S. Thank you lord for preventing me from signing a $10,000 line of credit for her school! Whew) Link to post Share on other sites
Author NightsEcho Posted May 10, 2005 Author Share Posted May 10, 2005 No one has any advice ? Link to post Share on other sites
DesertDweller Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Hi. It sounds like you are indeed a stand-up guy. You went out of your way when you kept her dog for her and it was insensitive of her to take it back. It seems like the dog was yours at that point! I don't know why you're missing her now after two months. Maybe you have fond memories of something that happened during this same time of year? I think, in the long run, you will believe you're better off without her. She seems like a spiteful, selfish person. And I don't think nice guys finish last--except with girls who aren't so nice. Hang in there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author NightsEcho Posted May 10, 2005 Author Share Posted May 10, 2005 Thank you desert, for taking the time to respond Link to post Share on other sites
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