Distance destroyed my relationship but I want it back

[violetkitty4]

My ex and I met in school and dated for eight months. When we were in school we were so happy and good together. We were best friends as well as great lovers. However when I moved back home from the summer we could not see each often as usual. We both had a really hard time with this and started to fight a lot. On top of this we both work two jobs and are very busy so we barely even had time to talk on the phone. Things got really out of control, but we really believed that once I move back to school at the end of the month things would go back to normal. However one day after a fight he told me that he needed a break. We took a break for a few days and then he wanted to get back together. Then a few days later he said he wanted a break again. I was afraid he was hiding something so I looked at a group chat he has with his friends and saw messages of him bragging about being on a date with a girl. This hurt me so bad and when I confronted him he denied it but broke up with me. He tried to be nice about it and tell me that he will miss my friendship and that I am a great person, but when I told him I went through his messages and knew what he did, he dissapeared and we have not contacted each other since. It has been a week since we have spoken. I have thought about it a lot, and I feel that he loves me but just could not handle the distance and made a mistake. I love him and I really believe that once we are close together again things can go back to normal. I miss him and love him so much, and it hurts so bad that he has not tried to contact me. I don't want to contact him and look pathetic and needy, or push him away, but I don't want to miss an opportunity to get back together. I have planned to wait another week and call and tell him how I feel. Should I try again or should I just give up? I am lost without him and I feel that breaking up is a huge mistake.

[d0nnivain]

See what happens when school starts again but be cautious. Understand if your relationship wasn't strong enough to survive summer vacation, there really isn't much of a foundation. In this day & age you have tons of options to stay connected. If a few miles tore you apart & caused him to need a break I'd give him a permanent one & look to date somebody with more substance.