heather03 Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 I broke up with my ex about 6 months ago because he wanted to study abroad again, but we had a lot of other underlying issues as well, mainly communication issues. While he was over there he texted me maybe once every week to see how i was and just catch up, really making an effort with me. I've seen him a few times since hes been back and I feel the same feelings for him and love spending time with him again. We got caught up in the heat of the moment yesterday and hooked up,and right afterwards he started acting like he was my boyfriend again and in full blown hopes that we will be together again He really wants to get back together again and we've been talking about how we can improve this situation..the only thing is my parents really dislike him and always kind of have. They think hes "too nice" and too polite and doesnt do much for me, but I think it would be better this time around because we've both grown, and hes realizing and admitting a lot of what hes done wrong. They have also listened to me throughout the whole break up process and me talking about him kind of often throughout the past few months I told my dad that I'm hanging out with him again and he got so angry with me; told me that he doesn't respect my ex at all because he left me and I'm sending him all the wrong signals and letting him use me and all these negative things, and my ex will never be welcome at the house again and my dad never wants to see him; I think my whole family feels this way. Should i come clean and tell this to my ex? He's already been texting me all of the things we should work on and acting like we're already dating because of yesterday. Also please don't say that we shouldn't of hooked up, because I wanted to and its also already done. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 Before you tell him that your whole family doesn't like him, you need to do some introspection. If they are simply mad because he already hurt you once, they'll get over it. If it's deeper then that, you have to examine why they feel this way. When one person in your inner circle doesn't like your SO, it's a personality conflict. When the majority of them don't like your SO you have to consider that they see something you are over looking. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author heather03 Posted August 15, 2015 Author Share Posted August 15, 2015 Before you tell him that your whole family doesn't like him, you need to do some introspection. If they are simply mad because he already hurt you once, they'll get over it. If it's deeper then that, you have to examine why they feel this way. When one person in your inner circle doesn't like your SO, it's a personality conflict. When the majority of them don't like your SO you have to consider that they see something you are over looking. They are mad that he hurt me once, but they say that I wasn't happy in the relationship and he's not right for me. Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 I think you should try because he has been making an effort. Your parents, like many parents need to be sold on your choice of mate. Love grows with understanding and good experiences.. even for In-laws. Be patient with them but ultimately it's your love life. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 They are mad that he hurt me once, but they say that I wasn't happy in the relationship and he's not right for me. Where you happy in the relationship? Was he right for you? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 They are mad that he hurt me once, but they say that I wasn't happy in the relationship and he's not right for me. They aren't really all that against you getting back together. They love you & don't want to see you hurt. If he treats you well, they will come around. Do not tell your BF that your family doesn't like him. If he notices their changed / cooler behavior you can say that they are protective of you & concerned that he'll hurt you again. More of a caution to him to be on his best behavior around them. An honorable guy will do just that. If he blows up or gets defensive, you need to step back & figure out why he can't or won't acknowledge their POV 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author heather03 Posted August 16, 2015 Author Share Posted August 16, 2015 They aren't really all that against you getting back together. They love you & don't want to see you hurt. If he treats you well, they will come around. Do not tell your BF that your family doesn't like him. If he notices their changed / cooler behavior you can say that they are protective of you & concerned that he'll hurt you again. More of a caution to him to be on his best behavior around them. An honorable guy will do just that. If he blows up or gets defensive, you need to step back & figure out why he can't or won't acknowledge their POV Well I told him that they aren't very supportive of the idea of us getting back together, and he said he already had a feeling that this would happen. However, he's extremely understanding and didn't get defensive at all, just said that it was my decision and I shouldn't let other people affect my decision Link to post Share on other sites
Author heather03 Posted August 17, 2015 Author Share Posted August 17, 2015 Where you happy in the relationship? Was he right for you? At the time, no, because he was always trying to travel and study abroad, and we had bad communication so things were messy. It was also both of our first relationships, so I'm also not sure if its a compatibility issue or we were both so unsure. But I think we've both grown a lot since then and understand what we need to fix. I just don't think I'm looking for another serious relationship right now Link to post Share on other sites
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