rngrl12 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 I got back with my ex after 1.5 years NC. We dated for another 2.5 years and everything seemed great. He dumped me a few weeks ago by calling me on the phone and telling me "you haven't changed. I don't want to date you." when I pressed him for more information he told me he "doesn't love me. it's not you it's me." He called my grandma and talked to her. He told her that he needs to be single and not have a girlfriend and figure out his life. He had thought he wanted medical school from the time we started dating (16) to now (22). But he recently flip flopped and decided he's probably going to join the navy. Save yourself the tremendous heart break and don't wait for them. Don't bother with a second chance. I am here, again, torn up over the same guy. Link to post Share on other sites
ByMyself01 Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 He loved you enough to give it another shot. He's confused... He'll be back but it's up to you to accept or not. 2 1/2 years is a LONG time if you don't love someone and the fact he came back after a year and half. The 2nd go round just gave HIM hope and confidence that he can come running back again even after a year and a half of dating other people. I say you move on so that when he comes back (and he will) that you are strong enough to say no and that will only make him want you more, but you won't care at that point Link to post Share on other sites
quattrob Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 Whether he comes back or not doesn't matter, he left you twice and he'll do it again. He destroyed the trust and gave up on the relationship with you TWICE.. He does not love you, it doesn't matter if he came back to you once or twice, that is not because of love.. in this case it was for his own selfishness and had nothing to do with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rngrl12 Posted August 22, 2015 Author Share Posted August 22, 2015 Honestly I think he is very very confused with himself. I love him with my entire being. If he needs to be single and feels that's what's right for him I'm going to let him go. I won't beg. I won't plead. I love him enough to want him to be happy even if it's not with me. Love is selfless not self serving. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
unheartedninja Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 Honestly I think he is very very confused with himself. I love him with my entire being. If he needs to be single and feels that's what's right for him I'm going to let him go. I won't beg. I won't plead. I love him enough to want him to be happy even if it's not with me. Love is selfless not self serving. That's exactly how it gotta be. Sometimes you gotta let love do it's thing, and oftimes it means letting them go, letting the heart take them on the path that their heart desires to be on. I've recently just been hit with it. This two videos might help gain some perspective. Good luck, and have a good support system. and do your thing, go and "****" life. not meaning become cold but go do things your heart calls for. Music, running. w.e it may be. Link to post Share on other sites
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