boyfriend on the past

[ashley.lucas]

Okay I have posted here a few times but I desperately need help. So my boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. And we stayed okay with each other and I waited around for him about 1.5 months so one day he came over to my house to check on me and my family and we went outside to talk and basically he told me to my face to stop holding onto him to let him go and move on cuz he didn't know if he would ever wanna be together again (he was talking to another girl) but anyways I was really hurt and I did a rebound with my crush from high school I really liked the kid before my boyfriend and anyway he came back into my life and we hung out and I was just trying to keep my ex off my mind and my crush from high school said he wanted to be with me and he was sorry for the way he treated me in high school and he wanted to be an item. Keep in mind my ex hates him but I didn't do it for revenge it was cuz I thought ya know maybe he changed and something could come if it. Any who 2 months in after the breakup me and the other kid did have sex and fooled around other times but after all that happened I felt weird about it and cut it off. While all this was happening my ex would say one day he wanted to be with me and the next day he would change his mind so I was really mixed up I should have made smarter choices. But about 3 weeks ago I told my boyfriend that me and the guy he hates had sex twice and I told him about the times we messed around but didn't go all the way. We got back together but he got hurt really bad over the whole situation and I understand I even told him if he didn't wanna be with me I understood but he still wants to be with me and said it shouldn't upset him what I did cuz we weren't together but he tells me I hurt him the most. The reason I'm writing is me and the other kid did have oral in not gonna lie but I was trying to get that point across to him when I told him we messed around after I told him he asked me how many times did he touch you and how many times did y'all kiss and all this stuff so I don't think my point for across to him. After that he yelled at me to never bring up anything else about the situation he doesn't wanna know anything else (along those lines) and he told me if I had a guilty conscience to live with it. But we are good now and everything is great. But I feel guilty and terrible about the oral because idk if he knows and it hurts me because I know everything I've told him has really hurt him. But I need advice on what to do about it and please don't tell me i messed up because I already feel like a bad person. But any opinion on that would help a lot cuz it's eating me up and I tried to lay it out there. But I know that's not something you tell someone. Thank you so much.

[d0nnivain]

Your current relationship is on life support at best.

 

 

When your BF broke up with you & then told you to let him go especially because he was talking to another girl you should have listened.

 

 

You were free to date & have sex with whomever you chose, including this guy that your EX-BF hated.

 

 

When your EX came back, you both should have realized that you had not addressed any of the things that split you apart in the 1st place. You also needed to realize that going backwards in life is not helpful. Instead you made a bad situation worse by rubbing salt in the would of your not yet healed split by giving your BF details about you having sex with a guy he hates. Your BF will never be able to get that image out of his head.

 

 

Going forward try not to go backwards in life and when a SO asks you for intimate details about other sexual relationships, try to change the subject and if you can't be vague. Never be specific.

[Popsicle]

The mistake you made is in continuing to talk to your boyfriend (or is it ex-boyfriend, I'm confused). When he broke up with you and told you to move on, you should have severed all ties with him and closed that chapter of life for good.