I'm a horrible person.

[HereNorThere]

I think we'd all like to hear the real story instead of this version. This version is so convoluted with your rationalizations, accusations, blame-shifting and basic rewriting of history.

 

So, I'm still deciding, which justification are with going with to explain your behavior?

 

A) drinking

 

B) boyfriend flirting

 

C) boyfriend's friends fault

 

D) you were hurt

 

E) you wanted revenge

 

F) fox cancelled the Cleveland show

 

Just own up to what you did. You cheated on your boyfriend with his friend, period. Your story just sounds like it's rehearsed. It's almost like you had your attorney write it.

 

We all do stupid things we have to own up to. However, you aren't owning up to anything. You're just grasping for straws, trying to find anyone or anyone else to blame. Just stop it.

[Daisy1077]

That escalated quickly.

 

It's easy to judge quickly, when you don't have all the information. Throwing this story out there, I get where the labeling comes in.

 

I will quit drinking, because I want to. I don't like hurting people, nor putting myself in a situation where I can hurt people. Once is enough for myself. Do people change? Considering the circumstances. That all comes down to the person. Thinking people cannot change. Seems like a bit of a negative perspective on life. Again, I don't know your life and the people you associate with.

 

Harsh criticism can make an impact though. In this situation, I do believe I deserve it.

 

I took ownership to my crime. I never said I was not at fault and made that clear to him also. However, I'm trying to make sense of the situation for myself. I did not wake up that day saying, "hey, I've never cheated before. Let's try it!" I've never put myself in this situation. Not remembering what even happened, it's hard to know what was going through my mind at that given moment.

 

It's very difficult to articulate. When I once, have been cheated on before and was so against it.

[OldRover]

This is literally every 21-24 y/o girl I meet. Gets black-out drunk, cheats, feels bad. Does it again the next day. Ruins a relationship, hates herself, eventually blames it on the guy. Finds a new guy. Repeat.

 

The guys are no better, just have a different MO.

 

Just give up on the idea that any of this has meaning and keep doing what you feel like. You'll mature later in life...

 

Sorry to be harsh, we're the same age. I'm just tired of seeing the same drama with all of my friends. Embrace the fact that you're gonna **** around and enjoy your time.

 

DJO,,

 

You have a VERY warped sense of girls and people in general..... the majority of girls in your age bracket do not get drunk and go out and get laid by another guy every chance they have.... you're hanging with the wrong crowd.

[OldRover]

That escalated quickly.

 

It's easy to judge quickly, when you don't have all the information. Throwing this story out there, I get where the labeling comes in.

 

I will quit drinking, because I want to. I don't like hurting people, nor putting myself in a situation where I can hurt people. Once is enough for myself. Do people change? Considering the circumstances. That all comes down to the person. Thinking people cannot change. Seems like a bit of a negative perspective on life. Again, I don't know your life and the people you associate with.

 

Harsh criticism can make an impact though. In this situation, I do believe I deserve it.

 

I took ownership to my crime. I never said I was not at fault and made that clear to him also. However, I'm trying to make sense of the situation for myself. I did not wake up that day saying, "hey, I've never cheated before. Let's try it!" I've never put myself in this situation. Not remembering what even happened, it's hard to know what was going through my mind at that given moment.

 

It's very difficult to articulate. When I once, have been cheated on before and was so against it.

 

Good for you, as your have recognized your issues and are willing to work on them.....GREAT!

[Sweet Workaholic]

That escalated quickly.

 

It's easy to judge quickly, when you don't have all the information. Throwing this story out there, I get where the labeling comes in.

 

I will quit drinking, because I want to. I don't like hurting people, nor putting myself in a situation where I can hurt people. Once is enough for myself. Do people change? Considering the circumstances. That all comes down to the person. Thinking people cannot change. Seems like a bit of a negative perspective on life. Again, I don't know your life and the people you associate with.

 

Harsh criticism can make an impact though. In this situation, I do believe I deserve it.

 

I took ownership to my crime. I never said I was not at fault and made that clear to him also. However, I'm trying to make sense of the situation for myself. I did not wake up that day saying, "hey, I've never cheated before. Let's try it!" I've never put myself in this situation. Not remembering what even happened, it's hard to know what was going through my mind at that given moment.

 

It's very difficult to articulate. When I once, have been cheated on before and was so against it.

 

Having an alcohol problem and doing horrible things when intoxicated is different from doing a horrible thing because you're an evil person lol

 

Those who have lived with alcohol, treat alcohol, or have been close with alcohol understand this difference. I wouldn't lose too much sleep about the people who don't.

 

Of course, if you know you are likely to do horrible things when intoxicated, then you are indeed morally responsible for the choice to get intoxicated, knowing it is likely to lead to something like this. When you drink, you are rolling the dice with your partner's trust and happiness.

 

I wish you the best. Alcohol is a pretty ugly beast; be strong.

[DJOkawari]

DJO,,

 

You have a VERY warped sense of girls and people in general..... the majority of girls in your age bracket do not get drunk and go out and get laid by another guy every chance they have.... you're hanging with the wrong crowd.

 

I would like to believe this!

 

It's not every chance or anything crazy like that, but very often this is how relationships around this age end. I think you've seen a good amount of this in the break ups forum. I'll post a topic about it because I would like to discuss this and have a more positive view myself, but I don't want to derail this thread further.

Edited August 19, 2015 by DJOkawari

[OldRover]

I would like to believe this!

 

It's not every chance or anything crazy like that, but very often this is how relationships around this age end. I think you've seen a good amount of this in the break ups forum. I'll post a topic about it because I would like to discuss this and have a more positive view myself, but I don't want to derail this thread further.

 

Agreed, not to derail this thread, but you new thread would make for good discussion... and perhaps we'll all learn something.

[Spectre]

I just wish people would realize you aren't going to unlock the secrets to life and happiness by riding as many dudes as you possibly can within a 4 year period. Then the even bigger issue later on in life these same people will meet someone and get engaged and just..fail to mention this little fact, hiding behind lovely excuses used since the beginning of time like "the past in the past" and "people totally change" as the rationale for the deceit. Then later on in life they might slip up and tell the truth, then when their partner gets pissed they will come back with "wow I guess you don't truly love me!" being blissfully unaware of the fact that true love goes both ways and you don't hide stuff from people if you love them. Then they end up divorced or just resenting each other. Hey, experimenting in college is fun!