monkey00 Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Me and this female co-worker are pretty cool with each other, we talk and joke all the time in the office. I am not attracted to her, but i like her as a person. But on her end, the signs point to yes with her attraction towards me. The problem is if i do start hanging out iwth her, she might get the wrong idea that im into her. I wouldnt want that to happen. So the way i see it, if i get her to come hang out with me and my friends it probably wouldnt work out. As we do stuff like chill at the park or play at the pool hall. in addition my friends are how you say...strange. AS they have had minimal experience in interacting/communicating with women that it would only make the situation of hanging out seem awkward. I dont know why she told me this, but last time she told me that she basically has no social life & no friends. sits at home in front of the tv. She lives alone, 25....and doesnt like going out cause of the money expense....but i dont blame her since her job doesnt pay a lot and she has no roomate. So the way i see it, none of this would work out at all cause she doesnt like to spend money and i would not want a 1on1 hangout as it would seem like some kind of date. so im assuming the best thing to do now is nothing at all and leave things the way they are... unfortunately...none of this post makes sense as it's self-defeating its purpose.. anyone iwth suggestions or input? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Don't hang out with her. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Definitely do not hang out with her. Her attraction to you negates any chance of you two being able to have an actual friendship. People who are attracted to someone else tend to read in all sorts of hopeful 'signs' where there simply aren't any. Wishful thinking can do that to people. The last thing you want is to hang out with her, and then have her accuse you of 'leading her on' - because no matter what you say, she's going to interpret your hanging out with her as a hopeful sign of interest and she will allow her attraction for you to build. Is there anyone of your friends who might be interested who you could set her up with on a date or something? Link to post Share on other sites
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