BrotherAaron Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 My ex started calling me this weekend again after a long period of psuedo-no-contact. We lived so close that it was impossible not to see each other, and thus subconsciously be aware of what was going on in each other's lives. Well, she took advantage of this proximity and sparked a conversation with me on the last day of living in the dorms as we were moving out saying that she wants to "call a truce" (she saw not talking to each other when we saw eachother several times a day to be a perpetual fight) and I agreed. I told her that I didn't hate her, I just prefer not to talk to her. The weekend after moving out, she was shopping with her parents and ran into my entire family (except myself). Our families talked, and her parents said that they missed having me around sooo much (her family loved me) etc. This sparked her to call me. She apologized for making out with my friend, and we talked for about an hour with a semi-flirty tone. Afterwards, she texted me 9 or 10 times in a row, and practically wrote me a freaking book saying that she could only see herself with me and ended with a message that said "Lets run away tonight" with a phone call afterwards. At first, I didn't know how to respond, so I didn't respond at all. Then I remembered all of the s*** she put me through, and I became firm in my resolve. She's still dating the guy she cheated on me with, how the hell am I supposed to believe that she wants to run away with me. She called me today to tell me that she's moving back to go to school for the summer. She said that she's really only taking one class so that she can live in the student housing and have an excuse to go back - and I know she's only going to be with him. I figure she must be running back to him since I rejected her (although, if you guys have differing theories, feel free to offer 'em up). Anyway, after hearing this, I realized how empty her words were, and I wrote her an email telling her that she was out of line sending me those messages. I reminded her that she's dating somebody, and she shouldn't be feeding me those lines unless she meant them 100%, and should not be seriously dating someone and trying to mantain a relationship with me. I told her that her behavior is disgusting. I told her to get her priorities straight, and not to bother trying to talk to me for as long as she's still seeing that guy. Was I better off telling her all of this, or should I have just cut off communication with no explanation? Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Well after my last 2 days, I would say NC is the best option. She's still seeing this guy and wants to be with you?! She's got as many issues as my Ex and is very confused. Do you want to lay your heart out there to be stomped on again? If not, MOVE ON! Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Always remember the s*** she put you through, be strong in NC and should she have an emotional crisis requiring your attention tell her to call the crisis line and talk to someone that cares. What a loser she is, she's screwing the guy she cheated on you with, he has 1/10th the IQ of a tractor mechanic from the village, he'll probably wind up in a rundown trailer house by the edge of a dusty corn field and she has the nerve to tell you all that cr@p about seeing herself only with you. In all seriousness you'd have better luck trying to shove a pound of butter up a bobcat's a$$ with a red hot poker than you would in ANY kind of a relationship with her (and the bobcat wouldn't give you an STD.) She has serious issues don't make them yours. Link to post Share on other sites
Amandine Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 I think you may be viewing what you did as selfish when it is not. What you have done is admirable. You evaluated your situation correctly: If she loves you, why is she still with someone else. You are smart to at least wait until the other guy is out of the picture before any more talk of running away together. Some people wouldn't have been so strong, and then then they would have ended up being toyed with. :\ Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Seriously, you couldn't have gotten a better revenge on the guy. Now look at what he's stuck with. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by BrotherAaron Was I better off telling her all of this, or should I have just cut off communication with no explanation? Cutting off comm without explanation would have been better because then there would have been a huge void that her mind would have had to fill in with any of 1,000 possible explanations. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Cutting off comm without explanation would have been better because then there would have been a huge void that her mind would have had to fill in with any of 1,000 possible explanations. Two words: NO CONTACT Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Forward all the messages she sent you to the guy's phone! Tell het to stay the hell out of your family, they don't approve of sluts! That should make her get her priorities straight! You're too much of a gentleman, you really are! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrotherAaron Posted May 10, 2005 Author Share Posted May 10, 2005 Well, I noticed that my email was still in my outlook inbox - it was trying to send it out from my school email that requires a password, so it was waiting for me. I deleted it. She should have known that I wasn't going to "run away" with her (whatever the hell that means) and if she doesn't understand why already nothing I say to her is going to change that. Originally posted by CurlyIam Forward all the messages she sent you to the guy's phone! Tell het to stay the hell out of your family, they don't approve of sluts! That should make her get her priorities straight! You're too much of a gentleman, you really are! Well that's almost a compliment - a little bit too much reminiscent of "your such a nice guy". Surely you don't mean to imply I'm too nice, do you? Forwarding the messages would be doing him a favor. I intentionally plan to let him figure things out the hard way. It's hard to be jealous of a relationship when she tells me that she's always wishing she was with me instead of him, and he's none the wiser... I could care less if she stays with him. I'd be willing to bet he wouldn't even break up with her if he knew about the messages. Meanwhile he's already in way deep with her. The shmuck bought her a promise ring for her birthday - doesn't he realize that she was wearing the one I got her for her b-day three years ago when she cheated on me? It sounds like they both get what they deserve. No, he gets no such favor from me. Like LucreziaBorgia said... Seriously, you couldn't have gotten a better revenge on the guy. Now look at what he's stuck with. I couldn't agree more. Well I ensured that the email wont be sent, alpha, so there will be 1,000 questions bouncing around in her skull, and the 325 miles (as opposed to living across a small courtyard) between us will mean that NC will finally be easy, Blind_Otter. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 What a messed up girl! What does she do, wears both rings now? I think that's her modus operandi. She doesn't only love the attention, but the drama also. That's why she contacted you. Unless they're not dying with excitement, they're simply not happy. And they're willing to do all it takes for it. Maybe not allowing her to have the first role is a good thing. Thanks Lord you didn't fell for her joke, too. I was thinking that if you had forwarded her guy the email, you'd be doing him a favour. but, as you said, not only does he not desirve it, but it wouldn't make a difference. I certainly didn't mean to insult you by actually calling you a "nice guy" . It was just my way of saying you're sweet and considerate and that I do appreciate these traits in a man. That's all. NC is the worst punishment you could give her. I believe she suffers from the "attention whore" symptoms... so just don't deliver her this. She'll have to figure out another way of spicing up her "love" life! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrotherAaron Posted May 10, 2005 Author Share Posted May 10, 2005 I certainly didn't mean to insult you by actually calling you a "nice guy" . It was just my way of saying you're sweet and considerate and that I do appreciate these traits in a man. That's all. Oh of course you meant it as a compliment, they always do Just kidding Curly. I am a gentleman, and thanks for noticing Originally posted by CurlyIam What a messed up girl! What does she do, wears both rings now? I think that's her modus operandi. She doesn't only love the attention, but the drama also. That's why she contacted you. Unless they're not dying with excitement, they're simply not happy. And they're willing to do all it takes for it. It seems to be her style. It's strange, she seems to have a split personality all of a sudden. One of her close friends said that she'll talk about what she'll doing and look extremely upset, then like a switch become angry and defensive of her actions. I dunno whats goin through her pretty little head, but rational thoughts are getting lost somewhere in that void. I figure she lost me fair and square, and I hope it hurts. Maybe when she wakes up to realize that I'm gone and she's to blame, it'll serve as a reality check about how she needs to treat people. Do people like her ever learn? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 I doubt it, Aron. IT's how they are. One can hardly change that this easily! Don't give another thought. Just let her go. She didn't learn a damn thing. That girl is trouble! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrotherAaron Posted May 11, 2005 Author Share Posted May 11, 2005 Yeah, don't worry, I have no desire to talk to this girl. I don't put up with the kind of s*** she serves up. I mean, part of blowing her off harshly is in hope that she learns not to treat people like crap - maybe permanently losing who she said she feels is the love of her life would be what it takes. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 11, 2005 Share Posted May 11, 2005 Originally posted by BrotherAaron she wants to "call a truce" How refreshing. Next. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 11, 2005 Share Posted May 11, 2005 Originally posted by BrotherAaron Yeah, don't worry, I have no desire to talk to this girl. I don't put up with the kind of s*** she serves up. I mean, part of blowing her off harshly is in hope that she learns not to treat people like crap - maybe permanently losing who she said she feels is the love of her life would be what it takes. Babe, I've followed your saga and can't help but think that this thread title should have been "She said 'My mental processes are not based in reality, let's run away together'".... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 11, 2005 Share Posted May 11, 2005 Originally posted by BrotherAaron I mean, part of blowing her off harshly is in hope that she learns not to treat people like crap - maybe permanently losing who she said she feels is the love of her life would be what it takes. She may never learn... but at least you won't have to put up with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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