JewelD Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 Me and my mother don't have the best relationship. She was cruel and controlling as I was growing up. Now that I'm in college and have my own place (3 years now), she visits and complained that I needed a 2nd tv in my living room for her to watch when she visits. I should note that she's only recently started visiting me. She came down maybe 3 times in my 3yrs of undergrad. I also already have a tv in my bedroom. I had no intentions of buying another one bc I obviously can't watch two tv's at once. However, I was nice and used some of student refund to purchase the tv and tv stand. for more money than I would have liked to spend on something I don't really need. Even though I spent waaay more than I wanted to, my mother was happy. However, when it comes to other things, she's always in my pockets worried about how much I'm spending. It bothers me bc she never helps when I need it, she has no clue what my budget it, and yet she thinks she has some place to tell me what I can and can't buy. I bought $12 worth of soap and she wouldn't stfu about it. But even though she's sooo concerned about my money and saving it, she is kicking me off the family plan bc my sister is leaving it. and she's only leaving because she has a bf who can help her pay her bills. I'm paying all my bills on my own with my stipend and student loans. it kills me that my mother couldn't wait until I graduated and got a real job to do this. It's gonna cost me 200 for a phone, 50 for the plan, 300 for the tv and tv stand, and an additional 10 bucks every month on my cable bill. I'd be surprised if I didn't end up needing additional loans, but I know if I need help she's not goin to do a damn thing. I don't know why I even bother with her sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 You should have based the size of the tv on the amount of respect she gives you. I think 19 " tv's are as small as they go these days and you would have saved a lot of money Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 I'd be surprised if I didn't end up needing additional loans, but I know if I need help she's not goin to do a damn thing. I don't know why I even bother with her sometimes. How much did she spend on you from years 0 - 18? Also, why did you HAVE to buy the TV? You're an adult, you don't have to. Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 I don't really get some of these things... why do you have to buy a new phone? Can't you just keep the phone and get a new plan with the same provider? I don't really see it as being unfair to have to pay your own phone bill though... And I don't get the tv, it's your place. If she wants a tv in the living room she should buy one. I think it's horrible when parents treat their kids student loans as a family windfall. This is money that will slow down your start to life. My advise is take out as little as possible. If you are paying for things like cable out of your student loans, get rid of it, and just watch Netflix. Can you go with a cheaper pay as you go plan, rather than a $50/month plan? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JewelD Posted August 17, 2015 Author Share Posted August 17, 2015 How much did she spend on you from years 0 - 18? Also, why did you HAVE to buy the TV? You're an adult, you don't have to. She's not my child, so I'm not seeing why that matters. If I didn't buy it, there would have been consequences. She can be spiteful when she wants to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JewelD Posted August 17, 2015 Author Share Posted August 17, 2015 You should have based the size of the tv on the amount of respect she gives you. I think 19 " tv's are as small as they go these days and you would have saved a lot of money She wanted at least a 32 so she could see. and I found an offbrand 40 for about the same as the brand name 32. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 (edited) She's not my child, so I'm not seeing why that matters. If I didn't buy it, there would have been consequences. She can be spiteful when she wants to. Buy it = consequences Don't buy it = consequences. lesser of two evils? Maybe it's a fine line deciding which option would be better/worse. Are you venting, or do you want to find a way to sort your problem out? Edited August 17, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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