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Hi I'm a 21 year old guy dating a younger girl who 19 and we been dating for a year in half now and I have some concerns about her seeing her guy friend who tried to kiss her about 2 weeks of me dating her and recently I let her see him again and I guess he took her to a house party and they were talk for 3 hours straight apparently and when she came back he message her saying "so do you like me?" And I'm starting to wonder if she is cheating on me with him and should I not let her see him or talk to him? After I confronted her about the message,she got upset and we almost broke up because she told me that I was to jealous for her but after I said I wasn't mad just for her to calm down but I still am upset about it what should I do?

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If she's upset because you only raised the subject calmly, it means that she feels very guilty. About what? It could be variety of things.

 

1. Maybe something did happened between them at the party. A kiss, making out, or more...

 

2. Maybe he only tried to do things, and she was afraid that you will be upset, so she's defensive in advance.

 

3. Maybe nothing has happened, but she's attracted to him, and is feeling guilty.

 

Maybe something else.

 

But the real red flag you should be worried about, is - her threatening to break up with you while arguing about it. It shows that her love to you depends on how much she feels wanted in the market. She feels a little high because she is courted by a guy, so she allows herself to treat you arrogantly.

 

Why? Because she can, at least that's the way she feels. something like - "Be a doormat and do as i say, otherwise I have other options". You can be her doormat, or you can be a man, and refuse to recieve "a favor" from her, because maybe she thinks that by being your Gf, she's doing you a favor.

 

Maybe she's innocent, maybe she didn't do anything wrong, but I would never ever never never allow any threats to be obedient "or else...." from any Gf.

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Hi I'm a 21 year old guy dating a younger girl who 19 and we been dating for a year in half now and I have some concerns about her seeing her guy friend who tried to kiss her about 2 weeks of me dating her and recently I let her see him again and I guess he took her to a house party and they were talk for 3 hours straight apparently and when she came back he message her saying "so do you like me?" And I'm starting to wonder if she is cheating on me with him and should I not let her see him or talk to him? After I confronted her about the message,she got upset and we almost broke up because she told me that I was to jealous for her but after I said I wasn't mad just for her to calm down but I still am upset about it what should I do?

 

Let her? Are you her father?

 

If she wants to see him again, she's going to do that.

 

If you can't trust her, then why are you with her?

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Two things:

 

 

You are her BF, not her jailer. As a 19 year old she's free to do whatever she likes & can hang out with whomever. She doesn't need your permission. Her actions may have consequences. You don't have to date some one who you think is disrespecting you.

 

 

He's not her friend. He is a guy who likes her. If she can't see that & can't see how destructive his faltering attentions are, then perhaps she is not as into you as you think.

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