jsmith92 Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 Been with my girlfriend for 6 months now, things are good but there a few problems I am facing right now. Im 24 and she is 21, she comes from a well off family with a decent job and is used to having what she wants. Im from a family of 4 kids who have always struggled and have had to work for everything I want. I have a basic job which is enough for now but I need more I feel if I am to have a future with this girl. I have been in my current job for 3 years and I know I need to do better but I just have no idea what to go into. She has a brand new car which her father paid for, I dont drive as my family just are not in this position to help me out unfortunately and I can't really afford to splash out on a car right now I have more important things to worry about like saving up. I just feel like I'm not good enough for her, I don't want to feel like this. I haven't felt like this with any of my exes before but this girl just seems to get what she wants when she wants and I feel i cant provide it for her. She assures me that I am good enough for her, and i know I am in terms of being there for her and caring about her, I really do care about her and we get on really well but its just the feeling of not being enough for her which creeps in every now and then. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Justanaverageguy Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 Only tip I would give you is this. If you think you aren't good enough for her - soon she will start thinking the same thing. People take their queues for behavior based on your own. If she started dating you and has been with you for 6 months she clearly knows that you don't come from money and evidently that's not something that is important to her when it comes to dating. If she decides she doesn't want to date you - it won't be because she thinks you don't have enough money to support her. It will be because you think that you don't have enough money to support her and it makes her feel uncomfortable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jsmith92 Posted August 18, 2015 Author Share Posted August 18, 2015 I understand what you mean, I haven't really felt like this until recently. I just want to be doing better in myself and right now I just feel like its not enough for her, Its more of a pride thing too I feel like I should be able to support her and I want to be able to. We are not serious yet but I have known her a few years and she is talking about moving in with each other next year, and by then I just want to be settled and confident in myself as right now I feel I am lacking that and don't want that to effect our relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 I will share a little secret of mine with you, and tell you what i find undeniably irresistible super duper sex-eeeeeeeeee in a man is: a man who is working toward his dreams... that's the magic!! I think by all accounts, you sound f-en sexy! Just relax... She likes you..She's WITH YOU!!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jsmith92 Posted August 18, 2015 Author Share Posted August 18, 2015 Its hard, I was with my ex for 3 years and she was in similar position to me, family who didn't have much and had to work for everything & now I'm with this girl she gets a lot of what she wants like that because her family are in a position to provide that for her, and I'm happy she has that but it just makes me feel like sooner or later she will expect more from me, and I want to be able to give it to her. I been in same job for 3 years and its because I really have no idea what I want to do and that is knocking me back a bit too. The job isnt the greatest but I have become so used to it that I just feel stuck there, but I want to do better and feel better in myself & I want to feel confident that my girlfriend is happy with what I am doing for us. Like I said we do really get on, she tells me she wants a future with me & I know she means it I just got to improve myself and stop letting that effect us I suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 You think she is so special. So far all you told us is why her family has money. What has she done besides be lucky enough to be born in that family? You have a work ethic. Use it. For now though, since you think she's all that. Assume she is wonderful, amazing whatever. SHE -- Miss Perfect in your eyes -- picked YOU. So there must be something to you if she thinks so. Meanwhile get your act together. Figure out what you want to do. Set some goals & then achieve them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 As long as you are loyal, honest and love her, you ARE good enough. Everything else will come with time. God knows there are husbands with money who treat their partners like s***. You are good enough - she chose you 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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