Our break up has turned into a head game, we used to be so real with each other?

[whirlwindlove]

When are there such head-games when you break up. My ex and I kept it so real, when we were together. I was the one who started doubting "US". He thought I was the one, and I tried to convince myself the same. I take blame for hurting him first, because I was getting confused if I really loved him. It is ironic how my world spinned. We dated for 8 months, before our sad breakup occurred. We both had so much going on in our loves, that we dwindled our energy for our relationship. I got point when I pushed him enough that he broke up with me. The sad thing is, I thought that was what I wanted. WRONG! It has been 3 month since we broke up. I have been heart-broken, and found how much I really loved him. I did everything I could do, to win him back. It is so hard, not to text, or call sometimes. I miss him madly! One thing, I don't understand, is how he can love me so much, and not want to work things out. I have made a lot changes, and wish I can share them with him. I have seen him twice, since we broke up, but I always play cool, and never say what I want to say. I just wish I knew what he was thinking. If he misses me? Or doing the guy thing. Or maybe I just want to know if he stills loves me? He says he needs space, but when I needed space he never respected that, and was persistent. He doesn't respond, only sometimes, late night. What we had was special, and don't want to cheapen it. What do guys think, when they say thought you were the one for them? Will he ever come around again? Or is this a head game, where he loves the fact, that he has the control, and I am Pursuing him. I think because he opened up, and loved me so much, and I hurt him, he feels this is revenge somehow?

[outdated]

If he truly thinks you are the one, he'll be back. He has to, he will have no choice. People get scared when they face the possibility that they've finally found what they're looking for and they make rash decisions. I'm on the wrong end of that myself. They get so attached and afraid that they will get hurt that they run away. It's the easy thing to do. Sometimes they never come back, and that's the sad reality. If he clears his head and still thinks you're the one, he will find you.

[whirlwindlove]

Your words are very true. I don't consider myself to be naive, but it amazing what love will do to you. I guess when I figure out what I want, I trust my instincts, and don't give up. Deep down I fear he will find someone who maybe he wouldn't love as much.. over having going back to me, and ending in a heartbreak. I stepped into his shoes, and it broke my heart to feel, how maybe he felt. He confided in me how he had been cheated on in the past. I never cheated on him, but he lost his trust in my love for him. How do guys have so much will power not to call? I think he convinced himself, that we have no future. It is so hard to accept that, but he has a hard time dealing with emotions, he suppresses his feelings. I just feel deep down inside we could make it if we had the opportunity to try things over. How can you convince someone to believe you. I have humbled myself to no ends.

[whirlwindlove]

I know people show feelings it different ways. I have a really hard time with the texting bit. I need to bury my phone from the hours 10:00 p.m to daylight It is possible to gain your respect back, after not doing a good job on the space thing. I can go about about a week before I break down and send a text. It is horrible! I feel so pathetic. I consider myself a strong, independent, business women, but this break up has weaken me. I hate it. I think I could get the gold for the text messeges. Maybe runner up for the no response back category.