Jump to content

fiancé going to conference at nude hot springs


Recommended Posts

Agreed - it can certainly cause issues within a relationship. I personally would not find it appropriate, and wouldn't participate in something like this myself out of respect for my boyfriend.

 

I do however believe that many people could work through something like this, and OP is so very correct when he states that just because his girlfriend may see attractive men naked, that she will not feel less attracted/in love with him, and she certainly won't cheat unless she was already so inclined.

 

I guess logically, OP does not have much to worry about here, and I'm glad they seem to have come to an agreement that they're both comfortable with.

 

I would most certainly trust my boyfriend in such a situation, but personally, I would find it disrespectful if he had simply informed me that he was going to nude soak, rather than discussing the idea with me gently and with understanding first, and that would be something I'd find tricky to work through.

 

The inclined to cheat thing I agree with in theory. But no one is immune to all temptation so why put yourself in proximity to other naked people such that not cheating would be a moral victory?

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
The inclined to cheat thing I agree with in theory. But no one is immune to all temptation so why put yourself in proximity to other naked people such that not cheating would be a moral victory?

 

You're correct when you say that no one is immune to all temptation. I just feel that for me, sitting in some pools naked, covered with water up to the neck (I'm guessing), occasionally catching glimpses of other people's bits as they get in or out wouldn't be very tempting at all to me...or to my boyfriend.

 

Perhaps I'm being a bit naive here, but I just feel that in a strong relationship, it would take a lot more than the exposed body of a compete stranger to make someone stray, and don't feel that this situation would really, truly tempt someone that is committed and in love with their partner.

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
You're correct when you say that no one is immune to all temptation. I just feel that for me, sitting in some pools naked, covered with water up to the neck (I'm guessing), occasionally catching glimpses of other people's bits as they get in or out wouldn't be very tempting at all to me...or to my boyfriend.

 

Perhaps I'm being a bit naive here, but I just feel that in a strong relationship, it would take a lot more than the exposed body of a compete stranger to make someone stray, and don't feel that this situation would really, truly tempt someone that is committed and in love with their partner.

 

In theory yes but I would never do this and would be furious if she did

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
In theory yes but I would never do this and would be furious if she did

 

Totally understandable. And like I said earlier - I wouldn't do this either out of respect for my boyfriend's feelings.

 

I guess I'm just playing devil's advocate a bit here ;)

  • Like 3
Link to post
Share on other sites
Totally understandable. And like I said earlier - I wouldn't do this either out of respect for my boyfriend's feelings.

 

I guess I'm just playing devil's advocate a bit here ;)

 

I think you are. I just can't envision a scenario where I would think it's ok to expose my naked penis to other women and expect my wife to be ok with it. But you know that, right:)

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
I honestly think that he has nothing to worry about.

 

I'm sorry, but this makes no sense. His gf knew about this naked conference for 9 months and didn't say a damn word and you feel it is nothing to worry about?

 

Are you this guys girlfriend posting on this forum or something? That is the ONLY PERSON I could ever imagine shrugging this major major detail off like it's nothing. If so: this entire this is a bad idea, don't go to this thing without your fiance unless playing with fire is a hobby of yours.

  • Like 3
Link to post
Share on other sites
×
×
  • Create New...