Cheated because he was scared of telling me what he really wanted..

[emzygirl]

me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now. We got together when he came over to france (where I live) and we have been together ever since. The only problem is that he lives in the Uk. I go over when I can get the time off and when I went over this time I found some text messages on his phone.. He was meeting up with "a sex worker" for sex. I don't know if anyone has been cheated on but when I found out I thought I was going to collapse, I was planning on not telling him that I knew to see if he'd tell me but I couldn't keep it to myself. When I finally calmed down he told me that he did because he likes really rough sex and he wanted to try it with me but he was too scared of hurting me and of me feeling ashamed of him. I don't really know what to do... Has anyone experienced a similar situation ? Can anyone give me advice ?

Thank you

[Poppyolive]

Yes, leave him. He didn't tell you. This could of been going on for months. Get tested asap. Don't believe the bull crap about not wanting to hurt you and didn't know how to comunicate with you. He's trying to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him. He cheated because he didn't want to hurt you or ask you for rough sex. Yah right. He did it because he wanted to and didn't think he'd get caught. This guy has no respect for you, your relationship & has put you health at risk.

he's a right piece of work.

 

You're going to leave him, right?

[m.snow]

glad you two aren't married yet!

you need to talk it over. you need to whats best for you.

but it shows you his personality and what he is capable of.

[Arieswoman]

OP,

This

 

Yes, leave him. He didn't tell you. This could of been going on for months. Get tested asap. Don't believe the bull crap about not wanting to hurt you and didn't know how to comunicate with you. He's trying to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him. He cheated because he didn't want to hurt you or ask you for rough sex. Yah right. He did it because he wanted to and didn't think he'd get caught. This guy has no respect for you, your relationship & has put you health at risk.

he's a right piece of work.

 

is smart advice - please take it and dump this guy - he's hazardous to your health

[Celestial-dreamer]

Only 10 months in and he's cheating, because he wouldn't tell you what his like are in the bedroom? For real, you two should be at it like rabbits. Run as fast as you can. Seriously. If he can't tell you what he likes you have no hope.

[ExpatInItaly]

Dump him immediately. He's a terrible boyfriend and doesn't love you.

 

And get yourself a full STI/HIV test.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Dump him & go full NC. Most cheaters are flawed & not good relationship material. People like that have the same mindset as addicts. There will always be an excuse to justify their bad behavior.