simps0n Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 In addition to child-rearing and housework I also work full time and do a lot of work travel so sex has not been a priority. In addition to this, i am a very tactile and affectionate person and as my husband has always been much more reserved, i have forced myself to be less open in my love for him as i could see my open affection was sometimes making him uncomfortable. This turns out to have been what made him think i was not interested in him anymore physically. He now promised to be morebopen with his feelings but i have told him that trust is gone and words are meaningless. If he really wants me as much as he says he'll need to prove it with actions.i've always been the driving force in our relationship but by doing what he did he'sbproven he can take initiative. Now it's his chance to do so. Thanks so much to you all for your words, they are a lifeline in this dark time. You are a strong woman, Marta. I think your decision to give him a chance is reasonable. At the end of the day, you want a MAN behind you and essentially you were the man in your relationship up to now. Your husband should either realize this, or he simply does not deserve you. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
sm2281 Posted September 5, 2015 Share Posted September 5, 2015 At this point, what would you like to see happen? You can't change what he's done or his attitude about having done so. Time to start giving some thought about what the best outcome for you would look like... Mr. Lucky I agree wifh almost all of this. I think you can work it out if you find the root of the problem. You also have to be willing to ldt it gonif you believe nothing has happened. Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredLady Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Some people do selfish, cruel, despicable things. They do it step by stupid step so it doesn't seem as terrible to them as it really is. People who do bad things try to justify it to themselves. People who are blindsided, betrayed & shocked also struggle to find reasons & meaning for the sake of their own sanity! I believe the truth is there often isn't any real reason or 'cause'. It's just a dumb step that becomes a cruel ride on the slippery slope. This is HIS MESS. Please don't destroy your self esteme by trying to shoulder ANY of the blame here! I ripped myself to pieces because I was such a bad wife for having severe health problems that led to surgery & recovery. I'd always been the physically affectionate 'driver' of our relationship too. Like my H he needs to own & analyse his own behavior to move forward. My thoughts are with you. I'm so sorry you're hurting like this. Link to post Share on other sites
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