ExpatInItaly Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Send a simple message: "I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me anymore. Best of luck to you." The. End. Block his number. Delete him from Skype. Get away from him in every way you can. This relationship is not normal or healthy at all. Good for you for recognizing that. You will be 1 000 times better off without a leech like him. Believe me, most women my age (mid-thirties) would not even give this guy the time of day. And there's a darn good reason for that. Why do you think he's resorted to trolling the internet for young women to control? Because any normal and healthy woman his age wouldn't want anything to do with him. He's so below my standards, and he should be way below yours too. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Fleur de cactus Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I am not trying to be rude or judgmental but I have a hard time to believe in this thread. From the beginning you indicated that you cannot being away from cam for more then 20 min. While we are trying to convince you to end this relationship you are crying that you do no want to hurt his heart. Now out of the blue he is the one who shuts down everything? What coincidence? Link to post Share on other sites
Fuerza Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I am not trying to be rude or judgmental but I have a hard time to believe in this thread. From the beginning you indicated that you cannot being away from cam for more then 20 min. While we are trying to convince you to end this relationship you are crying that you do no want to hurt his heart. Now out of the blue he is the one who shuts down everything? What coincidence? I didn't want to say this either, but I was thinking it too! Great minds think alike! Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I didn't want to say this either, but I was thinking it too! Great minds think alike! You're not the only two thinking the same... Best, TMichaels 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ldrhurtsomuch Posted August 25, 2015 Author Share Posted August 25, 2015 I am not trying to be rude or judgmental but I have a hard time to believe in this thread. From the beginning you indicated that you cannot being away from cam for more then 20 min. While we are trying to convince you to end this relationship you are crying that you do no want to hurt his heart. Now out of the blue he is the one who shuts down everything? What coincidence? what do you mean shuts everything down? if you're on about the update yesterday? then he came back late and said that his ex pulled the power cable out of his laptop, she said it was an accident, and he said that it wouldn't start up afterwards, was all too weird to believe, so no he didn't shut down everything, which doesn't make much sense btw. and as for not being able to be away from the computer for even 15 minutes by the way, has a lot to do with the fact that i couldn't go out anymore, because he always wants me there, and that got to the point that i got too emotionally attached to him, that i got used to being on here with him 24/7 , so now i worry when he goes away from his computer (excluding that he has to go afk to see to his children), especially when his ex is there. you weren't being judgmental or rude, just a little misunderstanding i guess. things have changed because i've come to the realization that i'm just better off, and he is better off too, and i think him and his ex have a great chance of getting back together and working things out, she is actually nice, and not all that he described her to be, she spoke to me today, told me that he is a good man and to take good care of him and love him the way she did, and cried. and she left with their little girl, to her mothers until monday when she returns to Germany, and he's been really upset most of the day because he's missing his little girl to pieces, and i don't blame him, he watched her grow, you know? he's been there from when she was born, his ex left to Germany with another man, when the little girl was only 3 months old, and the little boy too. and now she's sending him messages on skype saying she didn't want to take the little girl, she wanted to stay there with him and their kids permanently, and said that she will stay in love with him, and he replied to her with a sad face, but he told me it was because he misses the little girl, and that his heart is with me and not his ex. i feel so bad for that even now, i've felt completely out of place since his ex was here, and when she had gone, he immediately apologized for leaving me out, and ignoring me, and said that his ex wouldn't leave him alone, but i have a feeling that since she came back, all his old feelings came back, because they were play fighting alot, joking around, and they even took the kids out together. it has hurt, and it's going to hurt even more when i end it, and it will break his heart, because i know he has feelings for me too, god i can't see him as the complete bad guy, because other than the controlling, and this thing with his ex, he's a good guy deep down, he has a heart, he helps others, and he's very smart, he does good things, but i guess we're just not right for eachother, and since i calmed down from a panic attack, i came to realize that, even though it's going to upset me at some point, the thought of him breaking down, feeling hopeless, god i at least want to write something reassuring to him on my letter. i hope you guys understand now... Link to post Share on other sites
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