warrenorabbits Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 I feel a little conflicted when my female friends complain about catcalling. To be clear, I 100% think it's a nasty, demeaning thing to do, and I would never do it myself. Where I feel iffy is in condemning someone for something I feel like I'm not immune to. Like I said, catcalling on the street is ugly. It pisses me off so much when one of my girl friends can't even go outside to exercise without some perv yelling at her. But then I look inside myself. I've catcalled many a woman inside my head, and I've fantasized about having sex with most of my female friends. So how am I any better than people who express these desires out loud? After all, I've wanted to come on to women before but just not done it, either out of restraint or intimidation. Certainly I have enough respect to not vocalize my every sexual impulse, just as I have enough restraint to not kill my boss just because I sometimes fantasize about doing so. But am I not, essentially, just as perverted as the guy who's yelling at women out his car window? Only in a more appealing package? I don't know what the point of this is. Just a stream of consciousness after my friend was catcalled on a street corner. Link to post Share on other sites
La.Primavera Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 There is a huge difference because your thoughts do no impact her, whereas catcalling or yelling out sexual things at a woman is at the very least makes her feel awkward and embarrassed, or worse makes her feel threatened and vulnerable. It should be completely unacceptable behavior for any man who respects women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Catcalling can be demeaning. Not all cultures view it the same way though. There is something to be said about being open and up front with what the guy is thinking. At least your friend knows that's what the catcalling man is thinking, and she knows she is not interested! Whereas, a charming guy can put up a good front, and secretly have the same thought pattern as the catcaller. But now the girl has fallen for the charmer, who underneath is really just a catcaller in sheep's clothing! Sorry, OP...guys just can't win sometimes ! This isn't an attack on you!! The question is: are there any guys who try to curb that base physical attraction, and actually generate interest in the girl for who she is? I'm sure there must be some! Link to post Share on other sites
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