Gingerlocks Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 I was just talking to my mom about this today... We both have the same opinion. That the Dumpee shouldn't EVER contact, as he/she was dumped. My ex (girlfriends break during exams; led me to false hope), texted me a month ago saying that when she came home from vacation, she would contact me again, as she wants to try again... Haven't heard anything from her, for a month now. Should I just keep on with my NC? Things are going good. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 As a general proposition the dumpee is powerless. Here since your EX reached out to you about getting back together if you want to get back with her, you two will have to speak. So in this instance, I think you can call. permission aside unless the things that broke you up have been fixed, there is no sense trying to reconcile. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 23, 2015 Author Share Posted August 23, 2015 As a general proposition the dumpee is powerless. Here since your EX reached out to you about getting back together if you want to get back with her, you two will have to speak. So in this instance, I think you can call. permission aside unless the things that broke you up have been fixed, there is no sense trying to reconcile. Well, I don't know if they have been fixed. I have honestly no idea... I just feel like that if I contact her, things will just go downhill again. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 Well, I don't know if they have been fixed. I have honestly no idea... I just feel like that if I contact her, things will just go downhill again. Then that is your answer. Do not contact her again. What is the problem? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 23, 2015 Author Share Posted August 23, 2015 Then that is your answer. Do not contact her again. What is the problem? True... also.. I've godt reminded of the things which annoys me.. I couldn't be with my friends. AND. She wouldn't let me go home to get my medicine. She would get so angry at me. (anti-depressants. I have anxiety)... I also think that is SO wrong? Or is that just me Link to post Share on other sites
Ijustdon'tgetit Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 Of course it's wrong. It's not love if you don't want all of a person or want that person to change. You deserve someone who can empathize with you about your mental health, not condemn you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 23, 2015 Author Share Posted August 23, 2015 True. And the part with friends. I should be able to hang out with my friends right? Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 If your exgirlfriend is not texting you, that means you are not top priority. So if you are not top priority, why are you making her yours? NC is NC for a reason. And based on my personal past expereinces, I advice you to never reach out again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 23, 2015 Author Share Posted August 23, 2015 Why would she ask me to go again, but never come back to me? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 24, 2015 Author Share Posted August 24, 2015 Out of the blue, I got a text from her best friend. She said; "Hey! I shouldn't really be telling you this, but I really like you, and I don't understand why ******** would treat you like this. Anyways. I spoke with her, and she told me, that she is not sure how she is feeling/what she wants... Hope you are doing okay, and that you and her will get back together"... What........ Link to post Share on other sites
surferchic Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 Out of the blue, I got a text from her best friend. She said; "Hey! I shouldn't really be telling you this, but I really like you, and I don't understand why ******** would treat you like this. Anyways. I spoke with her, and she told me, that she is not sure how she is feeling/what she wants... Hope you are doing okay, and that you and her will get back together"... What........ Wow, I'm sorry no one had responded to this last post... You must be confused to say the least... Words that come to mind when reading what her "friend" said: game playing, confusion, immaturity. I feel like your ex put your friend up to it. They're trying to get a reaction from you. Don't respond. If you must, don't act to emotional because that'll make her/ them think that you will always respond to games. Id send an extremely short text telling them to "chill out with the immature games, because it's repulsive."... Or, don't respond at all! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 25, 2015 Author Share Posted August 25, 2015 hey man, thanks for the respons! I haven't replied to it, I've just deleted the message straight away. Im so sick and tired of her playing games. "But I need time..." stuff like that... So immature right? And I deserve way better? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 25, 2015 Author Share Posted August 25, 2015 Anybody? Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 Ig. Nore. Link to post Share on other sites
Jimmyjackson Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 If she is having seconds thoughts and is serious about it she will contact you instead of getting her friend to do so. Just stay quiet, in my opinion if someone really wants you or to talk to you they will do it themselves...this thing with her friend seems half arsed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 26, 2015 Author Share Posted August 26, 2015 Should I also block all of her family/mutual friends on facebook? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 26, 2015 Author Share Posted August 26, 2015 Even though me and the rest of her family got on well? And mutual friends. We got on really well... But still. I guess i should block them as well? Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted August 27, 2015 Share Posted August 27, 2015 Yeah, son. Block all them em effers. It'll feel goooood. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 27, 2015 Author Share Posted August 27, 2015 hahahaha. Sorted! Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Don't block them. It looks childish. And you guys might still come back. How will you feel then after having blocked them? Wait a little, I'd say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 28, 2015 Author Share Posted August 28, 2015 Don't block them. It looks childish. And you guys might still come back. How will you feel then after having blocked them? Wait a little, I'd say. Have you read my story? Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Don't block them. It looks childish. And you guys might still come back. How will you feel then after having blocked them? Wait a little, I'd say.Don't listen to edgy. Who cares how it looks? Blocking helps YOU. You don't need to worry about what a bunch of people who DO NOT CARE about you, think of you. Do any- and everything in your power to help you move on, provided it doesn't physically hurt anyone! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Should I just keep on with my NC? Things are going good.Read, re-read, and tattoo on your forehead. Link to post Share on other sites
Chronotrgr Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Definitely block her, you don't need to see what's going on with her but don't go outta your way for her family, unless they've done you wrong, but y'know, do what you want. Who cares how it looks, not like your going back there is it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gingerlocks Posted August 29, 2015 Author Share Posted August 29, 2015 her family and mutual friends are blocked on facebook. What she did to me was wrong in so many ways. Now it's all about ME, ME and... ME. Link to post Share on other sites
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