max3732 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 We've been emailing back and forth for a while and will see each other in about a month and have plans for her and her parents to get together with me and mine in a few months. I'm in my 30's and she's in her 20's. When she asks "what's new", what are good things to bring up? I took her out and paid for her dinner a few times and get to see her a few times a year, but we're not dating and I haven't tried to kiss her yet. One thing that's new is I've gone on a few dates, but she's never mentioned any guys so I don't know if it's a good idea to mention girls. She's heads and shoulders above any girl I've met home. I was thinking maybe mention I've made some new friends. In general, what are good topics to get her interested in me romantically vs. a pen pal? Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Why are you guys having your parents meet if there is nothing serious going on? Maybe bring up that topic! I have plenty of female and male friends and there has never been a need for our parents to meet. The only situation I can see this being necessary is someone you are marrying. I'm not old fashioned though 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted August 24, 2015 Author Share Posted August 24, 2015 Why are you guys having your parents meet if there is nothing serious going on? Maybe bring up that topic! I have plenty of female and male friends and there has never been a need for our parents to meet. The only situation I can see this being necessary is someone you are marrying. I'm not old fashioned though It was actually her mom that suggested we meet. We were both on vacation with our parents and our families started talking and we've kept in touch. Our parents have become friends. That's also why I'm scared to death to try to kiss her or take too big a risk since she tells her parents everything and it gets back to mine. If I make a huge mistake and embarrass myself I'll jeopardize my parents friendship too. When I write back to her what can I say to create some kind of romance without overdoing it? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 If you want her interested in you NEVER tell her about the other women you are dating. Talk about the mundane if you have to. Mention a new song you heard on the radio. Discuss some new story / current you read about or heard on the news. Mention if you engaged in a hobby. Talk about hopes & dreams for the future. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted August 24, 2015 Author Share Posted August 24, 2015 If you want her interested in you NEVER tell her about the other women you are dating. Talk about the mundane if you have to. Mention a new song you heard on the radio. Discuss some new story / current you read about or heard on the news. Mention if you engaged in a hobby. Talk about hopes & dreams for the future. That's what I've been doing. How do I slowly go from that to making sure she's interested in me romantically? Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Faust Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I think just starting a casual conversation asking about her day wouldn't be too bad. On the days that I work my SO and I email constantly. I usually go in and initiate the email with asking him what is going on, and maybe some random thing on my brain. Sometimes I just start with a simple "plans for the day?" and we go from there. Basically let the conversation lead itself. Often just showing an interest in the other's life and being a good listener is enough to spark romance. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 That's what I've been doing. How do I slowly go from that to making sure she's interested in me romantically? Stop with the emails & texts. Call her. Talk on the phone. Flirt. Make arrangements to meet in person Link to post Share on other sites
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