Redhead14 Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Just curious, since you asked why I would be interested in someone whose not interested in me. What makes you think he isn't interested other than I haven't heard from him? It might help to clear this out. It doesn't matter, he booty called you twice. I would have blocked his number the first time he did that. I will not accept even one incident of disrespect from anyone. But, go ahead and call him, don't text him. You don't really have anything to lose either way. But be prepared for whatever he says or does. Link to post Share on other sites
Qboro90 Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Judging from your OP I didn't get the impression that he set out for you to be a booty call at all. In fact by what you said he was the one who put in ALL the work, always was the first to initiate contact and even asked you multiple times to reach out to him. If I were this guy then I would assume YOU weren't into ME. If he had to constantly make the first move to talk to you or hang out and then the only times you would hang out after a few months ended with you sleeping together then I'm sure you made it appear like you didn't want do date anyone. Everything you did makes it look like you wanted something casual. If a guy had to do all the work and is always the first one to text or call or to ask to hang out, eventually he's going to be like "screw this, she's not into me as much as I'm into her, I need to pull back and stop trying". Sounds like after several months he finally got to that point. And if he was posting stuff on social media that you figured were about you in terms of "love and feelings" posts then he was obviously very into you yet never got the validation from you that you felt the same. It's possible you can salvage it with him but it's going to require you doing some work. Not just asking him to hang out at each other's places. See if he's free to get dinner or drinks. Ask him to come out when your friends are doing something and have him join. Show him that you want more than just a booty call relationship with him. Don't sleep with him again if he turns you down when you ask these things. If he does then he has moved past his initial feelings and is just using you for sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Judging from your OP I didn't get the impression that he set out for you to be a booty call at all. In fact by what you said he was the one who put in ALL the work, always was the first to initiate contact and even asked you multiple times to reach out to him. If I were this guy then I would assume YOU weren't into ME. If he had to constantly make the first move to talk to you or hang out and then the only times you would hang out after a few months ended with you sleeping together then I'm sure you made it appear like you didn't want do date anyone. Everything you did makes it look like you wanted something casual. If a guy had to do all the work and is always the first one to text or call or to ask to hang out, eventually he's going to be like "screw this, she's not into me as much as I'm into her, I need to pull back and stop trying". Sounds like after several months he finally got to that point. And if he was posting stuff on social media that you figured were about you in terms of "love and feelings" posts then he was obviously very into you yet never got the validation from you that you felt the same. It's possible you can salvage it with him but it's going to require you doing some work. Not just asking him to hang out at each other's places. See if he's free to get dinner or drinks. Ask him to come out when your friends are doing something and have him join. Show him that you want more than just a booty call relationship with him. Don't sleep with him again if he turns you down when you ask these things. If he does then he has moved past his initial feelings and is just using you for sex. Absolutely this^^^ which is essentially the same thing I posted earlier (the post with all the bolds....lol). And note Qboro is a MAN. He understands how men think. Something to keep in mind while making your decision as to what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rosielar Posted September 8, 2015 Author Share Posted September 8, 2015 I forgot to keep posted. I ran into him the other day and he was really happy to see me. He asked me a couple of times WHY I haven't talked to him at all, why I never reach out for him. I couldn't figure out the right answer so I just told him that he hasn't either and he said that he is waiting for me and that he missed me. It was a short time spent with him as I was in a hurry but it was a great time. He slipped into the subject about us and asked me what we were doing last time/what to call it. I didn't get a heart to heart talk but yeah. I was thinking about reaching out for him and I might be able to talk as I'm definitely ready but I still don't understand why he has been waiting for me to reach out instead of doing it himself especially when he said that he missed me. This guy hasn't booty called me at all anymore btw. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted September 8, 2015 Share Posted September 8, 2015 Hm, well I'm thinking he booty calls me because he can go a day without talking to me (as it is now, not how it used to be) then hit me up late to come over and do "it" then wake up, cuddle for a bit, maybe have breakfast then it's time for me to go home. And then when he feel like it, he hits me up late again only to do it again especially if he knows that I'm going out. He straight up asked me if we could have sex one time he texted me late. This has only happened two times but he has tried three times though. I think it would've been different if I spent the day with him instead of him just texting me late and be like "come over" Where the HELL is your self respect? So not only do you happily give him sex late at night whenever he snaps his fingers, but you actually GO TO HIS PLACE, too? Do you do his laundry for him and wash his dishes while you're there? Jesus. When YOU start respecting yourself, maybe he'll respect you too. Until then, to him you're just a desperate fool who'll do his bidding anytime he asks. Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted September 8, 2015 Share Posted September 8, 2015 Soon to be three weeks.. I am interested but I'm not interested in what seems to be going on right now which is the booty calling, I don't know how to handle this situation? I was thinking about reaching out to him but I don't know what would be the right thing to say. I'm making a huge deal out of it, that's what I usually do. Any advice about that? I really appreciate everyone's advice it's been very helpful!! sign up on Tinder and have fun a guy that doesnt reach out after 3 weeks is either dead or not interested. sorry Link to post Share on other sites
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