If your husband thought your best friend was hot, would it bother you?

[WithOrWithoutYou]

Originally posted by Moose

Yeah, I think you need to put yout foot down and stop this, "harmless", flirting. That doesn't bother me so much as this:This whole post is about what you would never do to your best friend. What about your husband????? I know your situation, but this is something you never brought up, like you couldn't care less what cheating would do to him. Think about that for a second.

 

If you had read more of her posts, you would know that Monday's H probably deserves it, but still, divorce is the answer, not cheating or flirting with the best friend's H. It isn't right or fair to the best friend.

 

The best friend's H, or the other hand, probably isn't worth a damn either if he is suggesting that he stop by for sex whenever Monday's H was working and she wasn't. Yes, he was "kidding" - right. I wonder how fast he would have been over to Monday's house if she had said "come on by" instead of "no". The fact that she said no is all that made it into a joke.

 

And as a side note... Monday, you keep saying "MEN!", like being self-centered, emotionally abusive, cheating, insensitive, hurtful, uncaring, intentionally lousy-in-the-sack, egotistical jerks is peculiar to the male half of the species. Not all men are like that, and you should not paint all men with the brush that has been colored by what your husband, and your friend's husband, is like. It's just that both you and your best friend appear to have lousy taste in men (or if that is too harsh, at least both made one really big mistake). There are nice men out there, in addition to the jerks you both appear to have hooked up with. There are people who actually have loving, mutually supportive, equal relationships, where nobody offers to come over and have sex with someone else's spouse, or contantly looks at porn for gratification to play a head game with their spouse to make their spouse feel less sexually desirable, while taking no interest in having good sex with their spouse, and while totally not being into it when it does happen, and making her beg even for that. Luckily, you are still young, and it is not too late, but I digress... I don't think you choose to hear that kind of good advice when people give it. Perhaps at some point you will, before it is too late.