" I am letting my feelings fade"

[Versacehottie]

I told her the night before I was gona ask her to be official with me- that I had something important to talk with her about and she wanted to know what it was..and I told her its a surprise you will see tomorrow..and she asked if I was gona ask her to be my gf and I told her you will see tomorrow I don't wana spoil it.

 

so she def knew what I was gona ask her...that's why I was so shocked when she started giving me excuses and I reacted to all of that AFTER I let her say what she had to say..there was no..." but even if I am stating all of this I still want to be with you"

it was a straight up rejection :/

 

Ok so she was fed up with wanting to be your gf and possibly you in general before you asked. Maybe it wasn't the fight that sent her over the edge. She had probably settled in to the open relationship that you insisted on throughout the 6 month period. It's quite possible that you thought you were still dating without title and by this point she saw you as some sort of FWB. Clearly she was no longer interested in the title by the time you became ready to give it. It happens. Too little, too late.

[Qboro90]

I told her the night before I was gona ask her to be official with me- that I had something important to talk with her about and she wanted to know what it was..and I told her its a surprise you will see tomorrow..and she asked if I was gona ask her to be my gf and I told her you will see tomorrow I don't wana spoil it.

 

so she def knew what I was gona ask her...that's why I was so shocked when she started giving me excuses and I reacted to all of that AFTER I let her say what she had to say..there was no..." but even if I am stating all of this I still want to be with you"

it was a straight up rejection :/

 

 

Yea... We know.... You've explained this about 14 times already.

[UltimaWeapon]

Ok so she was fed up with wanting to be your gf and possibly you in general before you asked. Maybe it wasn't the fight that sent her over the edge. She had probably settled in to the open relationship that you insisted on throughout the 6 month period. It's quite possible that you thought you were still dating without title and by this point she saw you as some sort of FWB. Clearly she was no longer interested in the title by the time you became ready to give it. It happens. Too little, too late.

 

But it doesn't add up because she was very affectionate with me on Canada day, she was holding my hand, kissing me, she wanted to spend that day with me. She even left her friends and slept over at my place - why would someone who is fed up with the person do those things? It doesn't add up. she told my friends that day- I am waiting on him to make it official between us!. I literally asked her 3 days after the question.

 

I even told her when she asked me why now?

 

I told her a lot of time has passed- a good amount and we have spent a lot of time together..the feelings have really developed and I feel its right for us to take the next step especially after being together on Canada day and her sleeping over..and to give us a title since u wanted this all along. I told her in my eyes you were always my GF and it was heading in that direction... I just want to make sure you know where I stand now.

 

And shes like but why do I have to be in one when you want one now?

 

After she asked me that I told her like well is this not what you wanted all along? That is why I knew it was on me to make the next step and make it official between us because you already brought it up before. So I am telling you now where I stand and that I want us to be together

 

and that is when she started giving me all those excuses.

 

I reacted to all of this AFTER--and there was no YES from her- it was a straight up rejection

 

 

Versace...

 

all I told her during the argument was that she was giving me excuses, she had no idea what she wanted, she apperently flip flops her feelings now..and she says one thing does another, shes spoiled...and I told her i don't deserve this after 6 months- and that if she had any issues why didn't she tell me or leave instead of dropping all this on me.

 

and that she was playing games with me now

 

and I said you basically killed all of this now because U completely caught me off guard with this and how am I suppose to trust your word or read you?

 

Yeah, I yelled this and was angry and I regret doing that but at the time I couldn't help my emotions. I was really hurt that she was doing this.

 

It was our first real fight in 6 months- I had the right to be angry considering her excuses and how she acted towards me " Why should I be in a rel. when YOU want too"

 

I asked her during the argument- do you want to be with me? What do you want? and she couldn't give me an answer

" I don't know"

" I want you to wait because I waited for you"

 

You don't say those things to someone you want to be with lol or someone you are supposedly "exclusively" seeing

 

I could tell something wasn't right....

 

It's like she was trying to punish me for making her "wait" and get back at me..that is the vibe I got.

Edited August 28, 2015 by UltimaWeapon

[Versacehottie]

oh ultima, you are ruminating. You won't solve it. It's not a riddle. She didn't want to be with you by the time you asked, bottom line. As confused as you are by her behavior those last few days, she may have been by yours during the previous 5 months.

 

I do think you should switch to the breakup forum because there you can discuss your pain. In dating, I got no answer that's going to make this right. Tons of plausible reasons which you do not want to accept because you are only seeing things from you point of view. Frankly it feels childish and selfish and I can see some reasons why she wouldn't want this big prize that you finally decided to give.

 

Relationships are risk. Hearts get hurt. You need to find ways to move on. good luck