First Intimate Encounter

[StarDust75]

Hi,

 

As this is my first post here a little background.

 

I have been in a LDR with a man from another country (around 9500 miles away) for the past 9 months.We skype (cam) nightly, text a couple of times during the day etc.

 

Everything has been going great, never a bad word as been spoken between the two of us and not only his he my love but also my best friend. I should add we are both divorced parents and are both 40.

 

In 6 weeks time I will be flying to meet him for the first time and will be spending two weeks together. I am so excited!!

 

Ok *deep breaths* the thing is he is always telling me how beautiful I am both inside and out and makes me feel very special. I know that it is very likely we will be intimate together, which I want very much but the thing is that after having 3 children well my stomach has come off second best.. no wait 3rd best. Heck.. it's a sunken souffle!

 

Now please bear in mind.. I haven't been intimate with anyone for two years and the last time I was with someone other than my husband was 11 years ago. I am so nervous about him seeing me naked. I am not grossly overweight but would like to lose a little weight (I'm like a diet machine atm!) but no matter how much weight I do lose my stomach is only something I plastic surgeon would love! lol

 

So just asking for advice. Would you say something casually about it to him before I leave for my trip? (even though of course I know it's not a deal breaker!) or would you just not say a thing? Yes I am aware is a minor thing in perspective of everything but it's playing on my mind. What would you do? and males... what would you think?

 

[ExpatInItaly]

Don't say anything - waltz in there like you own the room (and bed!) and rock it!

 

You earned your body. Be proud of it. If he is really into you, it won't phase him. You mentioning it will only draw attention to your insecurity. If you don't make a big deal of it, he won't either. Also, if he is a parent too, he will understand how a woman's body changes after pregnancy. I don't think it's going to be an issue at all

 

Keep up the healthy eating and exercise over the next couple weeks. That's always boosted my confidence. Choose the clothes and underthings that make you feel your best and work it!!

[StarDust75]

Don't say anything - waltz in there like you own the room (and bed!) and rock it!

 

You earned your body. Be proud of it. If he is really into you, it won't phase him. You mentioning it will only draw attention to your insecurity. If you don't make a big deal of it, he won't either. Also, if he is a parent too, he will understand how a woman's body changes after pregnancy. I don't think it's going to be an issue at all

 

Keep up the healthy eating and exercise over the next couple weeks. That's always boosted my confidence. Choose the clothes and underthings that make you feel your best and work it!!

 

Thank you so much!! It's exactly what I was thinking. Your reply has already given me a confidence boost.

[Satu]

You are a Goddess.

 

Wear the signs your life has left on your body with honour and self-respect.

 

Do your diet and exercise, but don't think for a moment that you're not wonderful just as you are.

 

Love,

 

Satu

[StarDust75]

You are a Goddess.

 

Wear the signs your life has left on your body with honour and self-respect.

 

Do your diet and exercise, but don't think for a moment that you're not wonderful just as you are.

 

Love,

 

Satu

 

Thank you very much Satu. I have to admit I am proud of my "sunken souffle" I am grateful that I have been gifted the ability to have brought 3 beautiful and healthy children into this world.

[emi]

Heck, i dont have any child yet and my tummy still sticking out like a sore bump.

I work out for months now but still incredidably hard to lose it.

Given your time left so little to prepare i think there isnt much you can do except just go with the flow.

I hope you will have a nice time

[OnlyHonesty]

Supplementing with Collagen Hydrolysate, 2 table spoons a day may make a difference. Look it up. A guy mentions it here or just Google 'collagen hydrolysate stretch marks' and read other stuff.

 

Not for vegans though.

Edited August 27, 2015 by OnlyHonesty

[moys]

If he loves you, he won't care about your tummy and he'll think you're the most gorgeous girl in the world. Just be confident and don't worry so much about something that's totally natural. I'm sure your tummy is beautiful.

[fred123]

i am confused as to the mix messages women give on here.

i was told it was normal in my situation for the girl to fly to see me with her friend but here OP is flying by herself and already talking about being intimate with him.

 

whats the difference? !

[Lois_Griffin]

i am confused as to the mix messages women give on here.

i was told it was normal in my situation for the girl to fly to see me with her friend but here OP is flying by herself and already talking about being intimate with him.

 

whats the difference? !

I'm going to assume it's because the OP is 40 and has a lot more life experience than you. I'm assuming you're much younger?

[lwalter]

Don't mention it at ALL. Be comfortable when you're naked. It doesn't matter how you look if you're confident naked. So just walk in there and own the room!