TMichaels Posted September 8, 2015 Share Posted September 8, 2015 I have to admit, I am somewhat apprehensive about the whole thing and about her to some degree. She lied on her profile about being divorced. Come to find out she has been separated from her husband for three years, but the divorce has never been finalized. She admits to having feelings for her ex still. I still have feelings for her and would love to visit London, but I sure as h-ll do not want to buy a $1,500-$2,000 ticket for something that may go sideways. I mean traveling to a foreign country by myself to stay with a woman I have never met in IRL is risky right? What type of contingency plan do I put together? Am I dumb for still keeping in touch with this woman and considering it? Hold it! I take back everything I said earlier about travel arrangements and plans. There's NO WAY or reason why you should be making this trip. You're nothing but an idle diversion to her. She's lied to you and from what you've most recently shared, she sounds like she more issues than one might ever imagine. I repeat: DO NOT spend one more second or a dime on this lunatic. Cut the cord, enjoy your e-Harmony date, and move on. Best, TMichaels P.S. Next time when you ask for advice, please share as much background info as possible up front so that others on the forum truly understand the situation and the dynamics. Inconsiderate to do otherwise when people are taking time to try and help you and only have half the facts involved. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted September 9, 2015 Share Posted September 9, 2015 Wait... this lady is married? Yeah... I'm pretty sure your biggest problem isn't how/where/when to meet. Go NC ASAP, IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lobouspo Posted September 9, 2015 Author Share Posted September 9, 2015 Thanks guys. It's over. Our last conversation was not pleasant but oh well. I've deleted my viber and whatsapp account , so no contact should be easy. When I brought up her being married, she got upset. Still didn't think it was a big deal if she eventually told people. Good Riddance 1 Link to post Share on other sites
karinelove Posted September 13, 2015 Share Posted September 13, 2015 In an earlier post I wrote about a woman I met online who lives in London. I live in the Southwest United States. We talk for hours every day pretty much, and text a lot as well. Additionally, we video chat nearly every day. Given that we're so far apart, I know this thing is a longshot, and I don't want to waste much more time or emotionally energy than I already have. We've tentatively discussed meeting up late October, early November, as she is a contractor, and expects her latest project to end at that time. Lately, she's been kind of wishy washy on meeting. First, she wanted me to travel to London, than she wanted to travel to my home city. Now she's saying she would rather I travel over there. Also the other day, she said she had no plans on meeting me in October, and stated she would be going to Australia to help a friend with a newborn baby she's having. She later admitted she just said that to upset me, because she was mad I didn't message her all afternoon. If she flakes on meeting in October while she has time off work, should I just call it a wash and move on? my opinion on the matter is that you and her need to just come to an agreement on where and when you will meet and stop switching back and forth, if you really want the relationship to work you have to give it all you got. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted September 13, 2015 Share Posted September 13, 2015 So she was married? I hope you didn't send her money. Seems like a scam! Date women in your area. Starting as long distance sends a LOT of red flags. Link to post Share on other sites
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