Married + Baby boy but going to hookers Weekly! [updated 2017]

[preraph]

Just take yourself to a psychologist and find out what's really going on. 

[smi11ie]

What a tragic marriage.  These hookers are sucking all the money and energy away from your wife.  Do you really think she doesn't feel that something is off?  Do everyone a favor and divorce her. You can still have your hookers and a good relationship with your son but the way you are hoodwinking your wife is just callous.  You are not going to stop until you face consequences but you are too cowardly to expose yourself. 

[SincereOnlineGuy]

On 10/10/2019 at 10:24 AM, linqer said:

Addiction has many faces

 

Its no so simple as you describe it

 

Sure heroin is addictive.

 

Sugar is addictive ? Sigaurete ? Porn ? Weed ?

 

For you non of them is addictive, altough many people suffer from them, try to quite many times without success

 

Only heroin or meth is addctive because you decide so

 

What about gambling, they enjoy thier time, flying from 5 star hotels to other, it must not be addiction because its nit heroin

 

You have no understanding of addiction... which is measured entirely by how it affects the rest of your life.

 

It doesn't matter how many Wheaties  you consume until such point as when your consumption of Wheaties has an adverse effect on the rest of your life.

 

Spending your entire paycheck on Wheaties is FINE, and not an addiction...  until it means you cannot pay the rent or the mortgage... and are for related reasons forced to move, and/or do something you don't wish to do.

 

 Now in the case of working girls... if it is negatively affecting your life at home, THEN it is an addiction.

 

Some people spend HOURS every week sitting in a boat and fishing...   they are not, usually, addicted to fishing... although they could be.

 

 

[linqer]

almost 3 years went by

no new kids.. 

2020 and 2021 were crazy

I had sex 3 times a week, sometimes even 4 

I went out for dates with fabulous young girls and cheated 

I had group of guys that we were super focus on sex 

I confess to support group and managed to quite the dating (6 month clean from that)

last month I stopped the relationship with the friends that are sex addict

now I still go to around 1 hooker  weekly 

last two weeks I didn't go, my sex drive to go after I confess to my close friends (support group) went down 

I was close to divorce my wife but after a work on the relationship we got closer and now there is intimacy and warm feeling in the house

also those 3 years I mad tons of money and my professional skilled got improved a lot

and I have 6 pack abs and also more developed emotionally- I go every two weeks to group where we share our feelings, no secrete there in order to grow and support each other

anyway I am consider to go to sex consulting 

I was in one group session with sex consulting few months ago and it reduced my urge to go hookers significantly 

so was two-three years totally crazy 

now I am at the point where I appreciate my wife and family more than any other point I had in my life 

so I had huge decline since 2020 and consistently reduce bad habbit in last 6 months 

[linqer]

*money is not issue we have more than we need and I still work with tons of passion

[Wiseman2]

12 minutes ago, linqer said:

anyway I am consider to go to sex consulting .I was in one group session with sex consulting few months ago and it reduced my urge to go hookers significantly 

Sex Addicts Anonymous  is a twelve-step program  for people who want to stop their addictive sexual behavior. There also exists a group known as COSA, for those who have been impacted by others' sexual addiction.

See if this helps:

https://saa-recovery.org/am-i-a-sex-addict/

[basil67]

I think it's great that you're seeing a therapist.   If you find that it doesn't resonate, remember that there are different approaches in therapy, so if you don't succeed, try another.   

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